Accomplice to a Felony
By ddaguno
@ddaguno (3107)
Philippines
November 14, 2011 11:45pm CST
I am friends with a couple who live together but are not married. they have been together for 6 years and has a child together.
The problem is, the guy has a wife and two kids in a different country and the girl is fully aware of this. i only became friends with them a couple of months ago and they dont know that I know. so i whenever im with them, i act like they are a legit couple.
I feel sorry for the girl. Since she knows that the guy is married, she also probably knows that he will leave her sooner or later. A few weeks back we watched a movie about infidelity and she cried all through out the film. I think she feels guilty but just couldn't let go because she loves the guy so much.
But I also cant help but feel guilty for befriending them, knowing that there is a family that is being lied to. I sometime feel like I'm being an accomplice to a crime... Adultery is a felony and punishable by law right? what would you do in a situation like this?
4 responses
@Mashnn (4501)
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15 Nov 11
I think your problem is not being friend with her but not having to let her know you know the truth. In my case, I will tell her what I know or heard about the man and then try to advise her to leave him and look for another man. It is not worth wasting her time with a foreign man just because she needs his support or something. What will happen to her incase the man go back to his own country?
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
The man is not a foreigner. They have the same nationality. But still the relationship is doomed from the start because the think he will eventually go back to his original family.
It's not about money. She can fully support herself and the child without him. what I know is that they really love each other. it's just that it's in a sort of twisted way
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
15 Nov 11
Wait a minute, you were saying they are not officially married, they simply live together that is all. That is an adultery in the first place. She simply a mistress to this guy. That is her choice for her life, and no one know better than her. So, you shouldn't feel guilty about it. She has to take the consequence, and take the responsibility of her action. As a friend, you can only give her advice. Listen or not, that is her choice.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
I cant give her advice because I pretend that I don't know their situation when I'm with them. You see, I only learned about this from another friend who is in the US. It's supposedly a big secret so I cant speak a word about it.
If only I can give them advise, then I'd ask them to stop.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
15 Nov 11
There ae many cases like this but if this is love then i would rather not have it.If the girl feels guilty then she deserves to suffer for it as she has done this wilfully and knowingly.Christ has said 'Thou shalt not commit adultery'. If they are Christians then they have committed a cardinal sin.One day or the other this man`s wife will find out then they will have to reap the consequences.The man also deserves to be condemned for this act as he must have seduced the girl into becoming a prey to his sinful desires.
@mariahhh (1327)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Nov 11
That is really a hard situation. It will be very hard for her to leave the guy since they have a kid. I really do not understand this kind of situations since I am strongly against cheating and cheaters. I don't get why they have to have a relationship in the first place, and making it complicated by having a child. Is loving someone can truly make you forget everything, and go on with it even if you know that it's a sin?
You don't have to feel guilty about it. you did not do anything wrong, and I do not think it's wrong to be friends with that kind of person.
