How can I trust my friends

trust is one of thing that is so delicate once it is gone its gone, its with us when we are born, along with our innocense then as we grow people start letting us down but when someone like a good friend betrays that trust , a friend you have given all that trust lets you down you never get that trust back, even when you meet someone new and trust begins again there is always a little doubt in the back of your head that if one can betray you anyone can betray you...

don't judge your friend because they dating your ex-girfriend ,i have the same situation years ago whit a brother of one of my girfriend, i don't know after i broke up whit his sister he hate me ,i think just male ego everybody deserve to be happy anyway i respect him .find new girls the past is gone man see you soon my friends

Hi Tkarabulut, Well,while you should not blindly trust anyone, it's not healthy to mistrust everyone either. You say you loved a girl 8 yrs ago and your friend dated her? Well, your profile says you are 23 so that means you were 15 when that happened. I'm sure it was hurtful but it was a long time ago and you guys were kids. It's rare at that age for a relationship to last. That is the age when you date and get to know what it is you want and don't want in a partner. It's good to date others and if you and that girl were meant to be together, you would have been. Also keep in mind that just because one friend did one thing that you felt was deceitful does not mean that all your friends would do that. If you put the incident into percpective then it should help you overcome these feelings.

I wouldn't have a problem with a friend dating an ex of mine as long as they hadn't told me to end the relationship before as it wasn't working out just for them to get together but if it was a while down the line and I had moved on then I wouldn't see a problem with it. The problems occur when you still have feelings or your friend said you should split to then get with them themselves.

So, that will be a jealousy issue. After 8 years, I haven't chatted or talked to that girl, I might as well forget her existence in this world. Anyway, that might be a different story for you. I hope that you can overcome this, and maybe you are right, you can't really trust anybody nowadays.

I don't we have to judge everybody for the errors of one person, that is like when a woman says that she doesn't believe on the men because her ex husband was a bad one,if that man was bad doesn't that all the men are,and is the same with friends. Don't judge everybody with the same stick,you don't how many good friendship are you loosing.

For me you can't trust if you encounter bad in your friends but if not then continue trusting.

Hi Tkarabulut, I wouldn't have a problem with it if it happened to me, as long as I was not with the person now or for many years. Your friend and your old girlfriend deserve to be happy if they find happiness together. Why not just be happy for them. They didn't do anything to you. You were not in a relationship with her in 8 years. I think maybe your friend could have asked you, but maybe he thought it wouldn't matter since you are not with her for so long. I wouldn't let it tear a friendship up. All the best to you. I hope you work it out.

Trust nothing but the belief you keep in relationship. It is something to be developed not created.

Trust, big deal. First You should pick carefully your friends, then you have to talk with them, sharing little secrets, heard their secrets too. And then if nothing bad happens trust in them, telling more personal things. There is not a rule or something like that, just feel it (in trust)

I think friends are the one of the best troustable ones. You must trust all the friemds, only rare of the people cheats you. If one of your friend is a cheater it does not mean that all others are cheaters. So trust your friends. Change your thoughts.

I think you are just stereotyping. If a friend of yours had betrayed you, it doesn't mean that all of your other friends will also do the same. You just have to forgive if your friend had done you wrong. Also try to listen to his explanations on why he did that to you. Anything can be settled if you just open your heart to forgiveness and hopefully, trust can be built again.