How to handle my Uncle's secret?

@gaea23 (252)
Philippines
October 29, 2011 4:36am CST
I don't know how to handle my Uncle's secret, he's having an affair, I just knew it and it was going on for about three years already. My Aunt never knew everything, my Uncle now's afraid already that my Aunt will know anytime soon because I do have information already but I'm hesitant to tell my Aunt, I just keep on telling her that we'll go to Uncle's office and check on him why is he going home late always but my Aunt always replied that my Uncle was just busy with the deliveries, I can't force my Aunt or even drag her to Uncle's office, I cannot tell her straight that I am 101% sure that my Uncle's having another girl a long time ago. I feel pity on my Aunt but I'm doubtful because of my cousins, I know this will hurt them so much, I myself just a niece had cried loudly when I got the news, I've been living with them since 1999 until now. And my Aunt has a lot of illness, maybe if I will tell her face-to-face, she'll broke down and trigger her sickness. What should I do, I keep on praying that God will enlighten me so I may know what to do. myLot friends ,please do give me some advice.
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11 responses
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I've been hearing this news for many times, and I think you should tell your aunt about the situation what's happening around. Because if your aunt found out that you know something, she get mad at you. Or you can tell your uncle that you know something and if he didn't stop it you tell your aunt. Things will be settled with right and proper communication.
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
Oh my,your keeping a very hard problem to decide what to do.The best thing to do is to tell your Aunt the truth but it my trigger her sickness if you do,which you don't want to happen.I think you could talk to your Uncle to stop his affair with other for the sake of his family and your Aunt.Keeping this kind of secret is really hard and if I was at your situation,I probably don't know what to do too.Prayers can help too.Try to convince your Uncle to stop this affair before its too late.It is too hard to jump into decision that may lead to unexpected consequences in the end.Praying to God for enlightenment and guidance on what to do could really help.I wish that with problem will solve in nice way.God bless friend.
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
I really hope that God will enlighten me and guide on what I should do, thanks to you.
@pardhu8 (390)
• India
29 Oct 11
Hi gaea,its really very sad to here but i advice you to keep it as a secret because as you said your aunt is ill.If a lie can keep her smiling and healthy then its better to keep silent as long as possible.Let the time decide the solution.
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Thanks, that's what I'm doing right now.
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
This is so bad,and hurtful to your antie and will more cause ilness if you did tell it to her.. But i wish the ancle of your ,leave that woman,for no pain felt to your auntie.just talk to your ancle about it, and how old your antie?and the husband?what is the reason he did it?
@HosmanF (92)
• Belgium
29 Oct 11
Good evening dear mylloter friend , hmmm to be completely honest with you , i want to say that in my personal opînion you are currently caught in a verry hard and fragile situation , one because the person involved it is a member of your familly and second , if you come clean to your aunt about your Uncle , you may verry well RISK ending their marriage , not to mention that the ones whom will suffer the most will the children ( your cousins and as far as i ann see you already suffer because of this information ) , i cannot pass judgement and tell you to go and tell the truth to your Aunt , but neither i cannot say to not say a word , but if i were in your place , i will try to have a talk with my Uncle and i'll try to softly tell him that if he does not cease to see this women , that is trying to hurt he's familly , you will go and say the whole truth to your aunt , but that you rather not be forced to do so , and i'll try to beg him to think about he's childrens and the lifelong love he's wife carries for him , tell him that HIM ALONE cann save theire marriage , by leaving the other women and try to work the problems he has in he's LOVELIFE with he's wife . I do not know if this is the best advice to follow , but again this is what i will do , but i will never be the one to tell my aunt , that her husband is cheating her , because i would feel guilty of creating a problem in their marriage , and i could not live with such a guilt on my conscience. I wish you good luck and i hope that your Uncle realize what he may loose , Good Luck and be Strong dear friend , sooner or later thingz will surely work out and the wounds heal only with time. I wish you a great evening dear friend. Hosman,
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Yes, you're right I feel like a beef patty resting in between the slice burgers, I love them both my Aunt and Uncle, I really have to think and think and think. Thanks to your idea.
@JL_Beldua (102)
24 Nov 11
Hello Gaea, i'm very very sorry to here that your problem, but i advice you , just keep aside more for the betterment of your uncle and all, to conceal the secret to the good of all will do aside just for that they go awry, you keep that up so you have something that only you can help them, you just praying to the lord for those who would go after the problems they have and end to also lose your thing that bothers your feelings, i know the lord well help you, to lose that those problems you friend, god bless and good luck friend.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Nov 11
I think I'd stay out if it Gaea. If you talk to anyone, I think you should talk to your uncle about what you know and tell him how much it bothers you. It's really a tough spot to be in, I'm sure.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I agree with gifts reply above. Your auntie somehow knows and can feel it. She prefers to be in silent due to her illness as you have said. She knows her husband needs something she is not capable to give (one reason) If you still have doubts,better talk with your uncle first. After finding it out....then,let them settle the matter (they knows the best action/move to take) have a great weekend
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
If you think you can hurt your Aunt more and will put her in danger, keeping silent about it may do good than harm. Let the couple settle their problem and if your Aunt has discovered it and ask for your confirmation, then give it to her. But if you think you must act now, talk first to your uncle and tell him you know his secret affair and if he will not admit it to your aunt then it's time for you to do so. Tell your aunt about the affair.
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
I think you better keep your uncle's secret for now because it's so risky if your aunt knows about with the illness she's having.You better talk to your uncle to stop his infidelity, or confide to a well respected senior member of the family to talk to your uncle.It's still better if your uncle will listen and keep his family intact without compromising your aunt's health.
@Mashnn (4501)
1 Nov 11
It is very hard to find yourself in such a situation but I think I would try to hint something like that to my aunt. Women to have instinct and I am sure she will soon know the truth. You can also talk to someone else and let him tell your aunt instead.