ADHD and children

United States
October 27, 2011 11:36am CST
My son has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. We finally gave up with just the behavioral modification that they were trying with him. When he is bored he will start hitting people. We ended up putting him on medication at age five to control his behavior until he can learn to control his own behavior. The doctors and therapists think he also has some sensory integration problems that also make him have more problems. the medications seem to help with the aggression and lack of attention and now he is doing better in school. Are there other things that someone else knows of that we can try to get him off of the meds? I don't like to have my child on medication if I don't have to.
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• United States
28 Oct 11
Also remember that ADHD is a fad disorder autism as well lately. These disorders exist but are an easy diagnosis to blame any behavioural or emotional disorder on. Children who do not behave in an "in the box" manner are labeled with it when in truth it is behaviour or learning options they need. I had a child in my class who was diagnosed with it in the '90s he was brilliant. He needed more stimulation but didn't have the emotional tools to deal with his extreme boredom. My daughter has a friend like this also. BY allowing them to learn at their own pace not a schools or other determined fashion they have been able to keep those kids calm. Also they did therapy to teach them both how to handle the world around them. The student I had is 28 now. He went to college at 15 and has two doctorates right now. The other my daughter's friend is 10 years old and doing (via homeschooling) freshman year of high school. My daughter had the opposite she has a learning disorder and would act out. She is twelve and the school was about as much help as dung in a corner. I pulled her out, we do cyber schooling and we adapted her time frames, how she learns and now she is tested in the PSSA testing 10 points below the highest score. We do yoga as a physical calming agent each day and when ever any of our girls are outta sorts or aggravated. It will not make a huge difference at first, it is therapeutic in it's repetitiveness add a little at a time. Also take away the TV. I know this sounds crazy as many use it to occupy their kids but between the flashing lights, noise and randomly changing story lines the TV is an over stimulant. A week or two after taking it away or limiting it to an hour after dinner you will see a change more dramatic then you would believe. Now I do not want to be pushy but I would ask also what type of discipline you enact when he misbehaves. Many of the modern day ways to raise children leave them confused on what is wrong behaviourally as well as obnoxious. Yeah some kids turn out ok following the distraction method but they are few and far between. Each child is different and no textbook discipline fits all children. He may need a firmer hand. If he is hitting try hugging. No I am not a hippie but try literally holding him until his anger has dispensed it's self. Now he will fight hit and probably bite during this but just hold on. Whisper calming things to him and what ever you do hold your temper. Once the realization that you are in control becomes tangent it will be easier to modify his behaviour. I do not want you to hit him, though I am not beyond spanking for a good reason, but usually if you just hold on a few times they will learn to calm down. I had a girl in my class adopted from a some where in Russia, she was wild to say the least. Her parents and I did this. It took about a month of holding her when she was crazed, whispering calming things to her over and over again before she began to calm down. By the end of three months she seldom acted out, there where times mostly when she couldn't get her point across to us do to language barriers that she would act out but that dissipated with time. Today she is a counselor to inner city kids. You may to wrap your legs around a very squiggly child and it is not easy to hold your temper or not give up when it doesn't work right away. You may sit on the floor struggling with him for a long time, it's ok. The hugging not only shows who is in control but it is an expression of love for a reason, when the fighting is done he will have a sense of security both physically and emotionally because his loving parents are holding him. I am no Dr, of any kind and I know people who will see this and balk but I have seen this work. I hope things work out for you all.
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@dfollin (24030)
• United States
28 Oct 11
You are so right it's a fad and an excuse to label them.As I said even the doctor told me that the school's love to label the kids rather actually try and help them.It's sad.They put them in special classes that they say will help them,to try and excuse themselves from what they should be doing. When my son went to the private school that was run by the county,he had 3 different teacher's in his only year there.Not because he had to be moved,but because the teachers kept quitting to get away from the stupid rules that prevented them from to the jobs that they were trained for....."Special Education Teachers". The so-called teachers that remained there did not know what they were doing.....they got a pay check!One of them locked my son in a room.And because my son found away out of the room to escape and call me,he was hit by that teacher. He went to an after school program at a regular public school with his younger brother and he showed up there soar from being hit.Both myself and I called CPS and they said it was unfounded,even thou I took him to the doctor to get the incident on paper!
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• Philippines
28 Oct 11
Michael Phelps, one of the best swimmers of all times, was diagnosed with ADHD when he was young. According to his mom, he was also a handful when he was young and because of that, he was put into medication. However, his condition did not get better because of medication. Did you know what taught him discipline and control over his body and actions? Swimming. He was passionate about swimming so he channeled his energy in this and indeed, his behavior have been better since then. I would suggest that you figure out what your child is passionate about and support him with it. Let him be occupied with it as it could teach him self discipline and control. Good luck to you luintaurien.:)
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@dfollin (24030)
• United States
28 Oct 11
Yep,if he is interested in something then find out what it is and go for it.Who,know's maybe he will become the best at whatever it is like Michael did.Great advise.
@dfollin (24030)
• United States
28 Oct 11
Be careful with giving your child meds! In the late 1980's and my oldest son was told in 2nd grade that he had Attention Deficit Disorder because he was not getting his work done.He was labeled.Children that are labeled are not permitted to be in the presence of "normal" children!However when he would go after school to boy scout meetings and weekends in the church choir,Sunday school,bowling and baseball games,the coaches and teachers asked me why I kept asking how he behaved.And when I told them why they were surprised!They said that he was probably bored because he had no problem in his activities that he was interested in. The school's kept insisting that he was a problem child and started putting him in special education schools within the public school system.Insisted he see a mental health therapist which told me that he was to never be sepperated from me,due to a break in we had in our home where I was nearly killed.One year in the 4th grade,his teacher was pregnant and another student was starting to get violent towards her and my son jumped to her defense and he was sent to a mental health center,where they said he had ADHD and wanted to take him away from me for 6 months!And I was not to know his whereabouts and he could not contact me.Because I refused to let him do this they insisted that I take him to our doctor and get medicine for him.Our doctor said that she did not think he had ADD or ADHD.But she gave him meds for me to test.After we tried them for a month I just took him off them myself.He was then in 5th grade and the meds were giving him stomach and head aches.One day,I had forgot to give him his meds and later at my work the teacher called to tell me how good he was doing on the meds,lol.And when I told her that he had not got them that day she went silent,lol.So,they said for me to take him to a specific doctor to have him tested to find out how much ADHD he was.The doctor said that he did not have ADD or ADHD at all and that the county loved to label kids!They put him in a private school paid for by the county because they said that they had no schools for his needs in the public school system.They refused to take the label off him.So,be very careful,with school's,doctors and meds.Get 2nd opinions. Good luck!
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@airamtheb (370)
22 Feb 12
It is only now that I get to read real life experiences from people who have ADHD kids after posting a topic about my ward's nasty behavior because he was diagnosed as smart ADHD. He has been giving me some headaches because of his behaviors and after reading all the threads here, I am some kind of relieved and hopeful that the situation we are in "shall come to pass" and looking forward that he can also be one of the successful persons in town despite his being labeled as ADHD. Thanks to all of you here who have shared your own experience and suggestions about managing an ADHD child. God Bless us.
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
we had the same problem with my little sister who has ADHD before. During her early years she can't seem to stay at one place for a minute or two.. she ran around the house like a mad man.. climbing.. jumping and all.. we were afraid of her getting hurt. but now she just turned 18 last October but she no longer have those symptoms of having an ADHD. We never gave her any medications at all.. When she's growing up.. slowly those weird behaviors were slowly vanished. What we did is just let her do what she wants and let her realized the pros and cons of what she have done right or wrong.. trying to control her will not help at all.. Proper guidance and discipline is all you need..