Friends who neglect themselves!
By knittingpro
@knittingpro (289)
Canada
October 3, 2011 1:49pm CST
Have you ever had a friend who went out of the house looking like they just rolled out of bed. I had a friend who never took care of how they looked. Never put on a bit of makeup to cover the black under their eyes. Because they were over weight they wore clothes that made them look bigger. I don't have an issue with over weight people I have many friends including myself who could stand to lose a few pounds. I like to have my hair done, put on atleast a little lipstick and dress nicely. I find it quite embarrassing to be seen out with someone who is frumpy because they CHOOSE to be. I have the same friend make fun of me because I care what I look like. It's unfortunate that we are judged on how me look.
4 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
I am glad that i don't have a friend like that. It's always that my friends will always be presentable whenever they are to go to the house or us on an outing.
I think as their friends, you should be honest enough to advise them on how to handle the way they look. Just do it lovingly though, so they won't get offended.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
It always goes with the saying "tell me who your friends are and i tell you who you are". Hence, if all your friends seems sloppy, then people would also think you are too, even if you are not.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
5 Oct 11
People judge you on who your friends are. It's sad but it's life. If you are they have poor behaviors and any other negative qualities then people think you do as well.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
I don't anymore. I agree with your response. It takes very little to be presentable plus it makes you feel god about yourself.
@joystick (1675)
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3 Oct 11
I have a few large friends, as well as friends that tend to like to keep their shape hidden.I feel that it is up to the person who is wearing the clothes to make the choice in what they are happy to wear, after all you make the choice of the clothes you wear.I see people that wear tarty clothes when they go out, they are the people that get a worse name for themselves, not the frumpy kind of people.If you feel ashamed of going out with the person that you say is your friend, then the easy answer is go out with someone else.If i had a person like you as a friend, i would be classing you as not a nice or good friend, as this person may have other problems in their life.I would never be embarassed about any of my friends, no matter what, or who they were or what they looked like.Perhaps you are out to impress a person and they are happy and do not feel like they have to impress any person at all.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
True Joystick. I'm not saying a person can't dress to be comfortable at all. There is a difference between tarty and not caring how you present yourself. We live in a time that you are judged by your appearance. I would much rather take a few minutes before I go out the door to look presentable. I don't think calling me a bad friend because I stated an opinion is fair or nice. To each their own on not caring what they look like. I however do care what I look like. Anyone can go out in comfortable clothes but they don't have to look like a slob either.
@joystick (1675)
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17 Oct 11
You did state thatyou were the one that was embarressed by your friends dress code, i said that a true friend, would not worry what a friend had on when they were seen together.Everyone has their own tastes in what they wear, how they look and how they act.If the friend is happy, then why worry, as their happiness is what really counts to me, not what they wear, if they go to the hair dressers, get their nails done, wear lippy.Perhaps your friend may feel like your life is not happy, like you said perhaps their life is not great in responses on here.Perhaps your friend may feel that you have the need to try to impress others, but she do not have to impress people with how she looks.My friends are picked by the people they are not what they look like, as they say looks are only skin deep, its the person inside that people notice a lot more.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
20 Oct 11
Everyone makes choices for themselves. I choose to look my best because I have a great life. I dress to impress me. How I look on the outside is how I feel on the inside. Negative comments don't impact me we all have opinions!
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
4 Oct 11
Hello knittingpro
Yes, I have a male friend who don't care that how he looks or what he is wearing.Although I also don't like to watch myself to look properly always even I don't buy new cloths not in a year but my friend is above me.I know the reason behind our carelessness as I am a workaholic I don't think that looking good is necessary for life or it does matter to my thoughts but even it reflects to my life in all way that I don't have any girlfriend ever but who cares.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
I just think if we are going out side of our homes we should take a few minutes to look presentable. It is a personal preference and I accept that!
@rmendoza123 (637)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
So far my friends are very fashionable and nice in their clothing. That's a good thing for me because I can get along with them, they can teach me too isn't it?
But I know someone exactly what you have described right here. She doesn't care about her looks, she's always telling me "I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS MIGHT TELL ABOUT ME."
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
People do care what they present to the world. I don't care how many say they don't. I have friends of all sizes and I'm thankful knowing when we go out they look as good on the outside as they feel on the inside!!!
