Thoughts That We Know Are Going to Get Us in Trouble If We Voice Them
By megamatt
@megamatt (14290)
United States
November 23, 2011 8:55am CST
I think that we all have times where we have many thoughts in our mind and not all of them are going to be something that we should say in polite company or even not so polite company as the case will be. Potentially borderline offensive, as we have things where while they are in face true to some extent, but we shouldn't really say them. Of course some of us have our moments where our tongue slips and we have one of those "I really shouldn't have said that out loud" moments.
It is sometimes because of one of the two As, anger or alcohol or a combination of both, as some people who I have observed in my life. Of course, you can't really sugarcoat everything, as every statement could potentially offend someone. If everyone remained silent if they thought someone would offend someone, then the world would be mute. Yet there is a certain line that should not be crossed. Still not everything that you think should be spoken. There is opinionated and there is just more than people really should hear out loud. So thoughts aren't bad, no matter what the content but it's actually when they become more of a thought that get us in trouble.
2 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5500)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I have always practiced discretion in all of my communication, even to my parents and friends. There are times that people wondered if I ever opened my mouth or voiced my opinion without filtering it in my head and count the possible reactions from my audience. Of course, the main reason that I do this practice is to avoid offending people and in extension, avoid trouble.
I will admit that it is a bit restrictive, boring and I guess, a trample on my freedom of expression. I convinced myself that freedom isn't exactly a great tool nor a excuse to say inconsiderate or loose things. Poeple tend to be secretive about their private or their 'dirty linen'.
Perhaps it is a small compensation that I rarely get into trouble or confusion when I do open my mouth or write something. However, I miss the risk and the chance to see shocked reaction on things I don't say.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
28 Nov 11
There are times where I think that sometimes there is some great internal struggle. The need to say something but is it really worth it in the end? You might have shock value, you might cause people to be absolutely mortified but in the end, it really is not worth it a lot of the time. There are times where things have to be said but choosing spots wisely.
I know in the past, when I decided to be a bit lax about what I say, there were times where I made a comment, that really was not all that controversial, but you could have heard a pin drop. The entire room when silent. There are people who don't like you disrupting the Status QUo on many things. These days, I'm just going to sit back and listen. Of course, there are times where people do a wonderful job of burying themselves without me uttering one word. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 11
Hi,
I always find myself caught in this kind of situation. Most of the time I want to voice out my opinion but when I think of the consequences and the scenarios I might create that will give rise to a conflict, I rather keep everything to myself.
The two As'just might help us to get it off the chest but to channel our discontentment in such a way is totally unprofessional. It will only bring embarrassment and will not solve the issue. Some people cannot be turned around unless we speak our thoughts. Still, sometimes it cannot be done because not everything we think can be spoken.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Indeed the two As, whether one or both, can lead to a big T and that would be trouble. There are times where we may feel a need to gently break the situation but there are other times where it's just something where we are going to really find that it is just better off for us to keep our tongue to be something that is silent.
That is the tricky thing for many. Most know where to draw the line. Others do not and others yet rather tend to stand a long way behind the line, just to be rather careful. Not all thoughts are perfect, in many many times, we tend to hope that filter remains in check, before something we regret falls out of our mouth. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
