Are you bothered by PDA or public display of attention?

@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
September 29, 2011 1:42am CST
Well, it depends. I am a showy person. I love to hold hands. I love to hold my love by the arms, shoulders, or waist. I love to lean. And yes, even in public. What I would not do is kiss 'lips to lips' in public. Even if it is just a smack. Especially now that I am over forty! When I was younger, I had to admit, I am more adventurous like I steal a kiss even in front of our friends. Oh, youth! How about you, mylotters? Are you bothered by PDA?
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23 responses
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
3 Oct 11
I see nothing wrong with kissing your partner in public. It is human to do that. I also hold hands with my girl. I am not very animated or do that all the time, but I do that some times. I would consider that a public display of affection, not attention,
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
if it's a peck, i wouldn't mind. but as i said, this maybe is cultural, too. OMG! i was meaning to say PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION! the discussion has been going on for a time now, and i haven't noticed that i wrote ATTENTION, not AFFECTION. thank you for pointing out!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
thank you still. my son was laughing when i told him.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
4 Oct 11
Not a problem, I think everyone that responded got the point.
@jterrock (276)
• United States
30 Sep 11
I am not a fan of PDA. Holding hands is ok, but a full make out session is just gross! I don't want to see anyone making out and all over each other in public. In my opinion, that should be kept behind closed doors. I am one that doesn't even like to hold hands in public though. It just makes me uncomfortable. Everyone has their own comfort zone though.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
uncomfortable it is, but gross? i don't see it that way.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
it's okay, jterrock. not a thing to be sorry about. i just reacted to the word 'gross'.
@jterrock (276)
• United States
2 Oct 11
Sorry...only my opinion.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 11
In India, public display of attention is not so prevalent and normally people refrain from exhibiting and expressing their affection for their partners/friends at public places, however, exceptions are always there. I do not like to express myself in public, if am with my partner. I feel our home is the best place to show our love and affection for our partner.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 11
I agree.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
i think this is also cultural. it has to be understood that some norms are normal in some cultures while in some, they're not.
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Yes. Sometimes. It depends on what the couples are doing. I remember when I went out to a bay walk. I was waiting for my cousin that's why I'm there. The weather is so fine. I stayed under a mini coconut tree. When I looked at my right side, I noticed that each tree has a couple under it. Haha. I laugh because I'm the only one who doesn't have a partner but its okay. Then there is this really young couple who bothered me. I think they're too young to do those things. They're kissing so deep. Though only few people are there, people can notice it. They kiss when they think that no one is looking around and when someone sees them, they still continue what they are doing. Its a super public place. I was really bothered. They are the only couple who are kissing there and I can't take it. I don't want to look. They're really young to do it. When I had a boyfriend before, we only used to hold hands in public. That's all. Happy mylotting. Have a good day. :D
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
that is troubling. the cases of teens being involved in scandalous acts are growing in number day by day.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
yes, I am especially when young couples are involved. I just think of how would they parents would react seeing them that way? I am a parent and I am sure I will get upset to see my kid do this PDA. I am not conservative but it can be done privately where there's no people around to see them. Young people are always forgetful and unmindful of right ethics.
@mandze (13)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I see where you're coming from. Personally, I don't do anything I wouldn't do in front of my parents/relatives when I'm in public but I know there are a lot of people who definitely cross the line. Luckily, I live in an area where it doesn't happen too often so I don't have to deal with it too much.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
as a parent, one cannot help but be affected. the first time my daughter had a boyfriend, it was not easy for me learning about it and so i told her that i do not want her seeing holding hands or putting arms around each other and going to the malls alone. she was only 15 that time. mandze, i know someone who kissed her boyfriend while on the streets when she was a young teenager. i guess it really doesn't matter if it is done privately or in public for young people. they should not do it. period.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Sep 11
For me, it depends to what I see. There are some couple that looks so sweet when they are displaying their affection. But there are also some who are really irritating. I always see a couple doing too much Public Display of Affection that I want to shout "get a room" LOL. But for some, their cute to look at. :)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
they say, too much of everything is a poison!
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Sep 11
You are so right! :)
• United States
30 Sep 11
Its one ting to hold hands but to be out somewhere inhaling someones face is crazy. People find it inappropriate especially when children are around. I think all that is best left in private..
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
i agree, scarlet, they should be doing it in private.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
1 Oct 11
It depends. Sometimes people are so over the top, that they bother everyone. If you are bothering everyone, that's a bit rude. But most of the time, it doesn't bother me at all. Go for it.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
there are certain things that must be done in private like making out and french-kissing. as human beings, we are separated from the animal species, because we have the capacity to think and evaluate/assess things. otherwise, we do it like how the dogs and cats do, which is anywhere. it can't be helped, people around will be bothered, especially mothers who have their small children around. though i am not sure if this is truly a cultural thing, i would personally be affected if my children are around to see couples groping each other and kissing torridly in public. it is not because people are simply meddling with other people's affairs, it is the lack of consideration from these people that is bothersome.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
It depends on what kind of pda i'm seeing. If it's really torrid kissing and the couple are really touching each other passionately and looks like they're about to get naked, i couldn't stand that. However, if it's just a romantic kiss, holding hands, hugging, then i won't be bothered at all.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
same here, toni.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
I am not bothered by a simple holding of hands, or holding by the waist, or by a simple smack on the lips. I even get "tickled pink" seeing old couples still able to show affection for one another. But it's another thing to see couples engage in full-on groping or making out or french-kissing in public. I get so disgusted when I see people do that. It's not so prevalent here in the Philippines because most are conservative. But you do sometimes see that sort of thing, especially inside bars where the young and liberated ones frequent. Whenever I do see disgusting PDA, I just look away. But in my mind I go, "Get a room!"
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
hi, miadsoriano. it's getting worse nowadays, and they get younger by the day. the bold ones even dare challenge others 'what do they care' not thinking of how disgusting it could get.
• United States
1 Oct 11
I like holding hands and showing that you like a person, but I am not into the kissing stuff in public... I feel like telling people to get a room. It's annoying to me when people hang all over each other swapping spit in public.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
same here, PQ.
@helloiam (21)
• United States
30 Sep 11
I don't feel that displaying PDA in PUBLIC means anything. To me it's more like showing off in front of others that you don't suspect have a relationship going on. Sometimes I find it quite embarassing when I have to turn away a peck on the lips in public because I find it.. well embarassing. It really depends on the persons personality.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
it is embarrassing when it goes overboard.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
When I was single and a bit bitter about relationships, I was so against PDA. I hate it when couples kiss and hug tight in public. But everything changed when I met my husband. I show my love to him by means of kissing, hugging, holding his hands and just being close to me. So now, when I see other people doing it, as long as they are not so young, then it doesn't bother me anymore. =)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
oh, what love can do... thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Ag1220 (12)
• United States
30 Sep 11
I think most people including myself do not care about public displays of affection as long as they are reasonable. Like a kiss before you leave each other is fine but then there's other stuff I see people in my school doing which just crosses the line.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
exactly, when it crosses the line, it does feel uncomfortable for other people. hello, Ag1220! welcome to mylot!
@tessah (6617)
• United States
29 Sep 11
no.. im not bothered by public displays of Affection. i think its sweet to see a couple who love each other, which really is rare nowadays. im over 40.. and dont see why you should just stop being affectionate when you reach any age.. and that includes kissing. i really dont understand why everyone is so squeamish about it, cept for maybe they arent getting any themselves and are just envious of those who are
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
ha ha wow, that's a different take! maybe there are envious ones but there are conservative people, too. and as i'd mentioned, this can be a cultural thing. being confident showing love for each other is good but personally, extreme PDAs are way overboard.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Sep 11
Yup it bothers me. Can't help it but it does. Holding hands, and leaning, or just snuggling close, I'm fine with that. But when it becomes more intimate, I can't look. It just disturbs me. Makes me think that this couple probably quarrels each other a lot at home. Folks said so.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
ha ha that would be unfair for them to say that they express love outside because they quarrel a lot at home. it can be true in some partners but it's not conclusive.
• United States
29 Sep 11
No, it does not bother me depending upon the extent to which it is taken. I do not mind kisses in public - probably because I am an affectionate person. I will give my family and close friends hugs and kisses as greetings or good-byes, especially when I haven't seen them in a while. They are not "romantic" in nature, but they are still public displays of affection. It does make me feel a little uncomfortable when people put their hands on body parts that I do not think should be touched in public or if they look like they are trying to suck each others' faces off, but that is just my personal opinion.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
hi, purplealabaster. what a nice alias. ha ha i am laughing hard at the phrase 'trying to suck each other's faces'!
• United States
30 Sep 11
Yes I have a limit as to how much PDA I do display in public, while holding hands is okay with me. I find a quick smack kiss goodbye and or show of affection for me is fine. What I won't do is smooch intensely in public. I think getting intense while smooching is a bit over the top in public and at any age actually and should be done in private. I don't say anything to anyone when I see it but glad it is not me.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
when a couple feels like doing a torrid kiss, they should go find a room. things must be done at the right place..
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
29 Sep 11
Even I do hold my hubby hand or catch his shoulder when we go to market and in the crowded place too at this juncture I do not think that we are in the public and some one is watching us because I am more concern with my safety.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
it is a natural thing to do, to lean on hubby for support. one cannot be conscious about it.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
29 Sep 11
I reckon it's kinda cute when couples show some public affection. It shows that you're proud of your relationship and you're confident. I have a friend who likes to hold hands with her boyfriend and she sometimes jumps on his back and demands him tp piggy back her But if you're a third wheel then it kinda gets a little awkward because my friend started to kiss her boyfriend and my other friend with her just sat there and turned the other way because it was awkward. So that's why my friend now only kisses her boyfriend in private. Public affections are sweet as long as it doesn't get out of hand. I've seen very bold couples who have made out in public and touched in quite inappropriate places.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
oh, that would be too much making out, or touching, in public! it is not cute anymore! it is obscene!