to go back or not to go back....
By whengcat
@whengcat (1457)
Philippines
November 12, 2011 1:59am CST
Hello guys, I just want to ask for some opinions or advises about this
Well to start, I want to share some info about why I resigned from my work for almost 13 years. It was because I can't stand my boss anymore. His presence was too stressful to handle because of his attitude. I reported directly to him so almost everyday of my life there were mixed emotions and at the end of the day I feel so exhausted and drained.
It was two years and a half to be exact since I resigned and my life as of today is I can say on a struggling stage. I put up a small business but its not booming and debts are growing here and there.
Then a friend of mine, who happens to be my co-employee back then who also resigned months after I left told me that she's back there in that company again. And she also told me that our boss through that company is re-hiring ex-employees(like me). She ask me If I want to go back there.
There starts my "weigh things over first" thinking. Should I go back and give up the business that I put up? My business is kind'a home based so I get to take care of my kids also but what if I go back and work all day long, who will take care of my kids? we can't afford a nanny to look after them. My husband is also working all day to make both ends meet also. Also, there is one thing that bothers me. Knowing my boss, He's the kind of guy who gets back at people. What If he re-hire me and then at the end bring me down?
So, what do you think guys, should I go back or not? forget about it and find other ways?
4 responses
@vexxus (712)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
I think if you don't have a choice, and you are in a dire situation and really need the work to supplement your financial needs, why not go back.
Maybe your boss really believes on your ability and he thinks that his former crew are far more reliable than newbies.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Well I would suggest that you hold it off first. Think of the things and the reasons why you left in the first place. Your boss - he/she is still the same person who would be your boss when you return. That stresses you out, right?
Next is you have a business, and its mostly at home and that gives you time for your children and for your husband, i guess plus the fact that you earn, i would say that it is enough already.
If you had to leave for work and take back the offer, i'd say it must be something that you really need - for you to sacrifice your time away with your children.
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@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
well my friend, you're very true and I really love to be with my kids everyday. But with our struggling business, I might fail to give them a bright future. And that opportunity(I hope)is the only way I could think of. Anyway, it's just a possibility right now, I'm not sure yet of what to come...thank you for your concern, I really appreciate it
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 11
If I were you, I will not go back as you said everyday there are mixed of emotions and at the end of the day, you are exhausted and drained. This can makes one person depressed and having a weak emotional how can you serve your boss well? Moreover you have children to take care, so having a small business at home is so suitable for you. You can still rely on your partner as well, don't you think so?
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@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
thanks wongchoiyee, but I guess I have to try anyway. But I'm not giving up my business because there's no certainty yet that I will be absorbed again by that company. I also just want to see if things are better there by now, specially my boss. My friend told me that he had changed.....a little...
@mmgonzales (882)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Hello wheng! People change as what constant in this world is changing...Maybe the boss that alwAys gives you stress before wil be the boss that will encourage you and lift you up with the debt you have..who knows? What you feel maybe is the Fear of the past..why not take a deep breathe and try all over again...perhaps he/she was there now that you need work that will help you now financially...Just do your work and dont be attached to your boss emotionally...leave whats in the office when you go home and face it again the next day you come in...Be the best! Hope i help you!!!
