teenagers and the same old line

Hahahaha Good luck with that. Trying to instill positive attitudes in teens is next to impossible. We had no success when we had teens. I am convinced that if parents gave birth to teens instead of cute wonderful babies, there would be no problem getting people to be using birth control.

Oh my, same problem here my dear. I have 3 young teens, but only one is girl and two boys. They knows their chores, but they neglect to do it. I do not understand as they grow up they're going lazy. Unlike when they were smaller ones, they always do their tasks without reminding them (duh) The best solution i did is,I do not give them extra allowance for neglecting their chores

I have one child, is a boy ,he is five years old,as a child he always want to eat snacks,i can do nothing to prevent him to eat too much.

Teenagers know they will no longer be able to become lazy when they grow up that's why they try to work as less as possible. They don't want to be pathetic that they spent their entire life not having a good day's rest. For this reason, an incentive will be of help for them to obey commands.

Hi. I am the eldest among 7 and I was exposed with household chores at a very young age and yes, there were time I complain of doing such things over and over again. But now that I am old enough, I realized that I shouldn't have complain. I don't know what makes me realize that but I just find myself thinking of not regretting every little things that I did in the past. Just talk softly and calmly with your girls and I'm pretty sure they will understand and do it.

I have the same issue. My daughter will be 13 in January and she always says "Why do I have to do it?" or "I'll do it later." I get extremely frustrated with her. I usually just kindly remind her that I do alot of stuff for her and if she would like I can stop. That means she would not get rides to and from friends, I will not buy things specificly for her, I will not make her dinner for her or do her laundry or anything that she needs me to do for her. I really would like to know what else I could say to my daughter as well.

Maybe a chart with stars showing when and by whom a job was actually done? Posted big and plain on the fridge? My daughter's 29 still lives at home, pays no rent or utilities, has no chores, aNd I help her with childcare.. She can be real snarky in comments, yet if I complain about any little thing in the house it becomes WW3.. To this day I would never, ever imagine being like that with my mother.. well, sorry to vent!

Oh, how well I remember saying that myself and hearing my boys say it! I handled it by telling them we are a family and everyone has to pitch in but we could compromise. What would they rather do? We wrote down all the chores to be done, plus the ones I did myself. Of course, my list was waaaay longer than theirs! I put a star on the ones I could not physically do and that left the rest for us to divide. Once they saw how much I do they reluctantly (but gratefully, they told me years later) split up the remaining and actually took a couple of mine. This gave them a sense that they had some control over their lives, some choices. Also that they were part of the team we call a family, that they were contributing in a valuable way to the health and comfort of our home.

Sorry I can't help you deebomb, those are the things that sometimes make me happy I don't have kids

i think whatever line you say, it will not lessen the complaining. unless you give them a serious talk, then everything will be the same. why not tell the mother of the children about this? she has power over them more than you do.

For me yes they have there owned line also so be good them so that when you get old they get close in you so it is happy time in you.