How do you define a true friend?

@bnsp09 (258)
United States
November 21, 2011 7:48am CST
How do you define a true friend? I have a couple who are supposed to be our best friends. They are even supposed to be our matron of honor & best man in our wedding, but they have not come through for us when we needed them! They are there when it's convenient to them, when they want to hangout or when they want to tell us good news. Now they just found out they are expecting. How am I going to be able to count on them once they have a baby when I can't now? I texted the matron of honor & asked for help this weekend trying to put together different center pieces so we'll know what to do when the date gets closer - no response! My issue is the best man's dad is supposed to be doing pictures at the wedding and I'm scared if we are no longer close with them that I won't have a photographer. What do I do?
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@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
For me a true friend is a friend you have when you are down. There are a lot of people who will share your success but only few will be there on your deepest moment. The moment you are the down is when you will know who your true friends are. I know who are mine and I will never exchange them for anything.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
24 Nov 11
Very few is who mine are! My sister, and one other person who I would not trade for the world. She's been there for me any time I've needed her!
@Mashnn (4501)
21 Nov 11
Don't lose hope in them if your really believe they are your friends. You can try to call them and check out what might be happening. Incase, they seem as if they are not interested, then they are always other people who can replace them.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
24 Nov 11
This is true. It seems like when we moved out of their house things have been on a downward spiral & haven't stopped yet. we'll see.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
22 Nov 11
I firmly believe in the old saying, that Friend in need is friend indeed! Man being a social animal requires some companion at every time. Spouse becomes a partner once he/she grows up! Before that the human being has a very important companion apart from the parents, in the form of a friend! A friend I feel is a philosopher and guide n one's life in its own way. Most of us are frank with our true friends and never hesitate to share the secrets of our lives with them and if needed don't hesitate to have their advice! This shows that we have immense faith in them. Thus in my opinion friendship is built on the foundation of the faith and it is nurtured with the mutual understanding between two friends! Thus in my opinion, true friends are always with us at every time we need them and they are ready to extend their helping hand without even asking for it! Here in this context without knowing exactly how much you people attached with each other, it wouldn't be a proper thing to pass a comment! But since you people are giving them a spacial position of best man in your wedding, means that they are having good reputation in your books! It is looking really like a puzzle to me,why should they behave like this they are not even replying to your message! Yes photographer is a important person during the marriage ceremony as he captures one of those best moments of life! It would be really a difficult for you to decide on to hire a new photographer or not during such situation! Wish you all the best and hope you will have a reply from your friend soon so that the things will be settled for you to have a happy marriage! God bless!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
22 Nov 11
A loyal, forgiving person. A real friend is a person that loves us, so bad times may come and we might commit some mistakes but the friend will forgive. And a friend is loyal, if the person talkes behind the friend's back they are just not a friend. I guess...
@mandylee (267)
• China
22 Nov 11
i don't think them as my friends.i think that friends must help each other unconditional at anytime!like your situation,the couple are selfish,when they need you,they would find you but when you need them they don't stand by you!if i were you,i will see them as a ordinary friend but not a true friend
22 Nov 11
hi:) a true friend for me is those person who you can rely on in time of problems, and who can laugh with you in time of happiness.
@GemmaR (8517)
21 Nov 11
I think that one of the most important things about being considered a true friend is that you need to be able to trust them with anything that you should need them for during the course of your life. If you can't trust them then at the end of the day you know that you probably shouldn't have been friends with them in the first place. I have had one of my close friends since I was 14, and the rest of them I have known since I was 16. I have sadly lost touch with most of the people that I knew during my childhood, but I think that this is inevitable in life when you grow up and change.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Nov 11
I don't know what I would do if I was in the kind of situation that you are in, except that I would be very upset at those friends of mine for not being there for me when I needed them. With that said, the way that I define a true friend is someone that you can count on to help you in your life and also someone that you can lose contact with for a period of time and when you get in contact with them again it is like no time has passed since the last time you'd talked.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 11
Hi, Like the saying goes, " A friend in need, is a friend indeed". I'd say a true friend is someone who provides value to others. By lending a helping hand in time of need, true friends always enrich the lives of people they touch. It's a blessing to have a true friend who would stood by us in sickness and health. Unfortunately, nowadays it is hard to find such a person. In your case, I think you need to replace your photographer with someone who is more reliable. It's a big day in your life and you'll definitely need pictures to be taken. Memories will fade but, snapshots will stand against the test of time.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
A true friend is someone who will always be there for you no matter what happens. Whether something good happens or something bad, that person will help you get through that. You should try getting the confirmation from them so that you'll know if they could make it or not. If they won't reply, then you better have some back-up plan and try to look for another photographer.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Henno bnsp, If they're you're real friends they would be there for you especially on times that you needed them. It's really frustrating how they can't be reached too easily when they're supposed to play an important role in your wedding. I hope you get them answer if they can really make on the big day coz if not it's better to have someone else or better yet hire a photographer.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
21 Nov 11
For me a true friend is someone who thinks for you before them. By true friend I just get One name in my head, and I guess he is the only true friend that I ever found.
@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
you can find true friend if you need help or you need some one to help you and she/he is the one who will help you or be with you. it does it means that a people that you always with is your true friends.
• China
22 Nov 11
When I in trouble.
• India
21 Nov 11
well a true friend will be who will be help full to you in your needs at any time and he will not have any type of greedy towards you or your family and will always be helpful.