Do You Think Divorce Is Too Common?

Amen! I hear people say, oh I just don't feel the same. Guess what people? Feelings are fickle. Real love is making a committment and deciding no matter what, we're sticking this out. People say the passion has faded, and we're just friends. Uh, the best marriages are based on friendship. My parents, grandparents, sister and BIL, they are each others best friends. You can rekindle passion. The only way I'd divorce is if he cheated on me (and if I had kids I'd see if we could work it out) or if he beat me (even if I had kids I'd still leave if he beat me of course). My parents have been through hell, and my dad is currently going through hell with his 52 year old wife, my mother who is riddled with dementia. He's still by her and takes care of her personally. Even though he is 56 and he knows he has years and years of this ahead of him.

I don't think that it's the divorce that is the problem, but the marriage. People are feeling so lonely these days. We feel that if we are not in a relationship that we aren't worth anything; that we have to have that in order to be complete. This is just an illusion. We see others in relationships and envy them. Our families asking when we will get married. Society tells us at an early age that getting married and having children is what we are supposed to do. Of course it is okay to get a divorce, if you feel like it. We can rationalize all we want, but sometimes we just need to let go. Everyone deserves happiness and staying in a relationship that isn't working out is not going to do that for anyone. I know that a lot of people stay in unhappy relationships for the sake of their children, but this is really not a good idea. If the parents are not happy together, then there is going to be tension and the children are going to pick up on that. All it can really do is cause everyone more stress.

Yes! I do think divorce is too common I think people today don't take marriage as seriously as they use to back in the old days, also I think a lot of people don't put the same value on marriage today And marrage is now thought of more as just a piece of paper, and does not hold as much value as it did many years ago, so now people are getting divorced at an alarming rate. I think a lot of people today especially women yeah I hate to admit it because I'm a women, but women tend to be more in love with the idea of getting married and finding a prince charming and having a magical wedding instead of thinking about whats important and whats real There is no such thing as prince charming the most we can hope for is a loving responsible man that accepts us for who we are, and when it's all said and done a fancy ceremony is not gonna guarantee that the marriage will last Also people should not marry because of what society says or anything else but only honest and true love for each other, I don't mean to sound like a jerk but maybe if people thought first before leaping into marriage there would not be so many divorced couples today getting married is a serious thing.

Unfortunately, normal People don't get divorced and give up quickly on their marriage like you think, it only happen often among Hollywood and Bollywood elites and celebrities. Commoners around the world don't submit to such type of clowny behavior commonly practiced by actors and actresses during their career cycle where marriage and divorce are just part of the publicity game to get into media limelight and newspapers headline. DOn't people had been taking their vows seriously more that you want to believe. Nobody got divorce over practically nothing, you must have come from another planet, on earth, we just don't do so often.

You are so right! It is crazy how people can get divorced without even trying to save the marriage. Look at Kim K being married for 72 days. That just doesn't make sense. The meaning behind the institute of marriage has become a big joke to most. Its not like our parents and grandparents who stayed together through thick and thin. The marriage vows say through the good time and bad in sickness and health. However, as soon as a couple have their first fight they are thinking of divorce right away. I give you alot of credit that through all you have been through divorce is not an option. Good for you and I hope you are married till you are both old and gray rocking in your rocking chair. God Bless!

It may be seen as too common but I think for most people who get divorced it is with a period of time trying to work things out and a divorce is inevitable after falling apart. I don't believe people should stay together if they are that unhappy as a couple and have tried to work things out.

I believe so, there are people out there who i believe because they have the power and the means take marriage for granted and with a snap of the fingers marriage is poooff! gone.. just like that.. but if they are like us, who knows to hold on, who knows how to survive and get through, we get to stay strong and make it work.. we also went through a lot, though breaking up crossed my mind, yet it was never really something i could do.

Personally, I feel that marriage is something that you do only once in your lifetime. Why get married just to end it in divorce? Marriage like love should be forever but of course unless you're in an abusive relationship then divorce is necessary. But other than that, people should learn not to give up too easily.

I certainly agree. I know of a woman who spent a lot of money on a huge wedding despite enduring major conflict at home. Two months later, she divorced. Why? He was boring!

I think that a couple should try to work things out. A divorce is a serious big step. I do think many people get divorced for little things. I wouldn't encourage divorce but I can understand why some people do get divorced. Many people change over time. And that being the case some spouses have different thoughts and feelings on matters. That in itself can lead to a lot of problems. Some couples as well have to deal with cheating spouses, abuse, or spouses who have addictive habits that lead to the detriment of the family.

I think that divorce is common now..If the partner is not matching with you, Leave him...We have to look the children's future...In my view,Marriage is not an essential part in our life...But I love babies....I Thank you....

Congratulations for that. You are such a role model. Most people get married expecting alot but the moment things do not turn the way they expected they run from reality and instead opt for divorce or separation. It is true that they don't take vows seriously.

Very common, YES! It's sickening to hear a divorce has been done almost everyday! I think that divorce is often the resort of those people who can't take responsible and keep to their word. It makes marriages and vows insubstantial! People who would think about getting the divorce over matrimonial problems shouldn't marry from the beginning. maybe there should be a law to check on those people who want to marry, like test them to see if they would really stick to each other and not divorce. Divorce is a disaster, especially to the kids. They have to suffer because of their parents' shortcomings. It's unfair to them. Many couples don't take marriage vows seriously, it's as if this is only a game to them that if you grow tired of it already, you quit. the only reason i could understand divorce is when there is presence of abuse and insanity.

Is it okay to get a divorce whenever you feel like it? NO! Couples should stand for what they promised before God. Couples should at least try to patch things up, make the relationship work, and put God in the center of their relationship. Now I remember Kim Kardashian and her 3-month(?) marriage. Ugh! The only right time you could think of divorce is when you're abused, not just when you feel like it. I salute you for staying married for 7 years! :) I hope your marriage gets stronger, may you have many many more years to count. Wish you all the best!

I wouldn't think that people get divorced over nothing. As with any relationship, most misunderstandings start from something deep rooted that the couple never really talked about and when something trivial comes up, their argument becomes a full blown quarrel. In my country we don't have any divorce and trying to get an annulment is really expensive. So here in my country couples don't separate as easily as that in countries where divorce is legal. There are some spouses who have to endure a lot of abuse because they cannot get out of their marriage because we don't have divorce.

I think it should be something when all else fails....it depends on the person. I wouldn't like someone cheating on me...or if you fall out of love. I don't know anyone who just felt like getting a divorce...they have only done it when the love is gone!

It goes to show how much has changed in the last 50yrs or even less, at times I think it is to easy to get divorced. But I really don't want to have to go thru it, I was able to walk away from my ex (thankfully I'd not married him) give him his stuff and I kept mine. He was abusive and it took a long time for me to do something. With what you hear about namely the wives being able to clean out the ex husbands, of everything they have. I think it should be just spilt 50/50 end of issue, both of you have to start over. I know out here in australia, you only have to be with your partner 6 months and the law will look at you as a married couple.

I think the main problem is that people who are not really in love AND committed are getting married. This is not a slam due to age, because this can happen just as easily to people in their 30s as it does to a couple who is 18. People get married for the WRONG reasons. The only reason that is acceptable to tie yourself to another person legally, physically, emotionally for LIFE should be because you expect to be with them for life and you cannot imagine life without them. People really should not get married because their parents want them to. People should not get married because they have children. People should not get married because it is 'the thing to do'. People should not get married for the benefits. I believe divorce happens more often when people married for the wrong reasons in the first place. It also happens because of abuse or abandonment - but I have seen more often that abused people DO NOT LEAVE. Abused people somehow believe it's not only THEIR FAULT they are being abused, they also seem to believe THEY CAN FIX IT. If you are being abused, it is not your fault, nor can you fix it. The ABUSER needs to fix it, and most abusers are unable to because they do not believe they are abusing anybody! Also, abused people tend to hold on to a bad relationship by saying things like 'nobody else will have me' or 'what if I'm alone forever?' when they really should not be looking that far ahead until they have gotten rid of the bad relationship. I get so frustrated with people who will not move on because they will NEVER be happy if they stay, which in most cases means they will never be happy. I have let go of friendships with people before because they chose to remain miserable - and I am tired of hearing about their misery when they have an option to get away from it yet they will not do it. NOW... if you married for love and nothing but love, and you trust and have faith in your spouse despite circumstances, situations, and other people (and attitudes of other people), then you will probably make it through anything.

I think getting married is not a game and before to do it the person have to vizualize their life together in order they can affort their life together,I have one divorce which I didn't iniciate but afters the years understood that it was the best that could happened to me,but if we are living a good marriage like the one that I am living now after 11 years that I found great man, I think that he would have to do something extremely bad against me to end this marriage. Many American young adults now live together for a while as a sort of trial marriage, before entering into the real thing. Most of these relationships are not lasting ones. In earlier times, these couples would have been married and divorced, leading to a higher divorce rate. Couples are now entering into their first marriages older than they did in earlier generations. Many committed couples have chosen to live in a common-law relationship instead of going down the wedding aisle. This is very common among the senior citizen population, who would have their government support payments reduced if they got married. At the present time, the media tells us that 50% of all American marriages will end in divorce. This data has been supported by a number of research studies. So, if you think of a room full of 100 people, 50 of them will have their marriages end in divorce. Divorce have to be the last possibility, we have to try all the ways possible before go for a divorce.

I don't think its too common but I'm almost 100% positive that it has increased so dramatically in the past decade or so! People are getting married either too early or without a seriously strong connection between their partners, then they have children, and then they divorce and the child is forced to be separated between parental figures. This happens really more than usual, and its pretty saddening to see one split apart between guardians! In other instances, couples have huge weddings, with such elaborate features and details and then a month afterwards they are split apart! What kind of sense does that make? They've wasted a life's fortune on the perfect dream wedding and then they divorce quickly afterwards.