Losing a Loved One

United States
October 1, 2011 3:00am CST
As some of you know I had just lost my niece Tina to illness. She passed away in March of 2011. She is the one who started me on mylot and many other things in life. We where more like sister's then aunt and niece. So, this is the first time I have been back on here since her death. I needed time to cope with her not being here or answering my millions of silly questions on my writing. How do you cope with the loss of a loved one? Do you withdraw from others or do you get drunk? What do you do? Please let me know! In loving memory of my niece Tina / Twoey68 *Stand Strong in your Beliefs* **Peace and Love gets you through everything in Life**
3 people like this
8 responses
@Pose123 (21660)
• Canada
1 Oct 11
Hi Carpathian, Please accept my condolences and I'm very sorry to hear that twoey has passed away, I don't remember hearing it before. I have lost many friends and relatives over the years, the latest being my brother less than three weeks ago. It's never easy but don't withdraw from others or get drunk, neither is the answer. Friends, true friends, will help you feel better but drinking will only damage your health and waste your money. You will find that time is the great healer. I'm pleased that you have returned to myLot as I'm sure you have many friends here. Be strong. Blessings.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Oct 11
Yes, I am working through it and no I have not taken up drinking only took time away from mylot and other places on line for awhile. But, I am back and going to try to carry on the things that my niece shared with me to carry on her memory. **Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life**
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Oct 11
Sorry, about your brother and all your loses! Hope that Tina is with them and looking down on us from on high!
1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (57356)
• United States
1 Oct 11
I'm very glad to see you back. I remember when I heard Twoey had passed away. I was so shocked. And I am sorry you had to deal with this loss. How is her family doing? And are you doing better?
@AmbiePam (57356)
• United States
1 Oct 11
And the last time I lost someone close to me I cried. And cried. Every night for about a year the tears came. And finally one day it got a little easier.
• United States
1 Oct 11
Thank you for caring. I am doing better and her family is doing better. I think her mom still has a hard time sometimes because is was so fast. I was talking to her on Friday then, she was gone by Monday. It was like no warning. But, I am working through it and so is her family. I did not cry as much as I just stopped wanting to do the things that we did together. Glad to hear from you again Pam it has been awhile. **Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life**
1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (57356)
• United States
1 Oct 11
It is one of those things that when it happens you can't wrap your head around it. She wasn't even my family, but it bothered me so much I had a dream about her. She fostered children, didn't she?
@mods196621 (3656)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
We all had the same experienced of losing someone we love and that is really a hard time for us to cope up. For me i let the memory running on to my mind even it makes hurt. The reason was to make me immune in his memory and if i got immune i know that i am facing the reality and i can easily accept the situation. I know that its hard to do but we need too. When my father passed away that makes us hard to forget but we must need. The first thing my sister done was change the settings of our home. From the windows to the floor. and others follow. For me i let the memory flows and if i feel i like to cry so i cried loudly then after that i feel good. I didnt forget all memories...
• United States
1 Oct 11
Well, I am sorry to hear about you father and I hope you work through the pain. I will do my best to carry on everything that my niece shared with me. **Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life**
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
condolence T_T :( just think that your niece is in good hands and that she will be happy in her next life. Don't get yourself drunk as it will not help you forget the memories you share with your niece, (and you're jut wasting your money). Treasure the bond and memories you have with your niece do not try to forget it as it will only hurt you more. Try to move on without forgetting your niece. Be Happy !! :D
• United States
1 Oct 11
I will do my best as I have a photo of her on my desk to remind me of what a wonderful person she was. It took awhile for me to get back to doing anything that reminded me of her because I would start crying. But, now I realize that she is in a better place and hopefully she will watch over me and still help me with my writing. I will try to be happy! **Peace and Love gets you through everything in Life**
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
2 Oct 11
I'm very sorry about your niece.Getting drunk does not help anything. The problem is still there. I don't think anything but time helps. I have lost most all my family & it's hard but time does help u get use to the idea.
@kat744 (75)
• Kenya
2 Oct 11
So sorry to hear about you niece passing, may she rest in peace. I lost my immediate brother early in may and up to now an still mourning. Its hard to let go but but after sometime, it gets better. Now I can mention his name and talk about him with a smile. This is because I feel him deep in my heart and I know he will always be there. Take your time to mourn because the same time will heal you.
@rose1717 (190)
• United States
2 Oct 11
I am so sorry that your niece has passed from this life. I'm sorry that you are having a hard time with this and hope it gets better for you. You know she is still with you and will always be. One day you will be able to meet again, and it will be like nothing has changed.
• Malaysia
2 Oct 11
I'm so sorry to hear about that Carpathian. Hope you will always look forward. Tina will become an angel and always accompany u in your heart. As I know losing a loved one really breaks my heart. Till now I still very regret because I cannot go back to see my grandmother for the last sight. She passed away because of cancer. I still remember that time I need to sit for my Final Exam in my University. But that time my parents advise me not to go back since my grandmother already in a emergency situation. How to do? I have been located in different state which is far away from my hometown. So, I just can pray hard for my grandmother. But, God still take away her life. Its already 2 years plus she left. I know I cant do anything, I just hope she will become a better person in the next century or next world.