Unlimited Rice on First Date?
By K31
@keihimekawa (2009)
Philippines
October 17, 2011 8:47pm CST
Here in our office, we have this bulletin board where a new topic is posted every week. This week out topic is this:
"Will it turn guys off if girls asks for unlimited rice on the first date?"
It means the girl can ear 2 or more cups of rice on their first date. I find this topic funny and my friends and I ended up having a long discussion about this.
My male friend told us that it's a turn off since a girl should be sweet on the first date. Having unlimited rice would only show that the girl is a huge eater. Me, on the other hand, said that if the guy wants to impress the girl on their first date, then why bring her to a shop which provides "unlimited rice". Usually, these stores are not that expensive :P If the guy wants to make an impression, at least bring her to semi-fine dining one. But then, I'm just taking the girl's side on unlimited rice. 
What about you fellow myLotters? What's your take on this?
What about you fellow myLotters? What's your take on this?3 people like this
14 responses
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
If a guy gets turned off because I wanted unlimited rice on the first date, there won't be any second date! 
I hate the I have to "impress" him on a first date (or any date for that matter). I'd rather that we see each other for who we are the first time so that whether we'd like to see each other again depends on what we see the first time. And, it would suck to know that on your second date or several dates thereafter, your "prim and proper" date was not in fact who he/she showed himself/herself to be on the first date. There's a fine line between being an "improved version of you" versus "not you at all".
Besides, isn't it a bit prejudicial to say that girls eat less and guys eat more? I know girls who need to eat more because of their body requires them to eat a lot.
I hate the I have to "impress" him on a first date (or any date for that matter). I'd rather that we see each other for who we are the first time so that whether we'd like to see each other again depends on what we see the first time. And, it would suck to know that on your second date or several dates thereafter, your "prim and proper" date was not in fact who he/she showed himself/herself to be on the first date. There's a fine line between being an "improved version of you" versus "not you at all".
Besides, isn't it a bit prejudicial to say that girls eat less and guys eat more? I know girls who need to eat more because of their body requires them to eat a lot. 2 people like this
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
That's right. Maybe it's why some relationships fail. Because the partners have not been totally honest about themselves the time that they were first going out. If your date won't accept you because you ate a lot (sounds ridiculous, eh?) during your first date, then he won't still accept you on your second and succeeding dates (even if you did not eat a lot of rice on the first date!) And, the same goes with everything (not just the eating habits). I guess that would stir up a lot of heated debates. Personally, as a girl, I find it offensive.
) during your first date, then he won't still accept you on your second and succeeding dates (even if you did not eat a lot of rice on the first date!) And, the same goes with everything (not just the eating habits). I guess that would stir up a lot of heated debates. Personally, as a girl, I find it offensive. 2 people like this
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Haha that's why I took the girl's side about the unlimited rice thing! I really can't stand it when people doesn't act like the way they normally do and the reason they gave is "putting your best foot forward". Personally, I'd say it's called hypocrisy. But then, that's just my own perspective :P
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I sooooo agree with you! 
I'd rather have my date be "himself" rather than act all proper during the first date then after a few or so dates, both parties will be surprised that the person is not actually of that manner. You get my point? Lol!
That's so true! This poll question stirred quite a lot of replies from my office mates that the discussion became a heated but fun one :P
I'd rather have my date be "himself" rather than act all proper during the first date then after a few or so dates, both parties will be surprised that the person is not actually of that manner. You get my point? Lol!
That's so true! This poll question stirred quite a lot of replies from my office mates that the discussion became a heated but fun one :P1 person likes this
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I'm a girl, and if a guy would be turned-off by eating more than 2 cups of rice then I'd rather not date the guy. I wouldn't want a pretentious relationship. I'm a WYSISYG (what you see is what you get) person. I'm a tough chic, a little difficult to love, a tad too childish. If you can't accept that then I'm not wasting time on you either.
I'm not into the impress-the-girl dates. I don't think any girl would want a guy who's just pretending to be rich by bringing her to restaurants if he can't keep that up on every date.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Oh yes darling.
And I will even eat using my fingers, talk while my mouth is full and let some food stick on my face.
And..let's see if he really loves me for who I am...
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
In my opinion, it's best to show what you really are on your date rather than pretend and show your real nature during your relationship :P
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
i am a very hearty eater. i love eating a lot and i dont care if it is the first date. and because i eat a lot i want my date to eat as well. i am surely going to get bored if i am still eating and my date just ate a bite and shes finish. i guess if my date asked for another serving of rice it means shes having fun with me for you dont feel at ease if your date is not having fun. it also means that she is comfortable showing who she really is. my wife loves to eat too. we had a lot of eating out fun times together when we were still getting to know each other. and because we talk a lot we forgot how many we had eaten we just talk and eat and have fun. we are still doing that for 9 years now with our five year old son.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
i would love to have a blog, but i dont know how to do that. there are things that i love to put on a blog... when my wife had a few miscarriages before we had a baby i really wanted to put that on a blog but i dont know how to do it. i hope someone can show me how... har har har... i guess i am stupid when it comes to things like that... can you help me?
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I totally agree with you. The mere fact that the girl is acting casually means that she enjoys your company and doesn't hide anything from her date. I'm also a hearty eater myself :D That so nice to hear! Continue with your love for eating :D You should keep a food blog or something :P
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Sure no problem! I'd be more than willing to help you out ;) Just send me a PM :)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I don't care if he will get turn off.
I don't need to impress a man.
Better show him who am I on the very first day and not to pretend as sweet and demure when I am not.
Better show him that I am a good eater and that he needs to have extra money always or else, I will throw him once I am hungry
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Your reply is pure win!!! I love it! Yeah that's right! If he's interested in you enough to take you out, then he shouldn't mind you eat to your heart's content :D
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
on the first date both parties should impress their date.
men should bring their ladies on a fine restaurant to impress them.
maybe the lady is comfortable with the guy's company so she doesn't mind hiding her eating habit. isn't that also a good point that this girl is not pretentious on their first date? at least the guys would know where he could bring her on the second date or whether would he still ask this lady out again?lol!
as for me if i were the guy i won't mind the girl having unlimited rice as long as he eats properly. i mean the etiquette is there cause if not? then it would be a total turn off.
men should bring their ladies on a fine restaurant to impress them.
maybe the lady is comfortable with the guy's company so she doesn't mind hiding her eating habit. isn't that also a good point that this girl is not pretentious on their first date? at least the guys would know where he could bring her on the second date or whether would he still ask this lady out again?lol!
as for me if i were the guy i won't mind the girl having unlimited rice as long as he eats properly. i mean the etiquette is there cause if not? then it would be a total turn off.@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Thanks for the comment :D That's also my point. As long as the girl is eating nicely, it doesn't matter if she eats a lot. I mean, there's a line between proper eating and "pigging out". Why bring the girl to a food establishment that offers "unlimited rice" if you don't want to see her avail of such treat right? If I'm the guy, as long as etiquette's there, I won't mind if she eats a lot. As long as she enjoys herself :P
maybe i read that fast that i didn't really comprehend your point.
anyway.. we share the same insight so i think we are both right.
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
18 Oct 11
Well, personally I don't find all you can eat rice all that romantic, so I wouldn't really like to go for that on a first date, but I would neither be opposed to nor turned off by it. I would really prefer to go to a candle lit dinner at a 5 star (or at least 4 star) sit down restaurant at a table for two, preferably on a midsummer night on a balcony, eating under the stars and moon lit sky, in a peaceful environment where we could talk for hours and really get to know each other and to start forming a really strong connection with each other, followed by a short but relaxing walk on a scenic route, ending with us curling up together to watch a nice romantic comedy, but hey, if the girl wants the first date to be unlimited rice instead, then sure, I'll go for that. Who knows, maybe I'd be able to find a 5 star restaurant that serves unlimited rice that's actually located near enough me.
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
5-star resto that actually serves unlimited rice. That's definitely something worth knowing 
Unlimited rice definitely doesn't rank as one of my "romantic first date" ideas but the fact that your date brought you there, you should at least enjoy the unlimited rice part Thanks a lot for your response
Unlimited rice definitely doesn't rank as one of my "romantic first date" ideas but the fact that your date brought you there, you should at least enjoy the unlimited rice part Thanks a lot for your response 1 person likes this
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
18 Oct 11
Haha, no problem. I must say, this discussion is a rather interesting one. How did the people in charge of updating the bulletin board come up with that question original? Seriously, it is a rather interesting and entertaining question, but why would anybody originally ask it?
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@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
magic7000, Unlimited rice is the biggest thing here in the Philippines. Since rice is a Filipino staple, places that offer unlimited rice are usually the go-to places of people who love to eat until they're bursting. It beats eat all you can restaurants because it's cheap and Filipinos love rice. They don't need to have a "no leftover, no takeout" rule because no one in their right mind would waste rice
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
18 Oct 11
Unlimited rice wouldn't be an issue with me.
On a first date I wouldn't want to seem gredy though. I am going on a first date tomorrow night. We are going to a hotel.
I usually only order something of a moderate price. I dont want to come across as over eating or wanting only expensive meals.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
That's real great to hear :D I hope you had a great time on your date :) Thanks a lot for you reply ;)
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I agree! If the guy wanted to impress the girl, he should have taken the girl to a much nicer restaurant that does not offer unlimited rice.
Another thing is, if the girl wanted extra rice, or unlimited rice, then it means, the guy got her hungry which is also a turn off for the girls. The guy should have been sensitive and made sure that the girl did not hungry during their date.
Also, if the guy decided first to take the girl to a restaurant with an unlimited rice, then the girl would think that the guy wants to eat a lot. And so, she would not be shy to order another cup of rice, too.
But whatever is the case, I don't think anyone should be pretentious just to impress someone.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
The guy should also realize that the girl knows how to maximize the value of money.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
The guy should thank the girl since he's getting his money's worth of unlimited rice XD You're right. The fact that he took her there would mean that he wanted her to enjoy their date and that should include the unlimited rice thing :P
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
"Unlimited Rice" or "Rice all you can" is one sure-hit feature that some food establishments offer here in Philippines. Aside from the dish you order, you are allowed to have a free flowing rice. Meaning, if you finish eating a cup of rice, you can call the crew for another cup and in as many as you want :D
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Amen to that! It's true that girls should put their best foot forward but it doesn't mean that she should hide her true self just to impress her date :D
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
18 Oct 11
I don’t really get this whole unlimited rice thing.. if someone took me out to dinner.. I get whats on my plate and I eat that? And not all dishes come with rice? Sure if I order a curry or something I get rice.. but it’s usually already on my plate?
I think there is a cultural barrier between me and this discussion haha!!
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
19 Oct 11
oh i completely understand now!! thank you for explaining!!
we actually don't have a "staple" food diet as such.. i suppose potatoes would be one, but we have many different cultures of food here, from indian, to chinese, etc.. and we have buffets!
there is a chinese restaurant i know that they do an all you can eat buffett! you pay £9.99 and you keep filling your plate as much as you want. i guess thats like the same thing, except we get the curry again and you don't ;) lol x
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Oh! We also have something like that only we call it "Eat-all-you-can" Lol! It's commonly offered on fine dining and hotel restaurants so it can get a little bit pricey :P We also have "Bottomless drinks" XD I really am beginning to think that Filipinos love anything that's bottomless/unlimited as long as it can be eaten!
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
"Unlimited rice" or "Rice-all-you-can" here in Philippines' quite a huge thing. Rice is considered as our staple food here and there are some food establishments which offer unlimited rice. Meaning you can eat as much rice as you can without any additional fee.
For example if your food's PhP150 ($3 or so), you still pay the same amount but your rice will be free flowing. If you finished one cup, you can ask the crew to fill your plate again with rice until your satisfied :D In your case, for example the establishment offers rice with curry then as you eat, you completely finished your rice and still have some curry left, you can ask for another round of rice :D No additional curry though :D
@clearwater18 (695)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I don't think guys will get turn off if girls will ask for unlimited rice on their first date. It doesn't really matter. The girl doesn't have to be sweet on their first date. The girl doesn't have to be pretend like she's sweet even though she's not just because it's their first date. They both just have to be themselves.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
I definitely agree with you on this! Both should just be true to themselves and be natural :D
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
23 Oct 11
For me it is not a big deal,if she loves to eat that would be fine with me,weather it is in fine dining or in resto that offers unlimited rice.I love to eat also so I don't care if my date eat a lot too.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I always find it amusing when I meet couples or partners whose hobbies are eating and finding new places to eat 
