Let him go.
By tamirs
@tamirs (1807)
Philippines
November 14, 2011 9:14pm CST
NO.
Keep him alive.
I won't stop working.Do lots of overtime.
I'll send you money,in any amount that i have here.
Just keep him alive.
My uncle is dying of complicated diseases.
He has tubes and tanks connected to a machine, all around him.
The doctors says my uncle's body is giving up.They say He is still breathing because of those tubes.But without those,He will go.
They ask the members of the family to let him go..
But my cousin wouldn't want to let him go.
She said those words to them via telephone because she is away,working hard to buy medicine and pay bills for my uncle.She love him so much.That even if she knows she need to let him go,she won't let him.
We love him but we know he is giving up.We would like to give him up but we are not the immediate family.Is my cousin right to not let my uncle go? I don't like to put you in their shoes but if same situation happen to you,What will you do?
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7 responses
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
15 Nov 11
its a very difficult situation to decide on.you can neither say him to let go nor you can see him suffering each single day.i can not say anything about such situation.i keep this out of my imagination if i am going to loose some one from my family.it shakes me to the core.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
Sorry dear but I don't agree with mercy killing or euthanasia.
It is called mercy killing, but still it is killing and it's a murder..
I understand the feelings of family around, seeing someone we love suffering.
But, then again I don't agree with the process.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
For me if I have many money I let not go until such they are to go but not to put a tube in him not to do that way.
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
cat,i cant say that money is never a problem since he has been on and off the hospital since last year.They sold some of their property and even lot just to continue his medication.
But also there are help coming in to them from family and like i said my cousin is working abroad.So i think when it comes to monetary,its fair enough.
@Queen_11 (307)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
The wife should be the one deciding on this or may be the brothers/sisters of your uncle. One thing that I learned is that if a dying person becomes heavier than his/her usual weight, then that is a sign that the person is already on his/her way out. Not sure if it helps but your cousin might consider taking this to account. Letting go is really hard and I truly can relate to her.
@mmgonzales (882)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
My hubbies uncle is within the same condition as your uncle. The hospital in our town inform that cannot help anymore with the situation. But my hubbies unties are not giving up. They bring his uncle to one of Manila's Hospital and stay at the ICU for quiet sometime. Now with Gods help and with the Love of his family. He is fine now..
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
I remember a mylotter last month who posted the same situation as this. Deciding about such situation is really hard. The immediate family normally won't let go of their loved one. But if we are to be practical and really think about what the patient feels, it is best to let him go. He's having a hard time and really in pain. The family members don't want to lose him but I guess the guy wants to be released from such pain. I hope she will decide to let him go.
