Is there any effective way of stop nagging?
By piya84
@piya84 (2580)
India
November 5, 2011 11:01pm CST
My mom nag me for everything.It just such superb irritating.
On Saturday and Sunday it begins from early morning.She comes back literally after every 5 minutes to wake me up.I want to sleep bit a more but she want me to wake up and help her in house hold chores and go shopping with her.
Anybody here have figure out any effective way of stopping nagging other than yelling back and leaving home?HELP! 

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12 responses
@pardhu8 (390)
• India
6 Nov 11
Its really very funny because i regularly see this in my home.My mom always behind my sister..she reminds her for everything...the show begins from morning bed to till night.She guides her in each and every task.She too feels the same way as you feel.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Nov 11
hi p i ya well if you want mom to quit nagging do your part and helop her with the chores. go to bed earlier and tell mom y ou will help her if she will let you sleep later. but then do not blow her off and not turn a hand.there are two sides to every story and your mom has her side. as an elderly woman I can see that you have no or little respect for her as your mom. so get off your high horse and help; her then she will not have to nag you to do what you should have been doing all along.look if you do not like moms nagging grow up get a job and move into your own apartment hen you can sleep all day. of course no mom to clean your apartment and fix you meals bugt shucks you can do that for yourself. you are a very pretty young woman bu t your pout show you are a rebel and I doubt if you do much to help your mom at all.when my son was yo ur age he was taught to obey o ur rules until he was old enough to move into his own apartment. he grew up into a fine man.

@sid556 (30953)
• United States
6 Nov 11
As a mom, I have to go along with Hatley on this. When my daughters live with me, they help out. It's not an issue here. Even my little 17 yr old helps with chores and all. She also works and is very responsible. I don't have to even ask her often. She can see what needs doing. Independent living may be a "western thing" but seriously, that is our job as parents...to teach our young how to live and survive on their own! The cool thing about humans is that we have compassion and hearts (or should) and even when we are independent, we will still look out for our parents and siblings. By the time we are adults, if raised properly, we should be a help to them (not a burden) and an addition to society. Is it really an Eastern thing for families to keep their children as children into adulthood. At what age do they become adults over there?

@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 11
Hi Piya!
My answer to your question may disappoint you.
You see your mother is your best well wisher so you will have to understand that whatever she does - she is doing for your betterment.
Have some more patience and listen to her with intent.
You will realise her importance once you get married and start living with your husband and your in laws.
You will realise her teachings all the more when you yourself become a mother.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 11
If we remain in touch till such time you become a mother and bring up your kids, I will ask you the same question again ..... Lol!
My point is - as being your Guardian and Protector, your Mom probably expects something from you and when you fail to come up to her expectations, she nags you.
You could discuss the issue with her in details.

@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
hello,
LOL! maybe that is the nature of our parents! haha They keep on nagging us for us to learned and help them. You know I respect them but sometimes I really want to say NO for them. I am also having a same problem like yours since I am still a students. So, my mom thinks that I can help her in many things. Sometimes its really tiring to stay at home than staying at the campus. 
@clearwater18 (695)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
My mom also nags. I guess most mothers do. Sometimes, I really answer her back but I don't think that's an effective way of stopping her. Whenever I do that, she just nags even more. I guess the right thing to do is to tell her that you don't like her nagging you and that you'll help with the chores.
@clearwater18 (695)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Well, that is normal. Sometimes, I also feel that way. But even though we feel too lazy, still we should try our best to help them.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Hi Piya,
Other than leaving home? Geez, I really don't know. Tell us more about the situation. Do you work during the week? Do you help mom out normally? What time is she waking you up? I ask because I'm trying to understand if there is any justification for your mom being so pushy about you getting up in the morning. I know that when I lived with my mom, there was nothing that would lessen her nagging. It was how she was and if I didn't like it, I could move out and that's exactly what I did.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
My mom always nag, waking us up continuously and shouting and nagging until we did not leaving our bed, How to stop, just follow her and all those thing that she wanted you to do then she will stop. Mom is always like that to us. be calm and obey them. so their not repeating them selves and nagging..
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Thats what parents are for. LOL. Just kidding. I would just sit her down and tell her that on the weekend I need to sleep longer because I can. And tell her that when you do get up and have breakfast that you will be more then happy to help her. See if that works. I know all about yelling, but it gets you nowhere.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
6 Nov 11
WOW..sounds intense..perhaps if you have a talk with your mom
about your feelings as far as helping with chores it may help. another
thing you can do is on friday night before to late you can maybe
vaccum floors. or maybe starting cleaning the bathroom just to let
your mom know that you don't intend to get up so early the following
morning...hey sounds crazy but it may work....











