Online Buddies

Hi Graceekwenx, That must have been really annoying. I am practically going through the same thing. I must have got up on the wrong side of the bed that day when I befriended this girl in chatting. She seems to be nice so I continued chatting with for a few days. This happened during my holidays. Finally it was time for me to get off the fantasy island as I had to go back to work. This is when the problem started. I didn't have the time to chat with her but I did leave her some offline messages explaining my situation. She got pretty upset and emailed me by saying that I am a cheater and that I have found another girl. She wanted me to give her my number. Luckily I didn't because at that point I did realize how possessive she can be. I hardly sign into chatting nowadays because I do not want to read her traumatizing messages.

I will immediately cut off such chatmates. If they are my friends they will understand me well about everything without explaining anything. So you try to explain him about your feeling if he is really your friend he will understand you otherwise just leave him.

I am the one who's demanding. I think it's proper no matter how busy one person is to tell the other that you have something to do. Like sometimes my online friend would say hello and then disappear after that, it's just rude. Because in my case, i would say hi and then tell my friends that i couldn't chat for long because i'm busy so i have to go.

Was this man from Ohio, by any chance?..lol...I met a 'nutcase' from Ohio that expected me to stop everything and talk to him. He was very demanding. If I didn't talk to him, he would leave very nasty offlines. He even followed me around the net, leaving messages for all to see. I was sorry I ever met him. I have since blocked and deleted his butt, ever since I found out he was Bi Polar and Manic Depressive. That explained it all.

Hi Grace! It is about three years that we have been friends online. The friendship started with her very generous help in re-designing, moving to another medium and even hosting my blog on her hosting plan for quite a long time. Her help at a time I was struggling with the design and functionality of my blog was great. We had some rough moments thereafter because she suspected [because I'm a non native and could not have written good English, that I plagiarize]!!! We talked it out on chat at great length, in fact, quite animated chat it was. :) In the end, we cleared the air. We are in touch even now & I continue to seek her help often. But we don't demand of each other & do not misunderstand. She says so many time that she is busy, she needs to leave or she wants to retire to bed. I also tell her very clearly if I'm unable to carry on. We generally start with preliminary 'Hi" and make our status known upfront, to avoid annoyance to each other. And both of us understand. I think people need to be very understanding for good friendship. Pl make it clear to him and if he refuses to acknowledge, detach from him.

I know exactly what you mean. I have a friend in real life who thinks everytime I get online when she is on that I have to talk to her. Throughout the day, we text constantly and talk often. When I get home to get online and relax, I don't want to have to talk to anyone. She gets very upset with me when I don't talk to her online or if I just say a few words. She's super childish as well because I'll get the silent treatment for a few days when I'm busy online and not speaking to her. It's just to time consuming and draining of my energy to try and make everyone happy these days.

I have a few friends just like you have mention.And to be honest with you,I tell am busy,and if am online then i will talk with you, Some friend stay on the computer all day,because they don'y have anything to do.So you just have to tell that you have a life of your offline,and let them know whats what. The few i fine annoying i just delete them,because i don't need any annoying friends. I sign in messenger once in a while because i have to do my house work,and other stuff.If i come online,an am on mylot then i will sign in messenger an chat a while.Some friends can be demanding,but you just have get them straight.

Luckily for me I don't have that problem, normally when I am online, I put that I am busy and or I leave my status as if I am not online so people won't bother me, because personally I know how annoying that could get. A few years ago I had a friend of ours that everytime my husband or I would get online I was instantly start receiving IM's from him, it's like we haven't logged on to our e-mail and he already checking up on us. We told him one time, do you have a life because it seems that as soon as we get on you are still online, do you ever get off line? Of course he never responded, but at that time we had mutual friends with him and they used to tell us the same thing. Eventually we changed our internet provider because we moved out of the neighborhood and unfriended him on FB, so he can no longer communicate with us. But those type of people can be demanding and then they get upset with you when you don't respond to them.

Hi Grace, I also experienced same dilemma, that's why upon signing in I choose the invisible option in order them not seen me online. By doing so, I now work my mylot discussion without me interrupted. Sometimes when I am in the mood to chat I open my Facebook Chat to see who's online in FB, I do chatting while I am in mylot sometimes commenting /responding if not working for my started discussions.