I am happy to say that my mother-in-law has really changed for the better!
November 6, 2011 10:39am CST
I know that some of you all are very familiar or quite familiar with my relationship between my mother-in-law and I. In the past, she was very rude and hateful to me. Now, me and her have become much closer. It is very strange... She was so happy to see me and her grandchildren when we all came by to visit. My mother-in-law calls me her daughter and not her daughter-in-law. I am very openly honest with her. I am not afraid to express how I feel whenever she may step beyond her boundaries with me. She appears to adore me and to appreciate anything that I may do for her, regardless of her past actions towards me in the past. I pray that our relationship stays this way, because her son and I have a very close and intimate relationship together, as husband and wife. Our relationship has become so much stronger during the past few months this year. We have a very deep understanding for each other that is just amazingly sweet! My husband and I have been through some bad storms together. Our trials and tribulations, involved more financially and economically. Right now, we do have a new vehicle that we have had for at least, two months now. My husband is in the process of helping me to practice for my driver's license. I already know how to drive really well, I just need the correct validation that will make it official for me to be able to drive independently, that is. Now, going back to my mother-in-law, she is really trying to be a better person to me and to her grandchildren, that I have to give her credit for this! She even respects my relationship with her son, she does not believe in sticking her nose in our relationship, nor for any relationship that her other children may have with their lover's. We talk about so many things together while I stayed a couple of weeks with her. Yes, she has made some bad mistakes, but we have worked them out together. That is the best part about being her daughter-in-law is that we have a solid relationship that is stronger enough to conquer any misunderstandings with each other. I will give you an example of how our relationship has progressed. I came back to her home one evening in a very bad mood. She nicely told me that she had a new cell phone number and that she wanted to give me her new number. In return, I responded very rudely back to her with a nasty attitude. I was actually mad at the moment about something that was between her son, my husband, and I. I took my anger out on her for nothing. Well, after I calmed down, I went to her and gave her a hug and told her that whatever was bothering me, it wasn't her at all. I also apologized to her. She immediately understood. Yet, a couple of days later, I explained to herself the basics of how I respect our relationship. I just could not live with myself, just taking out my anger on her and I know that she was not the cause of it at all. I believe that we all can be this way, with anyone in life. No one is perfect, but God, and if you have the chance to make it right with someone, please do it, because it will make you feel so good inside of your heart! Be Blessed, My Friends!
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7 Nov 11
It is good that you and your mother-in-law are doing great. However, you should still be tactful with these things because you never know if it's just up for show or something (though I am hoping that it's for real). Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
• Garden Grove, California
6 Nov 11
hi crema wonderful I can remember back when things were rocky between you and your husband and you have come a longs ways better now and with his mom too. that is going to make both mom in law ans her son your husband very happy too. I am glad you and her are really getting along well togehter. its good for you both and I am sure your husband is happy too.Yes making things right with those you love is the best feeling there is.I think maybe you have learned with each other to be better to one other,. glad really glad for you. and if thats you in the photo you are very pretty. loll
• United States
11 Nov 11
Well its good to hear that your relationship with your mother in law has gotten better than it used to be, I remember all the problems you used to have with her. Just keep praying that it stays that way. My relationship with my MIL is good and it always has been, my husband says its kinda scary...haha. He says I can do no wrong in her eyes...lol.
10 Nov 11
It's great that you are having a much better relationship with your MIL. I get very uncomfortable if I have an estranged relationship with family, even if it's just in-laws. And it's great that you can be open about your relationship. That you are able to speak your mind to her.
6 Nov 11
That is great the your mother in law change attitude for the better relationship of yours.. I think she realize about what hates ,and the attitude she have.. I am sure that there is purpose on that.. hope you are all good there..
7 Nov 11
cream97, This calls for some celebrations here. So, congratulations amidst of popping champagnes. I suppose this is another example where it says relationship takes time and the people involve will need to go through a baptism of fire from their cosmic lessons ever ready to evolve at every level and obstacle. I am glad that your efforts and patience have finally brought dividends for you. I hope that it will improve with time. Take care.
• United States
7 Nov 11
You are so right, the best way to make the others change with you is changing you first, my mother in law is sometimes rude, sometimes talkative, but never sweet but I think that is the way that have to express and as much rude she is with me more sweet and nice I am, at the end she will change, because hse looking so bad in font of the others when she is rude and I am nice and charm with her. Proverbs 15 1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.