Flirt boyfriend
By daiweian06
@daiweian06 (1405)
November 6, 2011 3:40am CST
We've been in a relationship for 2 years and seven months. I know him way back in college (more than 2 yrs ago) when I was only in 3rd year. What I knew about him is that he is so good, religous, intelligent and kind. People call him as their best friends. They ask for advises because he is a open minded and brave enough.
Last wednesday morning I caught him chatting (in this popular networking site) to another girl Slight flirting because He said that "He appreciates the beauty of that girl, he is asking of where's the girls place, how old is she, And last is that he is hoping that they still have next time to talk".
I just a little bothered on what's going on. As I read the chat message I confronted him right away. Why they are talking like that? And why he only sent me a message right after they talked? If he didn't noticed my "in between message" (WOW AHH).
And most of all. Why he deleted the conversation right after they talked?!
According to Him. They are just friends. And that's the only time that they had a talk. He knew that this girl is from our company before. He just said that she is beautiful from nowhere. He had no intentions at all. He deleted the message right away because he is afraid for me to read those messages. He is very Sorry about what had happened. He keeps on apologizing me for a whole day every hour. He said he is crying the whole time that I'm mad at him. And he didn't go to work for 2 days because of that. He promised me that he will never do that again. He deleted the account of that girl right after we fight about her. He said that he don't care about that girl and so on.
What I must do about this? Do I still have to forgive him? Do you think he's saying the truth? How I can gain back my trust on him?
Im so shocked and hurt.
Please advise. I really appreciate your opinion.
Thank you very much.
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11 responses
@discussminu (108)
• India
6 Nov 11
I think you should give him another chance. May be he is right. And if he is, it will be horrible to loose such a beautiful relationship, just because of a misunderstanding. I think he is telling the truth, because he has deleted her account as well.
I think you should ask him not to be afraid of you, in telling such things, and to be honest with you. But if he does that again, behind your back, then it is something to think of. But not as of now.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 Nov 11
I can't give you an advice I can only tell you my opinion made by the info you gave.
Your boyfriend is not what you thought he is.
He is not good, not very religious, not kind. If he was so he would not cheat on you and keep going on flirting. But he is intelligent and knows how to fool you or at least tries to.
You boyfriend is not sorry about the messages, he is just sorry you found out about it. Dump him he is not someone you can trust. Already the fact he is doing this and he is looking for these kind of attentions says enough about what kind of person he is.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Nov 11
I understand how shocked and hurt you must have felt but deep down, you know how good your guy is and he is telling you the truth. Foegive him and love him for being human and therefore imperfect.
Talk to him about this in a gentle way without accusing him. Explain the evil and the temptation that is on the Internet and that it is so easy to get caught in the trap but the consequences can be disaster.
He has done the right thing to eliminate the cause so be happy you have such a great guy. This could have gone in a completely different way you know and you could have been the one feeling sad and alone.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Personally, I would let something like this slip the first time that it happened because I know that all females do have male friends and that all males do have some female friends. Unless you saw something that he said that was incriminating, then it may have just been innocent conversation. However, if he starts to act distanced from you and it seems like he is hiding something, then there may have been more to it than meets the eye.
@atprudente6 (673)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
Hello daiweian, You could forgive him this time and try to recover your trust in him. But you should not allow your self to be fooled the second time around.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I think you can forgive him and just trust on what he said. But if you feel that he is lying try to investigate. I think its normal in a guy to have a chat on the girl that look beautiful for them but its just having conversation on them and they don't have any other intention because i also caught my husband chatting on his crush, she also always viewing that page of that girl, but i just let him to do that because i know that he will not cheat on me and he also telling me whats the topic they talk about.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Coming from a relationship that has been stained with unfaithfulness because of my man's supposedly being just friendly.. i think you were right to confront your bf. tell him that you are reading such a message from him to that woman meant that there is more to it because based on what you read, it sounds malicious to me annd it sounded as though he wanted something to happen between them. like a relationship to grow.
please be clear with him that you will believe him only if he would promise to stop chatting with that woman and will stay away from her and others who may have the potential to become the other woman. the fact that he is spending time with the person... i'd say that there is more to it than just being friends.
tell him if you do this to him same situation and same explanation i am sure he would think of it as what you have thought about what you saw.
always be on guard, and do not let 'em down. always trust your instincts. alright?
Goodluck and i wish you well!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I will bother me too.
But u don't need to give up.
Do not argue with him also it might trigger of make him mad.
Be extra sweet to him and try your best to have his attention and forget that girl.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
This is from a man's point of view I'll be totally honest with you here this is not to justify men's wrongdoings because even though I am a man I love my girl and I hate guys who betrayed or hurt their girl. Now I'll start my advice for you, first let him explain to you all the details about this but don't approach him angrily he may have a valid reason because men sometimes are just like that we talk or look to a beautiful girl but that's it we usually don't have any other intentions like pursuing the girl or anything. If you are that close to each other then you can feel if he's lying to you when he's explaining. And if you really love her and you said he is good, religious and kind don't you think he deserved being forgiven? But also be careful and be more observant about his activities let him promise that he won't do this again then if he do something like this again then you can be angry at him.
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I am a very jealous person and if I catch my girlfriend doing this, oh she will have a lot of explaining to do 
. However, I would not put an end to our relationship just because of that. You have been together for two years now and putting a stop on your relationship just because he is slighly flirting with a girl on the internet would be a little childish to do. Maybe if he was flirting with a girl in person, that would be a different story and for me that is already a ground for breaking up 'cause they can do a lot more of things than just talking if they are flirting in person. However, if they are only chatting on the internet, in my opinion, that is harmless.
This is what you have to do, keep an eye on him and do not, DO NOT, lose sight of him. Of course you do not have to do this forever, just long enough to trust him again. You should also observe the girls that would come to him. There are a lot of evil girls now that take pleasure on getting all the men they can and they do not care if tose men are sigle or in a relationship.
. However, I would not put an end to our relationship just because of that. You have been together for two years now and putting a stop on your relationship just because he is slighly flirting with a girl on the internet would be a little childish to do. Maybe if he was flirting with a girl in person, that would be a different story and for me that is already a ground for breaking up 'cause they can do a lot more of things than just talking if they are flirting in person. However, if they are only chatting on the internet, in my opinion, that is harmless.
This is what you have to do, keep an eye on him and do not, DO NOT, lose sight of him. Of course you do not have to do this forever, just long enough to trust him again. You should also observe the girls that would come to him. There are a lot of evil girls now that take pleasure on getting all the men they can and they do not care if tose men are sigle or in a relationship. 