HELP!! i have a problem, my friend fall in love with me. What to do ?

Malaysia
November 20, 2011 8:16pm CST
Dear all, i have a problem right now, my closest friend right now is likely falling in love with me. The problem is i like her to be friend only without broken her heart. So what to do?
4 responses
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Every person who fall in-love do feel pain also. IT does not mean that we can excuse a person from not being hurt. It depends on how the pain gonna vary. IT is flattering on your side to know that your close friend fell in love with you. In my opinion, I advise you to ask yourself if you have same feelings about her and go on with one decision, an option to choose not to hurt her but your love for her is only for friendship sake and maybe you gonna be a sacrificial love because you are great friends, or tell her in a way which you think might not give bad interpretations by her because of your opinions. And, you would rather choose a long lasting relationship of good friendship rather than take risk in a relationship that in yourself might not have a good outcome. Tell her all the things you have seen in her that she may able to understand well your side. Let her feel that if ever you gonna talk this things about her, a very sensitive topic especially from a girl, make her feel that nothing will change as far you have discovered the truth about her feelings for you. Let, her also realize that, it is not your intention to hurt her, it is your intention to be honest to her most that anybody else because you treasured her as a true and real friend. A true friend will learn to understand, ask her all the things why she fell in love with you so that you will know how to answer and make her relieve from all the things she might be expecting to be. In friendships, especially when the depth of friendship is greater than any relationship with other, sometimes, it always end to such things like in you, because, almost all the bound feelings of being are said to be there.But, if the friendship is better, save it rather than try other levels that may break the grounds and might not good or favor at the end.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Genericbe is correct all you can be is honest with her. Sit down with her and talk to her about it and let her know that you do not mean to hurt her and cherish her friendship and don't want to lose it. Be honest with her and yourself. Its the best solution.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Thanks for the BR
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
Well, sometimes friends lead to relationship but most of the time its better to stay as friends than going into something that you will regret. The best thing to do is to be honest with her. Tell her that you want her to be a friend and that you will not take any advantage of what she feels towards you. However, you should also be consideret in her feelings. You can say and be honest but bne sure to say it in a way she will surely understand. Hope this helps.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Just be honest with her. Tell her you cherish the friendship and don't want to lose it. She may need to time to adjust her feelings for you. But being honest is the best thing you can do.
• Malaysia
21 Nov 11
Are u sure being honest is the right thing? how when she know the truth and then she avoiding me?
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
21 Nov 11
Is she or he Fat?
• Malaysia
21 Nov 11
she is not fat... she is beautiful... but i'm comfort friend with her.
@evitz711 (65)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
Hi Friend, I think you must have a heart to heart talk.. Sometimes, friendship ends when love enter the relationship. You don't have to be afraid if you can break her heart because I think what you will say is understanda ble. You have to explain everything you want. I myself experienced this before my Best Buddy falls in love with me but because I told him that I love him as a friend only. He doesn't feel bad because he says that he can be with me whenever he wants I can talk to him whatever topic I want. No hassle and no heart break. Lifetime commitment, its friendship. Whatever happens he will always be the best buddy I have. A friend can understand. Don't be afraid. Good Luck!!
• Malaysia
21 Nov 11
a heart to heart talk? when should i say to her?