No mother = Womanizer?
By phillyguy
@phillyguy (3005)
Philippines
October 20, 2011 6:03pm CST
My friend's cousin grew without a mother. And starting when he was a teenager he was a prolific playboy all his relationships doesn't last more than a month some even only last for a few days and many times he have more than 1 girlfriend at the same time. He's 27 now and still the same. My question is does growing up without his mother part of the reason why he is like that?
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@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
I agree with you. Losing his mother at a very young age could be one major factor why he's become a womanizer. I've known a girl who married a very old guy because according to her, she was looking for a father figure as she lost her father when she was still young. Other people on the other hand even enter an abusive relationship because they were raised by abusive parents. So, one's early childhood experiences are big determinants to his/her later life. What has been deprived of them are the major things they would look for in later life.
Of course, by that, I don't mean to say that every child who lost his mother would become a womanizer. Many guys who still have their mothers with them could become womanizers as well. All I'm saying is that, in your cousin's case, that might be the reason. It's his way of dealing with his deprivation.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Humans are indeed complicated. Each person reacts differently to a given situation. It's easier to explain why the person acts the way he is by looking at his past than predicting the future based on his current situation. Since each person is unique, it would be an over generalization to say that every child who has no mother will become a womanizer. Your explanation regarding your cousin's behavior is a sensible one, and logical. However, it's hard to guarantee its truth. The only person who could truly understand him is himself. Perhaps if you ask him, he might not know yet the reason. With careful analysis of himself, he will eventually be able to explain his own actions.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Other people do not become womanizers because they are able to find another way to deal with their loss. If your cousin's behavior is indeed due to his feelings of deprivation of motherly love, then a good way to help him change is to show him some other ways to meet his needs in a more positive way.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
In my opinion Human mind is so complicated that we can't point out the real reason behind any particular human behavior or wrongdoings. I myself believe that it does affect him or it does become part of the reason why he is a womanizer but when I think of other people who also grow up without a mother but were able to be normal and didn't become a womanizer it makes me wonder the other factors that push him toward's becoming who he is.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
20 Oct 11
I don't think so. I think it's more likely due to his genes.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
genes? Uhm I don't think so his father, as far as i know, is not like that, he didn't even get married after her wife passed away just took care of him and his sisters.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
22 Oct 11
With due respect to his father, u never know if he flirts outside. Taking care of him and his sisters, to me, is a different matter altogether. Moreover, a man can b responsible towards his family but yet womanises.
@SydneyJ (902)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Some people say that things like not growing up with a certain parental figure in thier life causes them to seek out to find what they were not able to experience as a child. If this is the case they may just be trying to find the love from a woman thier mom would of given them but he doesnt really know what its like.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
That's a good thought syd then maybe he just need someone more mature girl for him someone who would really take care of him. Or he just need to realize that what the love her mother could have given him can't be fulfilled by another woman.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
probably. Psychology explains that boys will always seek a woman's affection, the number one source of that is supposed to be his mother. but without a mother, then it's likely that the boy will be confused.
