My dad wo'nt let me.
By tamirs
@tamirs (1807)
Philippines
November 1, 2011 12:22am CST
This morning i woke up early.
I saw dad sitting in our couch massaging his upper left breast,right to where the heart is.I ask if he is having difficulty in breathing,and he said, "a little bit".
I gave him his medicine and he drunk it.he is suffering from heart enlargement,though he is drinking medicine as maintenance,i still want the doctor to check on him just to be sure he is all right.
After drinking his medicine he went to their room to rest.After a while i heard him gasp in pain,not too loud but enough for me to hear it.I rush in to their room and look after him.But he said he is ok,He just need some little rest.
I ask him to get ready for ill take him to see his doctor so we can be sure that he is ok and to check his condition,but he won't let me.
Its always been like that.We are always dragging him to see his doctor because he is so scared to know what his condition is or he will go to see the doctor but wont let us come with him.
We so much love him to leave him like this but no matter what we say he still insist to not to go,or go by himself.
What you think should i do? Will i insist to come with him or let him go by himself.?
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10 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Nov 11
Hi Tamirs 
That is a painful situation and I have been through that. I dont know the reason but the parents all over the world seem to be this way. I remember, my late grandfather did never take me when he was consulting his heart specialis just because of these reasons. But I was still quite young at that time and so could not force him my way.
I believe you should take your dad (or at least an elder should) to the doctor. Or better get his reports that he might have and meet the doctor on your own. Also another way that you can get an information about his health is to meet the doctor he is consulting personally and tell him/her that you are his child and want to know how good is his health condition. But beware, in case there is anything to worry about(I pray there is nothing to, but still) instead of feeling low and helpless, do discuss this with others at home or in the family and I am sure you will find better ways.
That is a painful situation and I have been through that. I dont know the reason but the parents all over the world seem to be this way. I remember, my late grandfather did never take me when he was consulting his heart specialis just because of these reasons. But I was still quite young at that time and so could not force him my way.
I believe you should take your dad (or at least an elder should) to the doctor. Or better get his reports that he might have and meet the doctor on your own. Also another way that you can get an information about his health is to meet the doctor he is consulting personally and tell him/her that you are his child and want to know how good is his health condition. But beware, in case there is anything to worry about(I pray there is nothing to, but still) instead of feeling low and helpless, do discuss this with others at home or in the family and I am sure you will find better ways.
@bird123 (10658)
• United States
4 Nov 11
Dad is an Adult. If he insists going by himself, let him. Besides there are limits of what that doctor can do anyway with that enlarged heart other than a transplant. Your dad already knows this. Allow your dad his dignity of deciding, however you can stay very close without actually going with him. Think about that.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 11
You must insists to go along with him as I think he might not go to see the doctor because of pain. I pray that your father will get well soon.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
i think your father is not being stubborn. he does not want to bother people around him. he must be wanting you all not to worry. 
most older people are like that.
i think it is better to call the doctor to come to the house. it might not be safe for him traveling or be pressured going to the doctor.
most older people are like that.
i think it is better to call the doctor to come to the house. it might not be safe for him traveling or be pressured going to the doctor.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
I am sure your dad doesn't want you to be worried that is why he wants to hide what he feels.
but,you have all the rights to know his condition and I am sure your dad should be fair about this too.
Talk with your dad and convinced him that you will come with him to visit his doctor.
He needs company with his condition right now.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
i think you should go with him and know about what exactly is his problem and his medical condition.as if you let him go by himself,you will never come to know about the actual problem.
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
1 Nov 11
So sorry to hear this about your dad.I say all you can do is offer to go with him if he says no let him go by himself.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
Have time to see the Doctor by yourself. Check his condition from the doctor whom he is seeing and doing the routine check-up for him. You have the right to know since you are his daughter. Your Dad loves you, his own family because he does not want you to worry. Not that he is afraid but with the pain he is dealing with, he knew very well his do's and don'ts and that he wants to do it himself.Just keep an eye on him and never leave him alone, follow him secretly if possible. Always be prepared for whatever circumstances that may arise. Be attentive to his needs most especially at night. Be prepared,attach the emergency number of the hospital on the phone, place the key of the car inside your dress, get the number of car service that you may need to reach anytime.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
If it's possible, you can try to ask the doctor to visit your dad at home. I don't think he will go to the doctor if you let him go by himself, because as you mentioned he is really scared to know his condition.
@Mashnn (4501)
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1 Nov 11
That is called "Levine Sign". It is a sign that signify that the heart is not getting enough oxygen, and in some cases precipitate a heart attack. Is your dad on nitroglycerin medication for chest pain or angina or what medication is he taking. If I were you, I would sit down with my dad, let him know that I want him to be checked because you really care and accompany him to hospital soonest possible. Don't let him go to hospital alone. He needs support and encouragement badly.
