Wow, I think it's finally happening!!
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
October 22, 2011 4:21pm CST
So before I've posted discussions on how my boyfriend's dad is pretty bad to him and also things weren't going well between the mom and dad. It's slowly gotten worse and the dad says he's still not happy being married and he's constantly in a bad mood and complains about everything the kids do. Honestly, I've never liked my boyfriend's dad just because he's so controlling of everything and he's downright nasty. I love his mom though and we have a really good relationship.
Well, things have gotten worse between them and I guess the other day he sent the mom mean text messages saying he hates her, get out of my house, and basically f you for doing this. When I found out I was heartbroken for his mom because she doesn't deserve to be treated that way since she's such a nice woman. For the past few months they've been constantly fighting, mostly because the dad is a cheater and plain mean. The other day I was at his house and the dad was yelling at all 3 kids (including my boyfriend) and saying how him and the mom are probably splitting up and he'll be moving out. So today I found out that he's leaving Wednesday for good. I feel horrible for the mom but at the same time I'm glad that my boyfriend and his family will finally get out of the terrible situation they're in and be free of that awful dad. I'm also glad that she'll be getting the house because she didn't do anything wrong and she shouldn't be the one to have to go anywhere.
I feel a little guilty that I'm happy in a way that he's leaving. It's just that I've never liked this man because he treats my boyfriend horribly and can say rude, degrading things and he just doesn't appreciate the amazing family he has. Is it wrong that I feel this way and I'm sort of happy that the dad will be leaving?
3 responses
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Oct 11
I'm betting you're non-confrontational too.
I hate confrontations. So if ever I were put in this situation, I would always say it's much better if one leaves. Even if it means I'm the one leaving.
I'm happy that there would be a little 'peace-time' in your boyfriend's house. Maybe even his dad's time apart would even let him assess the sitution and weigh what is important in his life.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Depending on the situation, I'm normally very non-confrontational. The only time I'm actually confident in confrontation is if it has to do with my boyfriend. And even then it's nothing major, just me telling him something that he does is bothering me and minor things like that. Otherwise, I'm extremely shy and tend to be a bit passive.
His parents have been having problems for a few months now because the dad cheats and the girl lives not far down the street from him..it's actually on the way to my house and my boyfriend and I pass it all the time. So the dad is unhappy being married and basically wants out. He originally wanted the house but the mom wasn't about to give it up and have the other woman in her house. As of lately, the dad has starting acting really nasty towards the mom and saying hateful things to her. Normally he's not like that..he's just rude and horrible to the kids. I feel bad that the mom has to go through this since she's such a sweet person, but inside, I'm actually glad the dad is leaving. Not only because he was straining the relationship with my boyfriend, but also because he's such a negative person to be around, he complains about everything that's not done right, and he overall puts a lot of stress on his family.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I definitely hope I can too. It seems that the dad is for sure moving out,and I think by tomorrow. I just feel a bit guilty for being happy that he's leaving. But it's not like I don't care about my boyfriend and his family, because I really do feel bad for her that he's leaving her. In the end, I think things will work out and my boyfriend's house will turn out to be a much happier place even though things may be rough for a bit. I know for sure that my boyfriend will have a huge weight lifted off his shoulders and won't feel so much pressure from his dad.
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
25 Oct 11
I would be happy to see that your boyfriend is finally away from all that torture.It is really hard for any person to stay under all that pressure.But at that same time,an inner thought says to find out any possibility to speak and sort out the problems between his parents and make things clear and understantable to his dad.Initially it will seem so good that he is free from all that pain.BUt at times when he needs his dad for some reason,it may hurt a little.But this will get used to it in a period of time.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I'm not even sure if my boyfriend will miss his dad though. Technically, it's his step dad. He doesn't have contact with his real dad and the dad he has now is a real jerk to him. My boyfriend is constantly cleaning the house and making sure every little thing is done correctly by the time his dad gets home from work. Of course the dad always has something negative to say about the work my boyfriend did and he's constantly degrading him and putting him down. When he's treated unfairly, my boyfriend will say all sorts of curse words and call his dad names once he's left the room. I've noticed that I can hang out with his family and we can all be relaxed and joking around but as soon as the dad gets in, everyone is on edge waiting for him to yell about something. That's no way to live and I see the amount of stress he puts on everyone. Even though it will be hard for his mom and I really do feel bad, I think that the whole family will benefit from this nasty man leaving. I for one will be really glad when I don't have to hear about the cruel things he says to my boyfriend and our relationship can be a little more normal without his dad ruining everything.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
22 Oct 11
Thank you, I think deep down my boyfriend is kind of glad too. Both of us feel bad for his mom but I really do think that he's sort of happy that his dad is moving out. Lately he's been so horrible to my boyfriend and everytime he talks to me about his dad he tends to curse because he's upset and knows that he's treated unfairly by his dad. Even thought it'll be hard at first for his mom, I think she'll be able to overcome this and in the long run the family will be much happier and stress free now that they don't have the dad coming home from work yelling at them and complaining about every little thing.
