Patience is a virtue but there's always a limit on how patient a person can be
By ajpa23
@ajpa23 (92)
Philippines
November 16, 2011 7:56am CST
Patience has never been my strong patient when I was young. But entering the medical profession and having teaching as a part-time, I have to learn to be patient and be patient as long as I can. And so, I had devised some methods to make me calm down/ increase my patience.
1. IGNORE THEM. The best strategy. If I ignore them, I won't be affected. Acting that they don't exist makes me feel calm. So, no maiming will happen. :)
2. BREATH IN & BREATH OUT. or SIGH. It can really calm a person.
3. THINK SUPERIOR. If the first two isn't enough. Think of their actions as stupid and reacting towards a stupid thing will make you stupid. So, think "I won't react to these lowlife creatures". Haha. Just kidding. But it's something like that.
4. If it's still not enough. PROJECT YOUR FEELINGS to a different thing. I punched a wall once. It hurts so I just punch pillows. :)
That's the first 4 rules to be patient or maybe I should say it's my main rules to avoid maiming an annoying person. :))
Well, how about you? How patient are you? And what do you do when you can't be patient/calm anymore?
6 responses
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
16 Nov 11
I am very reactive person who responds to all my dislikes without looking or watching the environment. I am less patience, i do not have the ability to cop up with wroh things, i just do what ever i need. My rules my way is my attitude. What about you?
@cassije74 (247)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
You reminds me of myself too! sometimes i am overeactive that even a small things will create troubles and ended it big. I don't want to be yelled at and insulted especially if there is somebody who hears it. And so i react easily in a defensive way without patience.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
16 Nov 11
I am patient if I need too.
What I don't understand is what you mean by: ignore them.
You mean you ignore the patients so you can stay patient?
I think it's normal to fight for what you want, to work for what you want, to ask for what you want and to go explore/search for what you like to know.
If you don't do so, are only busy with calming yourself down, you won't get much wiser and nothing will ever change.
@ajpa23 (92)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Oh, it's not really like that. When it comes to my patients, I got the professional mask. Since I know they're my responsibility, I don't get angry at them. Annoyed, yes. But I still don the mask of patience. :) 1. Ignore them could mean you ignore the person or you ignore the action.
Yes, I agree that one should also fight for what he/she wants but doing so while you're swirling with emotions is counterproductive for me. So, I have to calm first so that I can think/act better.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
Well, I too have learned to be patient as I grow older. There was a time that I easily react and usually end up arguing with people. But life has thought me many lessons and now I live my life with much patience. Well, it might be coincidence that I have come upon this post of yours considering that I too use the same technique that you have listed here. I do agree that they do work and that has been my way in keeping myself calm and making my life happy. But most often, what I do among the things listed above is the first one... Yes, I have learned to ignore those that I feel and think that is not worthy of my time and thought. That way, I live happily and can work effectively. After all, nobody can bring a good person down.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Nov 11
Very sound points. I think that in general I am going to be a very patient person. However, I think that we all there breaking points. And it is even more scary when a patient person explodes in anger than a person that is really not that patient. You got to believe that there have been many things bottled up within them. Just waiting to explode in a way of absolute horror and all it takes is one little thing to really break that barrier.
It's not the big things often times. It's just a bunch of little things. Patience is something that is going to come harder to many of us but it is just one of those tools that is absolutely necessary to survival. We cannot really blow up without consequences and thus there are just going to be many times where our patience is going to be tried and tested to the absolute fullest. I try and breath deeply and walk away when I can. That seems to work. Still we all have limits.
@deadlywario0 (57)
• United States
16 Nov 11
I cant agree with this statement more. How-ever i refuse to really "show" my feelings if you know what I mean. It also depends on what or who i'm dealing with
