Can a girl and a boy be friends...??

India
October 30, 2011 6:22am CST
The biggest question ever...?? This is the question where argument can never be stop. Some says yes, Some says no, Some says they pretend to be friend but they are not. What's your opinion on this...?? Can they really be friends...??
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34 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Oct 11
Yes they can really be friends. I always been friends with boys and I never had problems with that or them. Not every woman is attracted by every man or vica versa.
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• India
30 Oct 11
You are absolutely right but this is the thing which everyone can't understand. That's the reason i started this discussion.
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• United States
2 Nov 11
Even when there is attraction, you can keep it innocent. I love my best bud, but I'm not IN LOVE with him romantically. Mainly because he is young enough to be my son.. but we are polyamorous... we have other friends we are close to also and we are not romantically involved.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
30 Oct 11
They can be friends but this friendship can be very risky specially if both are young and beautiful...too much attachment and attraction can easily change friendship into love or more likely to lust as children are young and still immatures and unaware of the results....this can happen because this is natural phenomena in human nature.Girls are usually innocent and trust boys very easily, while boys want to have fun , and don't believe in commitments.If boys and girls really want to be just friends, then they should know how to keep control on themselves and also they should know their limits.Specially in Asian countries because western youth knows very well how to take care of themselves.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
30 Oct 11
You may be right ankit_sharma....each soul is a different personality, and unless and until we know someone well, we cannot make conclusion about him.......so I agree, all boys are not same, but age of boys surely plays important role in this.. I think older boys are more matured and do not hesitate to make commitment, but younger boys may be confused with early burden of responsibility as they have to study and make career.
• India
30 Oct 11
I agree with you but the one thing which i will disagree with you is i don't think all the boys are the same. I understand almost all the boys try to be away from commitments but this doesn't mean that all the guys think as a same way.
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• India
1 Dec 11
Exactly. Again i would love to interrupt you. I agree older boys are matured and they are ready for commitments. But do you really think that younger boys doesn't commit just because they have to study or make a career..? I guess they just don't commit because they know that they are not gonna fulfill it. Or if in any condition they commit, they never ever fulfill it. What do you think am i wrong..?
@di44ito (494)
• Bulgaria
30 Oct 11
They can of course i have friends boys and we are just friends nothing else and haven`t been else. I have friends girls which also have friends boys and they are just friends i don`t know why people think that boys and girls can`t be only friends.
• India
1 Dec 11
It's just because it's their thinking. As soon as the mentality of the people changes there will be no more further discussions to this question.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
30 Oct 11
Any relation in the universe is mainly depends upon "understanding". And situations are also caused to this. The type of society you are living is a factor. If you are living in a village(like me), then it is a big problem to make friendship with girls(for boys). If it is in urban area that is common one.
• India
30 Oct 11
This is the exact thing which is going on these days. Some people accept it and some are against it. That's why i said it's a argument which can never be stop.
• India
30 Oct 11
If they think they are friends then they ill be friends if they want to be lovers they will be.. That's it no third person can decide the relationship between them....
• India
30 Oct 11
Exactly then too this world have some kind of people who say "how can a girl n boy b friends". That's what i wanna know, if the culture is changing n everyone is getting advance then why these people can't...?
@daud4ms (218)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Oct 11
yes, boy & girl can be very good friends. Those who understand the limit in friendship they turn out to be very good friends life long. Although many says that boy and girl can never be friends and love factor comes in between, which i think is very natural, but this does not end the friendship.
• India
30 Oct 11
Completely agree with you.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
7 Nov 11
Personally what is wrong with guys and gals being friends? The issue is if the 2 are married, is there allowance to be just friends without it leading to something else. I know I personally have friends who are male, and some of them have been friends of mine for many yrs. now. There is often times there are things we share in common and talk about that just helps make the days brighter for sure.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
i think it is possible. i have many guy friends and none of those have turned romantic - at least well none has proposed love to me except a few who we never stayed friends anyway. :D
@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Nov 11
Yes, I do think that men and women can be friends. I have male friends that are just that. My husband has female friends that are just that. It's not impossible for men and women to be just friends.
@garson (884)
• United States
14 Nov 11
This question carries cultural perspectives. For many parts of North America, Europe, Australia, people would not question too much. You can see that on TV and movies produced in North American or Hollywood. As you would probably aware, boys and girls play together, hang out socially, study together, party, and do other things. When they become adults, men and women can still hang out socially even when they are married and have kids. In some other culture, there is tendency that boys stay with boys while girls stay with girls. You might be gossiped or talked about if a boy hangs out with a girl. This could lead to discussion of purity, gender expectation, etc. Back to the question: While certain culture does not seem to encourage friendship between a boy and a girl, there is nothing wrong with friendship between both genders.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
26 May 12
But of course.. I have a few guy friends.. They can be friends if they have the same interests, but both genders just seem to hang out with the same gender. But they can still be fiends, like bro and sis.
@Mashnn (4501)
30 Oct 11
Of course yes, I know some who are friends yet there is not strings attached.
• India
30 Oct 11
Hmm. thanks for your thoughts.
@ayvanee (149)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
A girl and a boy could always be friends. There's a big gap between being friends and being a couple. In fact, I am a girl and I have more guy friends than girl friends. =)
• India
15 Nov 11
Well, this question is some what funny! There is no problem in being each others friend. Actually, some girls feel shy or get afraid to make a guy as her friend. They say " Never trust any guy now a days". They first watch the nature of that guy for some days and then step forward to make him as a friend. A girl can make a stranger as her friend, unless the guy is from her school or college or office. Making a girl happy and feel her good as her best friend is a very tough job!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
I will speak in my own experience on this question. Can a girl and a boy be friends? Yes of course why not? Why do they need to pretend? I can pretend to be friend to anyone. I do have boy friends and we really are friends, just friends. I treat them just as I treat my girl friends and I found no problem with having boys as friends.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Girls and boys can definitely be friends. There is nothing wrong with that. After all, relationships are just friendships gone deeper. This is why couples should always remain to be friends, even after they are married. Men and women can retain that clean friendship, as long as they have respect for each other, and understanding the limits of each other.
• United States
31 Oct 11
I have a few friends that are men and there is no interest whatsoever. I am satisfied with this. I've always grown up having male friends.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
1 Nov 11
Absolutely! Men and women can be friends. Having said that, it’s usually because they’re at different stages in their lives or there are practicalities they’ve worked closely together, met each other through family members, or known each other since childhood. Whatever the circumstances, the familiarity and certain common denominators make them feel like brother and sister. They can be themselves with each other. They don’t feel any pressure to put on airs, impress, or to look their best all the time.
• Romania
3 Nov 11
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great question i like to have women friends i invite them when i go out and i have great time especialy when they hit by guys who came whit pick-up lines trying to get them .one of my girl friends introduce me to a girl who like me for a while ...yes is great to have women friends wherever you go girls look at you differently...and guys too...i like when i'm friend whit a girl i'm just friend i say her to the start i don't want she will think i make myself friend whit her just to try to get her in any way...
• China
1 Nov 11
There won't be pure friendship between a boy and a girl, do you want to ask this? Tell you the truth, i do not trust it until my best friend (of coures a boy) say he loves me, the pure friendship transfer unclearless. At last, we become stranger as i have not become his girlfriend. So i don't think there are pure friendship between a boy and a girl.