Is it better to get more friends?
By inniewong
@inniewong (42)
China
October 8, 2011 10:37am CST
Many people like to meet new friends, thinking it's good for their life. I kind of doubt it. Some people says that the more friends you have made with, the more enemies you got. I think the reasons might be like these:
If you make friends with someone, his old friends might be jealous when they feel like you are closer to him then they do.
When you do get close to a person, sometimes he could get mad at you for ,maybe, some misunderstandings. But he won't let you know and will complain about it to his friends. This can make those people think you are an awful person though they don't know you at all.
And the worst is, when you break up with a close friend who knows everything about you. He can hurt you really bad because he knows all your secrets and weaknesses.
I hope these won't happen to me cuz I do love all close friends that I already have. But I just can't help worrying about these when meeting people. Am I weird to have thoughts like that? What do you think about this?
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4 responses
@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 11
I don't think the number matters. Instead of counting how many you got, I think you must worry on who among those are true to you. For me, one true friend is better than a thousand of backbiting, dishonest, and opportunistic ones.
@naim_foroodi01 (95)
• India
8 Oct 11
i completely second you in that..
I also have just a handful of friends but who really do matter and i know who will be there at all times.
Its quality that matters, not quantity.
@inniewong (42)
• China
8 Oct 11
You are right. Quality, not quantity. Maybe I don't have a lot of friends but I know who are true to me. I feel so lucky to have them in my life.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
8 Oct 11
I think it depends on individuals. Some people are the outgoing type and they probably wld prefer to hv more friends. So to them, it might be better to get more friends. On the other hand, some people are more introverted and they don't need a lot of friends. So, to them, it might not be better to hv more friends.
I think your worry is valid (and so I don't think you're weird to hv those thoughts) but then you shldn't let it bother you too much.
@inniewong (42)
• China
8 Oct 11
Thank you for saying that. I think I'm introverted. But most of the people who know me always say that I'm very outgoing. Confused.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
18 Oct 11
U r welcome. I think e reason why u come across s someone who's very outgoing is because u r with pp who know u well or pp whom u r comfortable with. But try surrounding yourself with total strangers and see what happens. If u r truly e outgoing sort, U'll not hv problem mingling with these total strangers. But if u feel uncomfortable in such a situation, then u're most likely an introvert or u r more predisposed to being an introvert. There's nothing wong with being an introvert anyway. :)
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
8 Oct 11
I think if you have a real good friend, that is enough for life.
I use many social networking websites and have many friends there, but most of them are not even in the state to have a talk with me. What is the use of having this number in the list. Even in real life if you meet a person who was your colleague ever, you could have a talk on coffee. But today to have big number of fans is really not good.
@inniewong (42)
• China
8 Oct 11
That's true. Friends on the internet can never be compared with those friends who can talk to you face to face. You can look straight into his eyes or hold his hands.
