How do we get to know one person...?

The impulse reaction is the true reaction as we learn in engineering. How people react to unforeseen circumstances can be a good way to learn about them . Also spending time by talking on wise variety of things can also help us. People do roam around with masks but unveiling would require that you build the trust. If a spouse is confident that he can confide in you without you getting judgemental , I am sure they will be out with their secrets sooner.

hmmm...I see the real color of the person if we will be both on critical situation...or if between us would be complicated...on that situation, you will see how he/she will act..that's why i believe in the saying that...a test of true character is measured not on how he deal when everything is right but on how he respond when everything goes wrong.

People who are there even without invitation when you are in need of moral support are the people you can trust. Those who constantly show up when you have a lot to offer, but turn away when you have nothing, be wary of them. True friends are hard to find, but having a few really good ones is a treasure. A person's true character can be seen through his reactions in difficult times. We get to know people when we live with them, work with them or constantly interact with them. Have a great day, chiyosan.

Well I only care if they are a good person or not, not religion, how they look or something so my test is quite simple, I'm begining to be friends with a girl and we go to the bathroom together, I see if she says hi or smiles to the cleaning lady. Don't care about elderly people? Children? Animals? Then not a good person.

Constant interaction with the person will let you get to know him/her better. You should be able to see him/ her angry, sad , happy and other negative reactions, so you will truly know him/her as a person.

First ask yourself what is important to you. How a person's behaviour is to you or his/her past? What kind other kind of aspects in life are important to you? Ask for the answers. Go out with a person for dinner and watch the way they are dressed and eat. Do they take care of themselves, no manners at all? Party, birthday, other celebration.. is that person attentive of itself (to you or others/family). Observe.. are there kind of habits/gestures you might find annoying in time? Go on vacation together, see if you survive camping 2 weeks together in a very small tent. No luxury. Will you two get along together, find solutions to problems that show up? Can you have fun with that person or only serious talks. Same hobbies? If the other person is telling a story ask questions, unexpected once, they don't need always to have to do with the subject. If you have doubts ask a bit later again. Is the story still the same? Try to look through the eyes of someone else. Is that person still the same as when you look at him/her?