My father in law is selling my late husbands car

@shaggin (71663)
United States
October 6, 2011 8:09pm CST
I dont know why but it kind of makes me sad that my father in law is selling my husbands car. My husband died March 22. Its been 6 months. My father in law loaned my husband 1000 towards the car which my husband never paid back. Then he co-signed the loan so my husband could get the car. After my husband died my father in law was left with about $3000 to pay off on the car. I understand him selling it especially if he just has no need for it. Its just kind of sad. I think thats pretty much all he had left of my husbands. Everything else that he took he sold or it was lost in the flood. So this is kind of the last thing he had of him besides a few photos. I shouldnt be sad but I just cant help it. I will never say anything to him about this. I am not upset with him for selling the car. Its his now he can do what he wants with it. I'm half tempted to give him the $4000 and buy the car off him but since I have a van for at least the next year I wont be able to drive it now and I have no garage to store it in so it would just sit and get rusty for about a year in a half before I drove it so it really is pointless. I guess the reason its hard for me to see his car being sold is just because it has memories. He took me in it to take our kids to see his mothers grave. I drove it to maryland with him and the kids. We had split up so I wasent in the car very much but it was a car that looked good on him. It fit him well and he was so excited when he got that car. It was big and safe for the kids to ride in. Its a 1999 chevy cavalier. It has about 960,000 miles on it. Its in really nice shape.
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@romscabs (310)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
I think you should just let your father in law sold it. However, if you feel you are sad that the car will be sold to someone else and you have the money to repay your father in law, then you can just buy the car and give him the money. I understand the car is the only thing that is left but if your father in law needs the money to repay the loan, then you should let him do it. At least you have the pictures of it to keep. Just cherish the memories!
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@shaggin (71663)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Well I have the important things like my husbands artwork and things like that. I just meant for my father in law the car is all he had left of his son. I am letting him sell it I would never give him a hard time about it. Its his now to do what he wants with it. Its just makes me kind of sad to see it being sold. I do have the money to buy it. He has a lot of money he isnt selling it because he needs the money hes probably just selling it because he has like 7 vehicles and doesnt need all of them.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
14 Oct 11
With that many miles on it....I don't think you want that car anyway. LOL I thought you are divorced or were separated from this guy? What does it matter about a car? I understand you need to have a few things to remember the kid's father with....but other stuff....just because he owned it...why do you want it? Maybe you are still in love with this guy? This is why you can't part with his things?
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Oct 11
It's always hard to move on. I understand that you're a bit sad with your FIL selling the car. It already has sentimental value, and it's surely worth more than whatever the bluebook value says it is. But you'll get over this too. And like how you've been so strong for over six months that he's been gone, this part of moving-on will also just make you even stronger.
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@shaggin (71663)
• United States
15 Oct 11
Yes everything we have to go through in life teaches us a lesson and makes us stronger so they say. I've gotten through something I didnt think I could but I'm still struggling at times. I am not sad with my father in law for selling the car I'm just sad in general. Its his car now he can do what he wants with it. Its just hard to see it being sold you know.