lost friendship, best friends no more,

First I am sorry to hear you have been through all those hard times. It must be confusing with your friend and if I were you I would just try to be friends and if she doesn't respond just understand people have their own challenges to deal with. Depending how close you were, you might even ask her how she feels and what has changed. Perhaps it’s just a misunderstanding or maybe she has changed. But finding out is often a way to clear up your confusion about the relationship. All the best to you.

I have several had close friends during my life. Some lasted a few years, some many years. I am glad I had them as I am glad I have the friends I have now. But it comes a times where you have to move on. Remember the good times you had together but don´t try to go back in time. Your lives have parted and you are now walking on a different road. You will always remember her, and I bet she will too. But there´s no need to insist on something that it is not natural. Maybe a call once or twice a year to see how she is is all you need. And if she doesn´t answer back, go on with your life.

The friendships of youth often don't hold up to the wear of life. It may just be that life has taken you in different directionss. I have a friend like this but even after 40 years we still enjoy occasional contact. If for no other reasons then to review our past and have a good laugh.

A true friend will be there for you no matter what, through the good times and the bad. If I was in this situation I would just let it go because it seems as if she might be a bit jealous of your relationships. She could feel as if you don't have time for her anymore since you're in a relationship and you have kids. I would try to talk to her and let her know that you would like to be friends and you want her to be there for you. If she is going to just jump in and out of your life then it might not be worth the trouble of talking to her about it. If you want her in your life then just let her know, and then it will be up to her. If she doesn't want to then just go on with your life and take care of your kids. Friendship isn't necessary in life though it's nice to have.

If she really is a true friend, she would want to be a part of your life. She would want to know what's happening with you, whether good or bad. She would want to always keep in touch with you and would help you even if you are under a tough time. She would want to share with you her happiness. Try to talk to her and tell her how much her friendship really means to you and if she doesn't care or even give a hint of it, then I guess, she doesn't deserve your friendship.

That doesn't sound right. The most essential thing in a friendship is consistency. Your friend should always be a friend regardless of the times. However, perhaps you should give her the benefit of doubt. In what way have you lost touch with her? Does losing touch include you calling her but she does not give a response? Does it sound that she is avoiding you at certain times, or she just happens to be busy herself? No matter how good a friendship is, losing touch is very common, especially after school. If she has her own family, it becomes even more common. Friends do come and go. Whereas they may always be your friend, but the reality is, they may not always be with you physically. The best thing to deal with it is to gain more friends and be with those who are currently available. If you sense that your friend's behavior is beyond normal, then you should consider talking to her.

I don't know Tmulley but it takes two. I do know that. My best friend has been my best friend since we were 12. We are now 55 and she is STILL my best friend in all the world. We made a pact back when we were kids to not let anything or anyone come between our friendship...even us. Life has at times taken us down very different paths and we are very different people. There have been times when I've been so caught up in my own stuff that I didn't put much time into the friendship and same with her. One of us always made the effort to re-connect. Over the years, I have to say that I don't regret any of the times that I was the one that made that extra effort and I'm grateful for the times that she did. She wasn't there for many of my milestones (good and bad) but I guess I probably missed out on some of hers as well. Still..we had history and some awesome memories and she is a wonderful friend...can't imagine my life without her in it. Currently our lives are so very busy that we haven't seen each other in nearly a month. Our friendship is strong enough that I'm not worried. We'll catch up. I did e-mail her last night just to keep in touch. I think that you should contact your friend.

Well, i don't see anything wrong with the friendship. Sometimes we are busy with our personal things that we lost contact with our best and closest friends, but it doesn't mean that the friendship is also lost then. Just keep the friendship ...

Friend it is sad but no one is your best friend in the world other than God because they never leave us alone. Ohhh you lost you son that is very bad but how? Dont miss her she was not good.

Basicaly everyone would need a best friend. That is one of basic human needs. If we ever have a best friend in a past time, then coused of something that is separated, do not worry, one day will surely meet again in unexpected situations. But more importantly,it's do not ever stop looking for friends and friendshif, because as a humans we really need it.