Where are we?

@gxnfly (1147)
China
November 28, 2011 8:03am CST
Recently we always fight just for no reason,I don't know why.Last time he told me he didn't know why he just didn't know whatelse to say to me after this fight.I was hurt,I started questioning maybe he doesn't love me anymore.
6 responses
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Arguing doesn't mean the love is gone. But if this kind of situation continues for a long period of time then it is not healthy anymore. You should talk and set the matter straight.
@chiyosan (30197)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
we always think that when someone is not talking, then they must have not loved or they must have lost their feelings for us already... i guess let us just stop doing this to ourselves. we can fight and argue... but we should just leave some room for some silence rigt? i think you are in a misunderstanding right now, but fighting over some petty things should not be a reason why you would let go of your relationship.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
28 Nov 11
Fighting is no good. Arguing happens in any normal relationship. How much and how deep it hurts and how often it happens, that's another story. Who starts it and why?Is it a hormonal issue? Small things that don't matter, or small things not discussed in real time that add and the result is an explosion? Big things(house, car, vacation, family) that there is no agreement? If you are not committed/married, maybe the best way is to take a break and have time to account for your feelings. Can you live without him? Feeling better / relieved without him? Better analyze it now than later. if arguing became too much, once you marry, it will happen more and more. Are you willing to take this chance? The only person that can really give an answer to these questions is only you!
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I believe that in any relationship, fights/quarrels/misunderstandings are products of growing or immature relationship..These are expressions that shows our personal differences from each other. LOVE is the uniting peace that keeps your relationship going. Sometimes, when we have are pressured with some things we are not capable to meet, we have mood swings that lead to some petty argues or heavy fights. IF in a relationship the number of fights is greater than the good memories to cling together again, I guess it need more space to resolve everything. But, when after a fight, everything had been resolved then reconciliation is a big factor to forgive each imperfectness. In your case, you know what and where will your relationship goes..It this will lead you for something like a love worth fighting for. But, if you feel you are not growing in a relationship with him, then I guess, you should think things over than letting yourself be in big pain again. Better, have a decision that it not what you think only but proven so that you will have a better output.. Great time for all of us here
@cearn25 (3458)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Fighting is normal in a relationship. I had gone through that. It is not easy. Before you go into conclusion, let you hearts cool down first and try to talk to your partner the problem behind your fights. It is painful knowing that maybe your lover doesn't feel love. Clear it out.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
28 Nov 11
It's hard to fight in a relationship and even harder when it just seems like its over. It's possible it is over if you seem to fight all the time over stupid stuff. I went through that with an ex. We seemed to fight all the time over nothing and we'd come close to breaking up but then the fear of starting over made us hold on to it a lot longer then we should have.