How long before you ask your chosen one to marry you?

Norway
October 29, 2011 2:51pm CST
How long do you think you should wait before you pop the question? What is to early? and what is to late?
8 responses
• United States
30 Oct 11
Your question is a bit vague. Perhaps you could enlighten with a little bit more detail and we might be able to help you better. Marriage is an investment. I'd argue that it is the biggest investment in a person's life. Therefore, one should be objective, calculating, and free from emotions whenever making any and all decisions. What kind of culture do you live in? Is your culture conducive towards healthy marriages? Do spouses have an incentive to divorce for monetary gain? How well do you know your fiance? Remember, not all people have to marry. Some people have found that single life was meant for them.
• Norway
31 Oct 11
I'd have to argue whit you about that. i think it's the emotions that have to decide what you feel about your girl. And it dosent matter where you are from or what you belive in. So long you feel it is right between you and you're beloved. you have to trust and belive in her. if not idon't think the relationship is going the right way. but i hear you, some are just not made for it.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
29 Oct 11
That is a tough question, i guess when the time is right, i will get the sign somehow from inside me, a voice will tell me it is time to pop that question without delay.
• Norway
31 Oct 11
Yes, i feel that way to. I just know, i'am going to feel it when it's the right time :)
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
30 Oct 11
Hi, Rammis: It depends, on many factors, how fast you can judge your relationship, get your mind sharing your heart in that chosen and lastly your god love, to achieve what you want.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
29 Oct 11
A good relations made by true feelings and many situations. It contains pains and smiles. It is impossible to decide a relationship randomly. One should have to give the love another have to feel it. It is a sensitive feeling.
@Hazelme (647)
• United States
29 Oct 11
First in my opinion you must make sure you really in love with her to ask her to marry you. If you guys been dating for a while now or atleast for sometime and you're pretty sure she loves you and you guys want to spend the rest of your life together then it's time. However many women to like to be too pressure to get marry and you have to make sure it's the right time and that she wants it too. Every relationship is different some get marry after five years they been dating some in two years some in 6 months it all depends. If you choose to ask her and she says shes not ready don't feel bad we women tend to do that. Welcome To myLot my Friend! :D
• Norway
31 Oct 11
Thank you for helping me :D we should take some time and think og it i belive :D make abselutly sure before we do something.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
For me there is no such thing as too early or too late it's about how you feel for that special someone, how well you know him/her and how sure are you that you be with her/him forever some couple get married after just being in a relationship for a short time and their marriage last long and very happy with other while others get married after being in relationship for a so many years but when they get married they end up separating after just a few years together so it is not just about how long have you been with each other.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Oct 11
It's not about the time but about the feeling you (both) have. Question is if you both want to get married, if you both want to share your life together (already), if you both do believe it's destination. Some already do know that in the first minutes, others will never know it no matter how many years they already spent together.
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
29 Oct 11
Well, too early would be before you even start dating, and too late would be after you've already broken up. Now, I'm not saying it isn't too early if you just started dating, but really, it sort of depends on the situation as to when is the correct time. If you've known each other your whole lives, and already spend all your time with each other, and love each other more than anybody else, then the correct time to pop the question will be a lot sooner than if you didn't even know each other a week before dating.