Have you ever rejected a friend?

@gicolet (1702)
United States
October 21, 2011 11:19am CST
I've read somewhere before that we should be careful on choosing a friend, but we should be more careful on rejecting them. Ironically, I've read about that after I just rejected a friend of mine. That was several yrs ago. She just did something to me back then that was pretty crummy and she wouldn't admit to it or apologize even though I had an evidence. Her pride and attitude wasn't helping so I wasn't forgiving also. Then after a couple of mos back then she called me and she sounded like nothing had happened. I guess she missed me but she still didn't apologize about the issue. I then responded so cold. She never called me again. That was like 15 yrs ago. Now I saw her profile on Facebook but I couldn't say hello. It's just seem awkward to. She was my best friend and i was sad that it ended in a spiteful way. Oh well... How about you? Have you ever rejected a friend or want to reject one? Why?
9 responses
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
22 Oct 11
Yes, I hv rejected at least two pp b4. I wld reject a person who has betrayed me more than once. I wld also reject a person who doesn't support me when I need support. For instance, I asked a friend to be my reference for a job application last yr but she didn't say anything and avoided e issue altogether. If she had told me upfront that she was not willing, I might still keep her s a friend. I wld prefer my friends to be frank w me.
• Singapore
23 Oct 11
Yup, it certainly pays to b careful.:)
• India
21 Oct 11
see dear one, making friends would take you a long time , by seeing their habbits, attitude, manners and ofcourse many a lot but rejcting would take you a simple fraction of times..let it be silly reason. So i dont think of rejecting a friend but of think always think of making friends...
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
that is easier said than done anusha.maybe gicolet may have been hurt so bad that even a long 15 years was not able to heal her wound.but i would still go for making friends with your enemy because we are created in the image of God. come to think of it and ask ourselves, "what would Jesus do?"
@akangirl (2436)
• India
21 Oct 11
I broke up with childhood on and off friend in july. It all happened quite fast , i felt i had enough with her crappy mood swings. Even though she never called or messaged me after that day but i still kept awake the whole night on 21st august which was her birthday thinking whether to wish her or not but in the end i didn't. But just few days back i got friendship request from her and i dont know whether to accept or reject.
• Philippines
23 Oct 11
I have rejected friends several times before. If I don't want to go to a gimmick, like a party or a night out, I simply say "no". The usual thing is they'd insist but I'd always stand my ground and say "no". There were times that they would stay persistent. In those cases, I'd just say "yes" and not show up at the same time. Agree to disagree as they say.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
22 Oct 11
I don't find anything wrong in keeping away those who you no longer feel could be your friends. Situations do change and it would be worse if one kept them as friends although the feeling is not there.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
22 Oct 11
Talking abou my lot I never have reject any friend,I always accept the friendship. Talking about my offline life I always try to forgive the others but to forgive I bring the problem back and tell the person what she or he did bad and tell him/her that I forgive them.
• United States
21 Oct 11
I'm not sure that I would consider it rejection if you have a legitimate reason behind disowning or cutting off their friendship. For instance, recently a friend of mine left a very rude comment under a picture of my cousin who was in the hospital about to give birth to my baby cousin. She made a comment about how young she looked, but she said it in an extremely negative way. I ended up cutting her off and deleting her from everything. I just felt like it was so rude. Believe me, the way she said it was not okay by any means. I don't feel like that's rejecting someone, because there was reason behind doing so. If your ex friend did something to you that was worth you cutting off contact, then you didn't reject her, you just decided to move on. If you miss her that much, maybe you should reach out to her. People are more forgiving and understanding than we think! Even though you shouldn't apologize for what happens, since it may not have been your fault, just apologize for not contacting her sooner and ask why she hasn't contacted you. I'm sure the friendship was worth more than that.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
what you are feeling right now my friend is surely difficult to face.the awkwardness contributes a lot to that. im sure what she did to you was difficult for you to forgive because as you said, it was way back 15 years ago.i do believe that time heals wounds...15 years is so long.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
21 Oct 11
i did it once , but later on realized and felt too bad. we dont have any rights to insult others.