kids change the relationship
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
6 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Some marriages are saved from being broken due to kids.
Kids always give happiness in every home.
A home is not complete without a child.
Kids are angels that always brings peace and their innocence do miracles.
have a good day 
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Oct 11
I have children and I don't agree that kids always give happiness. Perhaps they do to men?
Kids give a lot of worries no matter if they are a baby or teenager.
Each age has it's own worries, troubles, sadnesses.
If not at home, with sibling, it's at school, with friends, broken hearts, etc.
Many kids are not angels at all and far of innocent, neither is the world they grow up in. There will change a lot in a parents life, and most in the mother's life if children show up. And if you have bad luck your husband is not even calling you by your name or sweetheart anymore he is calling you "mother" too.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Oct 11
PS if a kid has to be the saviour of a marriage it's a very heavy responsibility you put on that kid's shoulder. Especially if you don't have the kind of kid you are hoping for. If 2 people don't have a great relationship together, they are not at the same line they should not have children at all.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Oct 11
Kids change a lot in the relationship.
It already starts if you are pregnant feeling sick and have to go on. After the birth you feel tired for 1 year and your body doesn't look great. You have a lack of sleep. It's seldom you enjoy having your baby since you are tired and your life (as a woman) is filled by washing the baby, diapers and feeding. You have hardly time for yourself. The father wants attention too but there is less energy left over for that which he mostly doesn't understand since his body and life did not change that much as yours. You are not lovers anymore but parents and it is: kids first.
Men can escape (go out with friends have their own shed), for a woman there is no escape way (you hear every whimp of your baby and wake up within a few seconds).
If you want to be something else as just a mother you have to work very hard on that and you need a helping hand. So you have time left over to wash yourself, dress up. have quality time with your partner. If you don't do that you will discover one day your life is nearly over and you were just taking care of kids. Washing babies, bottoms and later on tears away.
@samu64 (98)
• India
14 Oct 11
Kids surely change the relationship between two individuals.They bring more responsibilities to the individuals, which sometimes feel annoying to them.But they are results of love between two individuals,so they should learn to handle the situation.
@passion3924 (121)
• United States
13 Oct 11
people shouldnt put thier problems or their kids.. its about the communication that the parents have with each other if you cant talk some stuff out then most people use thier kids to keep their love
