Got to change my swagger
November 23, 2011 11:32pm CST
I hate it that I get judged by people because of how I walk. My bestfriend tells me I walk like a man and she says people might think I'm gay or boastful because of it. But my way walking is natural for me and it is probably because I am bow-legged. It's not like I'm giving a statement or anything. I hate it that now, whenever I walk I try to walk on an imaginary straight line and add some sway on my hips so that it looks more feminine. I also bow my head a little just in case some one might think that I am acting high and mighty. It's just so sad that I have to conform to what society wants. Walk like how they want me to walk. I just want to be part of the norm, not outstanding and not an attention grabber. So I guess changing how I walk is the price to pay to be called average. any suggestions on how I can improve my stance?
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24 Nov 11
It's easy: Try to walk as straight up as you can. Place your foot like this: toe - heel - toe - heel etc (not the other way round). Lift your head when you walk (you can check this by laying a book at your head and see if you can walk with that straight up = body stretched out and head up in the sky). The last part is this: each step you push a hip to the outside (say in your head: swing left, swing right etc). If you are not used to it this might be hard and feel like overdoing see it as a good way to excercise as well. If you don't do the swinging part or have a hard time with it buy those high heels and practise inside. High heels are forcing your legs/hips in a different position and give you the right position/feeling how to keep your body. BTW you are partly right: the way we walk have to do with the shape of our legs, the way they are planted into our hips and if we have trouble over there is will be very hard to walk very female.
27 Nov 11
Thanks for the tips WakeUpKitty. this is actually the first time that I heard about the toe - heel pattern. Textbooks always say that it should be heel - toe but come to think of it, walking in heels kind of force you to walk like this. I guess it's a price to pay for being a woman
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24 Nov 11
Not really, but have you thought about asking someone else. I wouldn't just go on one person's opinion. She may be your best friend but she may not see things the way other people do. Maybe ask a male friend that you trust. Some men prefer women who don't walk or act too feminine. There are a lot of guys that flat out like tomboys even. Being yourself is usually more attractive anyway but do it with confidence.
24 Nov 11
Whatever you have got has come to you from your birth and its natural and so you can`t help it.Why should you bother what society or people say.Let them shout themselves hoarse to the rooftops.There is absolutely no need for you to justify yourself.So be carefree and get on with your life and don`t get worked up with what people say.Maybe you can try Yoga.It may or it may not help,but give it a shot,theres no harm in trying.
24 Nov 11
We're doing the same thing, I'm trying to walk on an imaginary straight line too most of the time. But the difference is that, I kinda swing a bit when I walk and I don't know about it. I just know it in college when they told me about it and imitate how I walk just to show me. I am not sure about now, But I feel I learned the art of controlling how I walk But we actually should not care about how people thinks about us. So if I were you just be yourself if you really find it difficult to change the way you walk.