The influence of the technology in the family

The influence of cell phones. - More computers, cellphone, I pad, etc less communication.
@Rosa26 (2618)
United States
October 10, 2011 2:52pm CST
Some days ago I was in Honda with my husband and a friend checking the car. While they were working on the car we were siting in the living room waiting, we stayed there for like 40 minutes, and each one of were doing things in the cellphones, I was watching the news, my husband was listening the radio channel Pandora and sending text messages, and our friend was listening music and chatting in Facebook,after some minutes I realize that we were together but apart. And this made think about how our life have change as much that we feel more comfortable talking with people far away that those which are next to us. I am not against the technology is just that I see all the place that the technology have take in our life. Have you have an experience like this?
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
10 Oct 11
Yes this happens in every family,every one is busy with their own job,no one is related with each othe in any means. If they are elders then they would like to be together with some gettogether,if they arekids then the kids like to play with the other kids. Everyone when grown up have their own individuality,no one like the indulgence of others in what they are doing. Technology has brought good as well as bad things in the life.
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@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
10 Oct 11
Yes technology have brought good and bad at the same time. It is about when to stop, for example me I check the time and I say " well I will respond to five discussions now, or I will be in mylot until this or that time " why because my husband and son will be at home at 5 so I have to get ready to receive them, I know they wouldn't like to come home and me lay down in my bed in pajamas and no food and house a mess. Everything have its time, we have to find time to chat and time to dedicate to the family. Thanks for sharing friend!
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
11 Oct 11
In the mornign the household lady will be busy with her cooking and packing lunch boxes,preparing brkfast,she will be in full busy,the father will be geting ready for office,the kids will be busy in getting ready for schools or colleges,or can be job.So full day every one is having an individuality,working on each one work. In the evneing or at night they get to gether ,some tiems this is too hard ,they get in touch withe each other only on week ends.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Yes everybody have their own occupation, but we always have to find time to share with the family. Having a family is a give.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 11
First of all, I only have one thought: Never blame technologies. Blame people who use it! Well, I also so much realize this phenomena, though. Communication technology is so great nowadays, they enable us to communicate with people far away. And because of that, most of the time, we forget the people around us . And, of course, I have that kind of experience. But it's not total harmful. Because even sometimes we used to "get busy" with our cell phone and computer, we still have time for talking and spending time together..
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
That is what it is about, is about handling our online life with offline life, because not everything can be online. “Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.” Ashley Smith.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Soon silence will have passed into legend. Man has turned his back on silence. Day after day he invents machines and devices that increase noise and distract humanity from the essence of life, contemplation, meditation...tooting, howling, screeching, booming, crashing, whistling, grinding, and trilling bolster his ego. His anxiety subsides. His inhuman void spreads monstrously like a gray vegetation. ~Jean Arp I like this quotation and to avoid the negative part of the excessive use of technology and take advantage of the best technology "the essence of life"
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 11
Yeah, we have to keep it all balance. Technologies are great tool in our life. But nothing excessive can be good. Use technologies as tools for life, and don't live a life just for technologies..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
This is how bad technology ever bring to us. We are trying to reach those people who are far from us using our mobile phones. But, we neglect people who are around us and near us who also love us same way as those ones who are far from us. Yes, this is happening everywhere and in ever family. Each member is busy with their own gadget and missed each other. No more live communication even inside their own homes, they uses their mobile phones to send text when they want to say something to their love ones. So bad... have a good day
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Wow I totally agree with you, this is the real situation about the technoly nowadays so it is about to make the right balance between the fantastic world of technology and tremendous gift of the life,family and friends.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Indeed technology plays a big part in our communication. But in a family setting it could either have a negative or positive effect. Like for example children spends more time in computer games and social networking sites rather than chatting with their parents and siblings on the other hand are family member who is living far from us can be reached through cellphones or internet. Its a matter of limiting and and reminding family members on the importance of personal relationship with each other.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you. Carl Sandburg So if we share our time adequately some time in the online and more time offline with our family and friends the technology would be more effective.
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
yes you're right, technology should not to be blamed. People is responsible for their own negligence.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Hello Rmendoza. I like this quotation I like my new telephone, my computer works just fine, my calculator is perfect, but Lord, I miss my mind! ~Author Unknown Because nowadays my mind got lazy I don't know the telephone number of my mom! only my android knows,in the past I use to achieve all the telephones in my mind but know with all the advances technological I got a lit lazy. But we have to make an effort and don't addicted to the technology just give fair time to each thing.
@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
yes because i remember the days that all i have in my hand was only a family computer but now you can pick a lots of high tech console like ps3 , ipad , ipod ,psp ,smartphones , etc . and the social network is so viral that billions of people are using it in a daily basis .
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
You are right the social network is viral,sometimes I come online to seek for something and then ot takes to another site and I find something interesting, and then another and another and when I realize about the time I see that I have spent 3 hours in something that I was suppose to spend 15 minutes.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
10 Oct 11
I've noticed the same thing. I try not to have my cell phone much when I'm with my husband for that reason. I've seen so many people that can't pry themselves away from their phones to interact with other people. It's sad how people would rather text then talk to someone. I like texting however because I'm not real big on being on the phone, so I can just text someone instead.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Me either, I prefer talking just what is necessary and give more time to the people who is around me. Of course whenever I am alone which is most of the time I am here in my lot chatting with my lotters friends. Thanks for sharing Ravinskye.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
yes i had the same experience as yours. my friend and i had a dinner date. while waiting for the food, her boyfriend called they we're on a "lovers quarrel" that night. so instead of listening to my friend arguing with her boyfriend, i decided to check my facebook and twitter account. the foods were served, she made a hand gesture for me to start eating (she was still talking to her boyfriend that time), she put some foods on her plate so i said okay i will go and eat then. i finished my food, same time they ended talking. i was so pissed because at the back of my mind i was telling my self that i should have stayed home since it looks like i also ate alone. technology have enriched the quality of some relationships between family and friends but it can also be the cause of some unwanted relationshiips
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
10 Oct 11
Yes it happens,. Sometimes we the technology is our best friend, for example if we are walking in the street and we feel that we are in danger we can call for help,some cellphone have GPS in case we are lost,,we can save our documents for example homeworks in a flash driver or even in our hotmail and print it when we are in the school in case of we forgot the homework at home,"it happened to me one but my hotmail saved me" the technology can be very positive when we give the right use. But definitely ignoring our friends or family in a meeting is not positive.
10 Oct 11
Is the technology a bless or a curse. Some people would say that I have no choice but to follow the mainstream, sharing the high-tech, isolating themselves from others in the reality guradually. However, I still believe we could keep our own lifestyle. of course it's easier said than done. we can enjoy the convenience brought by high-tech rather than overly dependenting on it. I do believe high-tech isn't the reason for people's happiness.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Yes you are right my friend. I think that the happiness comes from things that don't cost any money, like the nature, the love, the family,appreciating those blesses that we have and that most of the time we don't realize that we have.