i am stupid

@indahfth (11164)
Indonesia
November 7, 2011 11:52pm CST
Today, I did a stupidity again. I forgot to include the meat into the cupboard. And now, my husband was very angry, I feel very stupid. I always forget something. Now, I can not do anything, but hope, meat is not eaten by cats. I am now, was in the store, accompanied my husband to work.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Aaaw women can be forgetful most of the time. I am too. And so does my mom Guys normally understands us though sometimes it can really be frustrating to them
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I too often make mistakes, so my husband could not tolerate my mistakes.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
Very difficult, to make me understand my husband. My husband has always wanted, I did not make mistakes. I am also hard to make the list. Because, much work is sometimes unpredictable.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
make him understand you and often say sorry make a list to remind you of what you're going to do, if that's possible
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• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
Everyone can be so forgotten. But we must keep moving. I and my wife often forget many things. And we learn that too much forgetting will be dangerous (in some event, I ever forget that I still boil water, til the water dry; fortunately there is no fire). So, we learn that we must prepare everything, and if necessary make a list what we will do. Every morning, before I go to work, I always check all, the ID,wallet, etc. So I will not forget. Wishing your husband helps you also. I think it is not wise to be just angry and yelling.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I always try my best, not to forget all my duties. But, what happens outside of my control.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
Yes. Just pray that I can do. I pray, may God always gives me ease, in life.
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
After did your best, let us pray to God for getting best result. So keep on. Enjoy the life.
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@jdyrj777 (6537)
• United States
8 Nov 11
As if he never forgets anything. To be human is to error. Please my nice lady you are not stupid.
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@jdyrj777 (6537)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Your husband being overly critical of you is what is causing this. Does he ever compliment you on anything?
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I too often make mistakes, and I deserve to say stupid.
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@umabharti (3973)
• India
8 Nov 11
Feel very sorry for your forgeting about the meat and now in tension of the meat eaten away by the cats.Hope the meat is safe and you mght not get problem with ur husband.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I was lucky, the meat is still intact, and not eaten by cats.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
Yes. At least, my husband's anger subsided.
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@umabharti (3973)
• India
8 Nov 11
Good your saved from the scolding of ur husband
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@saphrina (31610)
• South Africa
8 Nov 11
You are not stupid. You are human and we all make mistakes. If your husband want to tantrum sweetie, tell him next time he can do all the things you do each day. That ought to make him realize that you are not a machine.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
For my husband, I've too often make mistakes, and careless. Making it difficult to be understood, Whatever I say, will not be useful.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I do not know, maybe it should be like this.
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@saphrina (31610)
• South Africa
8 Nov 11
Why do you take this sweetie?
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
8 Nov 11
Hai friend...We all are human beings so we will forget the things some times... I am not a house wife....Just 18 now...But Even some times,I forget the important matters...And my mom will scold me...I remembers that only on that time....I don't know that what's wrong with me...So there is nothing to worry about forgetting things...It's usual....So be happy...And try to remember that by making a small note, you can remember very serious matters... Thank you....
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
When my job very much, I always forget something.
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@carolscash (9493)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Do not allow any man to call you stupid! You don't need him or anyone who calls you names. You are above that and you deserve more than that. It is no big deal that you forgot this as everyone forgets often. If my husband called me stupid, I would tell him that I was only stupid for putting up with him.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I will never be, say something like that, to my husband.
@sid556 (30973)
• United States
8 Nov 11
Hi Indahfth, You are NOT stupid just because you forgot something or did something wrong. You are simply human. We ALL do things like that from time to time. I will say that if someone is there to yell at you and call you stupid at every little mistake, that often will cause a person to make more mistakes because they are more focused on not upsetting the critic than what they are doing. Gosh, your husband would be yelling at me all the time if he had to put up with all my screw ups!
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@sid556 (30973)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Hon, you aren't getting it. You WILL make mistakes. You are human and we all do things like that. I make so many many mistakes it isn't even funny. I get frustrated with myself but I also don't have someone over my back telling me that I'm stupid and making me feel bad for these mistakes. I think your husband is wrong to be so harsh with you. I am sure that he makes his own share of mistakes but you are too kind to point them out to him or maybe you are feeling so bad about your own mistakes that you aren't noticing his. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Why do you put up with his insults and anger?
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I've run out of words, I do not know, have to respond what, all members of myLot, have the same response. I feel very comforted, because all members of myLot, giving a positive outlook, over me. Hopefully, I am more able to focus, so I do not make that mistake again.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
because I am aware, has made ??a mistake.
@bellis716 (4800)
• United States
9 Nov 11
We all make mistakes. I could enumerate some of mine but prefer not to wash my dirty linen in public. Not this time, anyway.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
Everyone makes mistakes. The sentence was, that I often use to calm myself, and defend myself.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 11
Hi Indah, hope you don't feels sad and stupid. It is usual that not everyone of us are born perfectly. Hope your hubby understand and don't scolded you a lot. When there are too many things in hand to complete in our daily life, it is usual that we tends to forget certain thing. Hopefully, the meat that you had forgotten to put in the fridge, is not eaten by cats. Do you mean, your area have lots of stray cats? So, better be careful the next time you buy meat again. Remember to put it in a safe place before you are out from your home.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I am lucky, meat is not eaten by cats. It's a great relief. I did have to be careful. Hopefully, I will not forget about trivial things like this anymore.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 11
Happy to hear that the cats had not eaten the meat. Because nowadays, meat is quite expensive item. Hope you will be more careful in future.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
don`t write like this indah..every of mother or wife had make mistake, because they are human being too.. why your couple did not understand that you never mean like that?? had you told that you forget?? and you are only human being too??
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@Hatley (163984)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 11
and this man is super human , never makes m istakes, does n ot forget his duties, he must be a God then. I d o not care what your husband says as that does not make it true. you know this in your heart, he is too angry and thats wrong, you are a human not a machine ask him if he wants to live with a perfect machine that will do all but bow to him, he needs to get some lessons in managing his temper. If he does not like mistakes ask him then why he loses his temper and is nasty and mean to you as thats a huge error on his part. I thought Indian m en respected their wives so he is lacking respect, shame on him;. thats a much worse error than any of yours.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
It's hard to say it to my husband. There is something, which makes me have to relent, and accept all who made by my husband.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
My husband, not like if I make a mistake. Moreover, I've too often make mistakes. My husband said, I never learned, from mistakes.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Nov 11
Don't feel overly down about this. We all make mistakes and forget things at time. We have so much on our plates as wife/mother. If our husbands tried to do all the things that we do they would forget things at times. I think that they don't realize this because we at times make things look easy. But if they tried to do all the things we have to do and remember I'm sure they would forget something. They have to be understanding we don't expect perfection from them and they shouldn't expect it from us.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I felt comforted by your response. I'd love to, say it to my husband. But I did not dare. I too often make mistakes, and too often scolded.
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• United States
20 Nov 11
Well I hope that you are able to do better so that way you will not feel so bad. And your husband will not be so upset. Yes we all make mistakes unfortunately some people think that we should be perfect and not make any but that isn't possible.
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@evitz711 (65)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Hi friend, Don't feel bad about what had you done. I believe all human being is not perfect and mistakes done had its reasons why it happened. I also do some mistakes and I dont blame my self. What I do is to think what are the possible hindrances that happened before the mistake done. I do observe my behavior and please don't pity yourself. Be strong!
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 11
I've too often make mistakes, it makes me feel very stupid.
@Hatley (163984)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 11
hi you are nmot stupid you are just human ask your perfect G od husband if he is really perfect and has never made an error.you may be his wife but you are not his servant to be yelled at and made to feel worthless. fight back tell him to cool his temper. You know you do not deserve his treatment. tell him if he is that angry you can just pack up and let him wait on himself.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I do not have the strength to fight back. I also do not like to argue. Perhaps, better silent. So that anger does not continue.
@woheri (88)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 11
all of us will always get unhappy thing. Do anything surely never always correctly, we make a mistake, we must to getting sorry to ourself. Maybe we need fresh thing to return our clear of bad moment. No problem i think of your problem. You have to positive thinking about all, although your husband self.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
Positive thinking, indeed the best.
@cher913 (25831)
• Canada
8 Nov 11
well, everyone makes mistakes...doesnt your husband ever make any? dont feel stupid, it was just a mistake.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
What I see, my husband rarely make mistakes like this. Probably ever, but I do not know.
@weasel81 (2498)
• Australia
9 Nov 11
Your not stupid, no one is perfect and we all do stupid things. I've done that before put meat in the pantry instead by accident, namely because the check out person put it the wrong bag. It was not with the cold stuff.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
Yes. You are right. No one's perfect.
@Hatley (163984)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 11
indahfth I think your husband is partly to blame if he is snarling and angry all the time as that would unnerve me and make me forget things. tell him he is not perfect. look he is a human being not God and is a pt to make errors too.Why must you a gro wn wo man ask permission from your husband he is not G od but just a lowly man. I know you must be In India but surely women are respected in India are they not? I am in the Us and when my husband was alive I told him where i was going but no my 'god I never asked permission as I am an adu lt woman., this is wrong and he should control his temper and not make nasty remarks about you. he also makes errors and do you get upset of c ourse not. look have some self esteem, you are not his slave but his wife there is a big difference.why must you people leave food out to spoil use your refrigerator as meat will not keep outside a refrigerator.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
Sometimes, I also feel trapped, by tradition, and culture in my country. I just got a husband, a very grumpy, and I can not reply to anger. If I had a husband who patient, maybe this will not happen.
@jazel_juan (15748)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Ohh no one is stupid my friend. You did not do it on purpose, we all forget right? forgive yourself. We all learn, and next time make it sure you won't forget it.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
Yes. Maybe all the pressure, and I fear for my husband's anger. Which makes me, often make mistakes.
@lynnemg (4533)
• United States
8 Nov 11
What you did was an honest...and very human....mistake. I think that we have all done that at some point or another in our lives. I have to tell you, just last month ago, I bought frozen meals for my husband. He had specifically asked me to pick them up for his lunches at work. When I got home, I took some other things into the house, and answered my ringing phone. When I got off the phone, I left my house again to pick up the kids from school. When we got home, I went into the house and cooked supper, helped the kids with homework, and got them off to bed. The next morning, I went about my day as normal. This continued for several days. I completely forgot about the frozen meals I had bought for my husband until many days later. By then, they were all spoiled, and all that money was wasted. I felt horrible. My husband wasn't thrilled, but in the end, he understood that what happened was no more than an honest and human mistake. We all make mistakes in life. Please don't beat yourself up for something that you did by accident.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I too often make mistakes like this, so that makes me feel stupid, and can not be understood anymore.
@Cutie18f (9557)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
Presence of mind is very important in everything we do. I can understand what happened to you lately because that also happens to me. I forget to do very vital things sometimes. It is good to always write down everything to remind us of important matters.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 11
I ever write down important things, I should do, but sometimes does not help. Because, sometimes there is something unexpected, which makes me forget that I made notes.