People marry for many reasons. What's is yours?
By Lhenni
@Lhenni (1242)
Philippines
October 23, 2011 8:26pm CST
People marry for many reasons.
We got married civilly on 2001 because I'm pregnant! We were then on just 4 months in the relationship. Well, we just want to save embarrassment we'll be facing when our family and friends will come to notice it. We belong in a society that values were highly matter. The relationship were not deep-rooted that time and yet we decided to get married.
After civilly wedded for 8 years, last 2009, we decided to have our union be blessed by the Holy Matrimony, ready and proud now. We have 2 children then and my youngest just starting beating his heart inside me. Oh, what a gift!
Although we started "our life" with I may say not a winning choice that time, we end up being together now for 11 years happily having 3 children!
I got married for the second time for the same person simply because I love him!
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i think i cannot marry for any other reason, there maybe truth about the saying there is a thin line between love and lust. but i believe and felt it was love.@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Yes bingskee, there's people opted to marry because of the epidemic "love" syndrome *lol... and we belong in that group, right? And there's these people too that marry because of anything else not love... anyway, I just wished that those people who don't belong to "our group" may find love along the relationship and be happy 'till the end.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 Oct 11
All's well that end's well! I'm so happy for you. The only reason I would marry is because I Had to. To better the family. It Would Have to be completely arranged and it would be Only to have an heir. But this will Never happen. I will never have children so there is no need to marry.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Through marriage, in my own point of view, is so satisfying if we'll just put a matching formula to make it work within our expectation. Let's put love in it.
Be advantageous to the chance of being happy. Is there anyone who don't like to be happy anyway?
It's so heartwarming to live a happy life... but anyway, as I said in my previous comments, happiness is by choice and we are responsible I think, enough to all our actuations to be sensible. Good day sarahruthbeth22!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Ok , let me put it this way. If I were to marry I would Choose to be miserable. I would see each day as a war of wills .It couldn't be satisfying unless making each other miserable is satisfying! So I choose love Over marriage. I do agree it is heartwarming to live a happy life. Just that my life Has Nothing to do with marriage.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I get the message sarahruthbeth. Marrying for you will make your life miserable that's why you choose not to marry. Hmmm, I don't know what's you're into why you say that and if for you, you can't get it through marriage, so be it.
And yes it's true, we can still find happiness in many ways. And It's nice to know you're happy 'though. Stay happy!
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I am happy and fortunate to say that I married for love. It saddens me when i see that someone has married for the sake of a coming child or to please a parent. My husband has since passed away but i will always cherish the years that we shared together.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 11
I married once for the children and that was a very big mistake so I divorced already 20 years ago.
This year I will marry again. Not because I feel the need to but because it's important to my man. It will give him a status in the country he lives and for him it's also important to know I am his wife. I think he also sees it as a prove of his love to me. I don't need a prove like that. He knows I live in a world where we don't see it as a status anymore and there is nothing wrong with being single, living together (apart) etc.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
It's our choice how and when we can be happy. And as far as happiness concerns, we can make the most of it whether we do it for the ones we love without expecting in return or we're happy to do it without anything in return! In anyways, let's stay happy and contended with the love we are giving and receiving. Good day WakeUpKitty!
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
I'm still single, and will marry when I'm emotionally and financially ready. I love your story. It's so nice to see someone get married and stay happy. Although you didn't start with deep roots when you got married, but it worked out for you in the end. Glad to hear that! Stay happy in your marriage! You have an amazing family.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
24 Oct 11
Just share my friends advises when I was still single and they have seen my suitor and they seen me very choosy whom I extend my hand with.... they said it is better to marry a man whom you love less but whom who loves you more because along the way of relationship that lesser feeling of love could grow deeper and I believe this advise was through base on my experience because I know my husband loves me more than I love him and if you are already married three years as they said a period of adjustment of a married couple don't believe because 3 years is not enough for adjustment time remember this....even we say we know our our husband so well that's wrong because you only see his true attitude along the way and it takes years before you discover it all. While you are in the journey of adjustment, there were children now to bind your relationship, they serves as your strength so they serves as enough reason for you to stay married and lived together despite of many trials in life....Good day!
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
Thanks for your advice gelayagui98! I think if the woman loves the man more, the man would only find the woman very clingy. Man prefer independent women. I think it really depends on the couple how the relationship would work. As long as they love each other, it would become easier for them to face the trials together.
Lhenni, I agree with you that there is no perfect formula for love. Everyone is unique. So there are no hard and fast rules that fit everyone.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
24 Oct 11
Just because I felt like it. I didn't have to get married for validation or social status. I don't really give a d@mn what others think. My relationship was real and committed long before we signed a few papers.
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
24 Oct 11
The first time I got married was because I was trying to escape my parents always putting me down needless to say that the marriage did not last long then I got married again for the same reason the reason I stayed with him was I got to great kids out of it I am now with my fiance of 8 years.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
welcome to mylot lhen. i am so happy to read a post like this. people fall in love and holds on to the love and the marriage. my mother wants me to marry a lady that she told me was perfect for me. i am against it. she told me that my life will be better. but i did not listen to her (well even she is my mother, i am entitled to find someone i want to marry). so i married the woman i love. and we are married now for 9 years and we have a 5 year old son. my mother and relatives does not like my wife or i can say not in favor and some of them ignores her. they still believe that i should have married the woman they vote for me. but i stick to what i know that is best for me. i dont care what people say its what i know and what i feel that matters. congrats to you and your family.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
Congrats too to you and your wife! You're so courageous that no one didn't stop you from loving each other for 9 years and still going strong I guess as times ages.
It's nice hearing stories like yours,... the romantic side of me is celebrating!
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
We also have been living together for 7 years..and we just got married last 20th and the reason? love, i love him and we both realize that is it about time to make it official..its not just for us, its also for the children.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
24 Oct 11
Marriage as a major human affair entails decision making on the part of man and a woman. To have a successful marriage, their decision should be righteous, that is, they ought to be in accordance with Christian values which are based on the teaching of the Holy Scriptures. In God's plan, His sole purpose for establishing marriage is for the welfare of mankind. Showing how much He regards it, He blessed Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, uniting them. The book of Genesis expresses God's noble purpose concerning marriage as a harmonious and lifetime relationship between husband and wife.
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
24 Oct 11
Congratulations friend...Nice to here about your life and marriage. That was very nice..
While i am getting married with my husband i had no reasons for that marriage but now i had many reasons why we have to be together in fact i can say i strong reason is love in between us. Have a happy life with your husband for long time my friend...
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Congratulations too for having a happy life with your husband anusha2128!
It's really a valid reason that we are happy beacause we shared love to the person 'though not our ideal man/woman at first but been the person we want to be for the rest of our lives as the feelings immersed during togetherness.
Love, love, love... you are the reasons!
@mhelsdelacruz (160)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
I am single but i was so inspired by your post. .Got married because you got pregnant on your fourth month of relationship yet after have many years you have good marriage life . .For me, the reasons why i get married its because I love the person and i want to spend in him for the rest of my lives . .
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Yes mhelsdelacruz, majority of us, wanted a happy life with the person we think be the best partner but it should takes time to find someone like that. And many times, heartaches may occur but try to handle it positively. It can make us a better and wiser person in the process. Good day!
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
Marriage is union of two individuals. Marriage is not a new concept and has been around for thousands of years as the way of celebrating the love and the commitment a man and women.People get married for several..Mine is because i love my partner so much. If you love someone you would not like to lose them. You would also want to share your life with the one you love. By marriage you are taking a lifetime commitment and responsibility to be there for your partner..=))
Congratulations...and have a happy married life..=))
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
25 Oct 11
What a great story with a Happy Ending.. Congrats to you.. I have been with my husband for 15 years and married for 8 of them.. We have 2 beautiful Children together and We got married for love too..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Most reason is because of love.
I did marry the man I love because I loved him.
But love does fade and so bad we ended living together after 11 years.
Mine is not a good story thu, no regrets then.
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
25 Oct 11
I am still single.But I am looking forward to get married.First I will be finacially and professionally stable and then have my wedding.My reason would be that I will have a soul mate whenever I need her and for no matter what the reason is.She will everything in the world world for me.No other person can give us such a feeling being there for us every single moment of our life.The importance of marriage and haveng a company will be felt with much significance especially in old age.
@lilblondiemjd (857)
• United States
24 Oct 11
What a cool post! :) I know so many people who didn't marry for the best reasons, but they ended up staying together forever, still madly in love. I'm pretty sure I would marry someone based solely on love and security. Well, maybe not solely on that....But those are the two things that would matter the most. I definitely think having a child is a legitimate reason to get married, because you want your family to work out for the best, I just don't always think some people should stay married for the kids. However, in your situation, it seemed to work out wonderful! I'm very happy for you two! Thank you for sharing your story!
