love dies....

Sadly when two people are very close for along time the love really does die, because you're so use to each other. I would say take a break from seeing each other, then you'll miss each other hopefully.

I wish I had some helpful advice to give you. I'm kind of in the same boat. With 3 kids, a mortgage and van payment, our bills have just been always on top of us. So my husband works a lot to keep us going. I stay home with the kids because till I'd pay for daycare I wouldn't be bringing home any money anyways. We've drifted apart and then done some things we both regret. Now we are stuck in this rut where we aren't happy and we don't know if we want out to start fresh or not. I've been trying to do things to rekindle the marriage but I can't get much of an effort from him which discourage me. Then when I think its over I get scared and I want it to work. So I don't know if it's the love or the fear of starting over. I do know I couldn't handle seeing him with someone else.

My husband and I have been together since we were only 15 years old and we are now nearing 40. Just last year there wasn't a day that went by that we weren't at each other's throats about one thing or another. We were on the verge of divorce. We had spoke of counseling many times before but never took the time until we saw just how close we were to losing each other. I'm not saying our marriage is perfect now but we haven't mentioned divorce in more than six months. It is difficult and both people must be willing to put effort into it or the marriage is surely going to self destruct. Good luck!!!

Marriage ... the two become one. As I do not always love myself, I expect neither myself to always love anybody else nor anybody else to always love me. Think of the wheat-farmer during the winter that seems to last forever. His fields have no life in them; but is it a sign that he should sell the farm? Love is a nice little extra-bit of Marriage. Sure, Love opens your eyes to the goodness of the spouse; but your appreciation of that goodness should persist through this forever-winter.

It is not the love that is dying but the "falling in love". After falling in love you see and discover other parts of each other, you share your life, you have your ups and downs. Weird thing is the promise in good and bad times is made but if it comes to the bad times we give up. Why? Because it's so easy to separate nowadays even if that hurts way more as staying together. How to find the way back to eachother? Many couples do. Some by talking, other by not talking at all about everything. The never ending talking can ruin a lot too. People get tired of talking, also it's useless if there is no solution to turn the table from one moment to the other. The best thing for both is to make a list what you like(d)/love(d) about the other one. If there are some annoying/really hurting things write them down and make a compromis about it. Stop the talking/discussing about everyting and hold on to the knowledge you know the other one is loving you and so are you. Keep in mind that it is frequently not easy to explain in words what you really feel, if you know at all what you feel (mostly it's confusion). This is an other good reason not to start any discussion or question (don't ask a question if you can't stand the answer). Don't ask why, when or what. There is not always an answer to that. Just try to live by the moment or day. Promise yourself to do things you like and start dating with your partner again. It's all about quality time. Many marriage did have a bad period after 5 or 7-8 years and people are still together even say (years later) they became closer. Promise yourself to be happy from now on. A positive attitude is all you need.

Probably it happens very often and doesn't mean that you lead to divource....You can talk each other,look for what bothers you and inside this situation, finaly find the appropriate solutions to give....It wouldnt be easy but probably the beautiful times that you spent together are more important than the the bad and unstable ones....

Be yourself as the one, who giveup and start. This is the problem everyone having in their love relationship.