What do you think about matchmaking?

I am not a believer of parents making mtch making for their children. I believe comes even in late age and only the individual has the right to choose her or his life partner. I don't see any wrong in parents match making but I just don't see it fair.

Matchmaking is common in my country. In my country 80% people get married through arrange marriages in which bride and groom's parents are involved. A Hindu astrologer then see a Kundali of the bride and groom and gives his opinion regarding whether the Kundali matches or not. Actually, the things don't proceed unless this process happens, still a lot of people in India believe on Matchmaking and if the things are not working out no matter how good the groom or bride is they won't proceed ahead, I find it ridiculous though but people have their beliefs and I can't force them to change it, however, I've told my parents that I'm not gonna look into this Matchmaking thing and would proceed ahead and marry a girl if I really like her no matter worst our stars are.

I also think it is a good idea to have the matchmaking. At least it will give you one more chance to know more friends and see which will be your right one. Some people's lives are regular and they don't have other opportunities to know more people. And matchmaking will introduce you someone who is not a total stranger. It is also safe. I love China

I don't know what to say on this matter. Maybe it works with other people but not for everyone. I still prefer someone I like, someone I love than the matchmaking idea.

Oh yeah, I saw that a lot, and my dad tried to hook me up for this girl that I don't really like before. It was a bad experience, and I had a bad fight with my mom and my dad about it. Anyway, I knew that they love me, and they really want me to be happy or find someone that makes me happy too. But the method they used just not what I want my marriage to be. I don't want to be arranged, and I want to meet someone that is truly fall for me, not anything else. Is that too much to ask?

I am actually a frustrated matchmaker. I am trying to hook a friend of mine to one of my girlfriend's friend (did you get that?). However, it seems like it's not working out. They barely exchange messages, they don't have anything to talk about and they don't even have plans on seeing each other in person. I guess love will come whenever it's meant to be. It doesn't matter if you met him/her by fate or by friends, if it's your time to fall in love, then you will.

Interesting topic. When we were advisors to a college group in a Chinese church we belonged to, a young man we were close to brought a problem to us. He was Chinese from Hawaii. He was attracted to a girl who was not born here in the US, but who lived here and went to the church. Her father was one of the elders. I will call my friend J and the girl L. J was in a dilemma because L's aunt (her mother was out of the picture and in an institution) would not let L date him. J was in college here in California, and L was sent across the country to go to college. Her father and aunt wanted her not to get involved with anyone who was not already established in a career, and even though J was in college, they had decided he wouldn't make enough money to meet the family's requirements. We were rather shocked at this. She got married at some time after she graduated, and he was the last of the group to get married. He married a wonderful girl who is just right for him, and they are still together, thirty years later, and very happy. I have no problem with parents being involved and making their opinions known, but I don't think two people should ever be forced to marry if one of them doesn't like the other. I also think someone should not marry someone their parents think is wrong for them as long as they have that opinion, since parents often know us better than we do ourselves. They may see a potential problem that we don't. I think it's best to have the blessing of both sets of parents before proceeding with the marriage.

Although matchmaking could work for some people, I don't think it would work for me. I prefer destiny too. For me, the more you force yourself into someone, or let someone force himself into your life, you'll only get bad results. Both parties would only appear to be desperate for marriage. Marriage should be a choice. Although matchmaking could indeed work, but the process of it should be done with care. Love is such a fragile thing.