What if he's almost perfect... but

Wow i had the same problem........ It's just hard to let go someone you love but cheats at the smallest things... there's someone in my life, that lies about what s/'he's going through, what happened with his relationship with other friends, and a lot of other issues... i told him not to hide things from me anymore and he promised to open up everything. But I guess there's always an issue trusting him again. It's really tough but if you care for this person you have to give him a lot of chance. But if you reached to the point that you arent believing him anymore, I guess that the time you can let him go. I don't know if it a person will change if it already becomes his habit. I guess it would relly hard to change him... i hope to could.

Well I heard that if a man suddenly brings you flowers for no reason, gives you a lot of attention, buys you jewelry, etc, and that's not how he usually is, then most probably he's trying to ease his guilt. I may not know you personally to better judge, but I feel as if he's only doing these things so one day when he slips up, you would give him some slack. He would make as many positive actions so when he does make a negative one, it wouldn't sum up. I don't know of any guy who would do all of that and not want something big back in return.

I'm familiar with your story from a previous discussion and again dear, imperfect man is one thing, they all are but that could be a little lazy, a little distracted to our needs, a little unsensitive... but cheating no, that can end YOUR selfesteem. Please, DO THE RIGHT thing for your self.

Well, for me that would be a deal breaker. I'm really big on loyalty and trust, and I couldn't be with someone if he was like that. I know some women would be ok with it, but I want someone I can believe in. How do you know that he wouldn't just leave you for a younger woman when the two of you grow old?

oh dear.. if there were such a perfect man. right, Imperfect I must edit. well I couldn't hope for such a man that is too perfect to be true, not to have some flaws. what I were I going to do if I had such a man? well, it depends. If I love him so much, I would find what makes him like that. sometimes dear, you need patience and different approach. well based on what you mentioned there it;s always about the girl (he listens to me, know how to take care of me, and etc) now it;s time for the man. if he that open, that;s good. find what he really feel what make him disappointed. help him. and surprise him once or twice, usually man likes it. ;) but if It didn't work, well, it;s up to the person. if I loved that man, really loved him, I would just hold him and not letting him go. but if I found it, that being with him only irritated me, hurt me, I won't have any objection to let him free. in my case, being with him or not, that;s not problem at all. again, if such a man exist.

Well this is a definite hard one. There are only two options. You can either accept that this habit will take a long time to shake off, with many heart aches on the journey, leaving you in the end unsure as to whether it ever really ended or if he's now just hiding it, or you can break up with him, forever in regret of losing such a perfect man. Either way it's a lose lose situation. If you stay in the relationship, there will always be doubts about his loyalty. You'll constantly be wondering if he's fallen back to his old habits, even after he finally shakes them off. You'll likely start blaming yourself, thinking "maybe it's because I'm not pretty enough" or "maybe it's because I don't show him enough attention." You'll constantly go through struggles and turmoils for the rest of your life with him. But it will feel worth it. Even with all these struggles, you'll always know that you still love him, that you can look past all his faults and see the good in him. Though you'll forever be in pain, especially as he continues cheating, you'll still know deep down that he's the one, that he's right for you, that underneath all the pain and misery, you love him and want to be with him. On the other hand, if you break up with him, you'll forever feel regret. You'll look back on the day you broke up thinking "why didn't I just give him one more chance. He was so perfect." You'll forever regret breaking up with him, always wondering what would have been. Maybe he would have eventually stopped cheating and your life would have ended up perfect. Why did you have to break up with him? You loved him, and you still do as you reflect back on the day you broke up with him. You'll no longer feel the pain from the cheating, you'll no longer have to worry about whether or not he's still cheating on you, but you'll be full of a new pain, a stronger pain. Both options have lots of downsides. Regardless of what you do, it's going to hurt, but this guy sounds like a rare bread. You should stay with him. Don't try to overlook his flaws, don't try to pretend it doesn't bother you. Let it hurt you, and let him know his actions hurt you. It's healthier than lying to yourself and holding it all in. But stay with him through thick and thin. It will forever be a rocky road you'll travel, but in the end, you'll look back at it and say "it was worth it. I made the right choice by staying with him!" Hope this helps.

That's a hard one to answer. Infidelity is a huge deal breaker for many. It's also a huge thing to get over. Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship and without trust most relationships won't survive. If I knew this information from the very beginning I would never give the man the time of day. However if it is something I learned once the relationship has begun to develop then I would probably give it a chance.

well,you should calm down ,you may ask yourself "Is he the right one who came to you mind immediately when you happy or sad?" the true love needs sincere and honest.If not,just get away from him,and then ,of course,you can have space for others.

Absolutely, honesty is the key characteristics of choosing a partner and best of all. So if a person has a habit of cheating, he may be a dangerous one. However, if these cheating are just for making you happy and laugh or just for fun or we will say some gentlemen are willing to do some tricks on his girl,but all that has done is for his girl. If so, that is another question. In a word, if a man cheated on some joking affairs, it does not matter, while if on a serious problem, he maintained the habit of cheating, then you had better get away from him whatever how kindly he treated you.