Why does fixing the house is so stressful ?
By mor
@stringer321 (5643)
Kiryat Ata, Israel
November 2, 2011 3:41am CST
Ok , so my dad decided to make a new flooring that is made of ceramics.
Every floor unit is a square of 60 cm x 60 cm...
Well , there are two main problems when fixing the house : (1)the work itself (2)the stress it makes
about 1:
I had to help my dad and help the worker a lot by moving heavy furniture , bringing materials to make the glue for the floor units , bring many tools that I always forget where they were and so I start running in the house looking for them and dad always hurry me ! and WOAH !!! We had to clean many times all of the dust of the dusted materials like gypsum , cement and many more because of the worker can't make a clean job.
about 2: the main problem is my dad's attitude , he never thinks forward about problems that can come up. He just starts working and finds that he needs some tools , materials and that the work was a lot more complicated than it looked like.
He is always in a pressure , thinking the job must be done fast and now. When he hurry me to help him without notice , it is so annoying because he can't relax or work slower and calm. I actually grind my teeth and my heartbeat is messed up because I feel like shouting on my dad.
well , I know I can't change my dad but I asked him next time to plane the work in more details and try to prevent mess and dirt so the work won't get too much longer.
I also told him to stop being so in a hurry and to not do things without making me ready to help him.
3 responses
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
3 Nov 11
When I used to work with my father in his store I used to get mad frecuently because he was always repeating his commands one and again,and it drove me crazy,but we have understand them his age make them not to have a lot of patience so we have to have it.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
4 Nov 11
You are also right , many of the days I had patience for him and I didn't move away from him while he worked , I was ready to help him all the time , I even volunteered to do things instead of him.
The thing that made me angry was that after all the work was somehow done , he just started to look for other things to fix and he just didn't let it go ! He started fixing things , making dirt and we had to clean the stairs again with water...
So it's like promising we are done whene actually we were not done.
@gidz0518 (194)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Hello, for me there are some instances where fixing or renovating a house is stressful and sometimes not so. Before, we use to renovate our house. We make it more space and added new tiles in the floor. It become more stressful for me because we use to sleep in my grandmas house were it is not comfortable for me.
My parents ask me to help by giving foods to the worker and all. Well, after the renovation, it all goes well.
But in your case, since your father is always on the hurry and not planning what to do, then it is very stressful. I think you must ask your father that being in hurry and doing with out planning is not to good.
Planning is a must so that the work goes out well.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
4 Nov 11
Yea , that's exactly what must be done. Planing is a must because it's not something one can fix while working. If one gets stuck , he sometimes must call for help or else he may fall down from the ledder or something...
So , to plan the work , one has to see what he is about to deal with , try to imagine how it will be , and think where the problems might come up.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Nov 11
The thing about the fixing is that we mostly think it's an easy job which we can do in a few minutes with some help of family/friends. Also because if we see others do it, it looks soo easy. A piece of cake plus it saves money.
But the ones who do it that easily are also the ones who have a lot of experiences, made a plan.
I found out too that fixing mostly can't be done in a few minutes. It's better to make a plan. Write down what to do when and do it on a bit longer term. So you won't get tired, don't make mistakes, are not in a hurry and it fun too when you do it.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
2 Nov 11
Thanks for the respond and nice number of exactly 1200 responds :)
I know what you mean : I sometimes imagine I have a team of house fixers that do the work clean and elegantly and even with fun. too bad my dad doesn't have patience for planing or even working one step at a time.
Whene I will have my own house , I will design it in a way it will be a lot easier to fix it or even moving the furniture so I can clean under them.
I will make fixing the house a nice activity that can bring the family together. Not couse tention or stress.
