are you very selective person in helping other??
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
Indonesia
November 29, 2011 3:11am CST
in many perspective, help each other is good attitude that we should involve in any life of us. I've meet many people who is very helpful and that's make me feel so appreciated and touched, but honestly I've meet others who is very selective to help other, include me.
FOr example is, Ali want to help Sari for every simple - hard thing because Sari is a Sales Manager in office, but in other side he don't want to help me because I'm just the outsourcing employee. He ignore me even I beg a help which I need so much
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Second example, Hardi need help to do his job because he think he was very busy and need help, in other side I see that he just want other to do his job, he want to be relax and think that his assistant able to do it ( think if I had the assistant, why do I have to hard working? ). I would not interested help this kind of person because in my eyes, lazy person not deserve my help and he should be able do his job by his self
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okay, I have to say I'm very selective to help people
, especially people in second case ( Lazy person ) or first case ( person who ignore me when I need help ). how about you??
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Second example, Hardi need help to do his job because he think he was very busy and need help, in other side I see that he just want other to do his job, he want to be relax and think that his assistant able to do it ( think if I had the assistant, why do I have to hard working? ). I would not interested help this kind of person because in my eyes, lazy person not deserve my help and he should be able do his job by his self.
okay, I have to say I'm very selective to help people, especially people in second case ( Lazy person ) or first case ( person who ignore me when I need help ). how about you??9 responses
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
do you have personal experience related your answer adhyz?/ or may be you had someone threat you like what I felt n chase no. 1 or 2?
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
Hi, Buddha,it seems like we have same perception here…
When helping people who don’t we really know, I would never take it mind since it’s kind of happy activities for me
. But with someone I know, I can’t lie that their past behavior to me would be very influence my behavior back to them. Do you have your own story related this discussion?? Or you might have same experience like what I’ve tell above?
When helping people who don’t we really know, I would never take it mind since it’s kind of happy activities for me. But with someone I know, I can’t lie that their past behavior to me would be very influence my behavior back to them. Do you have your own story related this discussion?? Or you might have same experience like what I’ve tell above?1 person likes this
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
woww, almost everyday?? why? do you live in unfriendly neghbourhood? 
so sorry to hear that. I hope someday those group of people would change their behaviour and understand that we need each other and start to help each other sincerely
so sorry to hear that. I hope someday those group of people would change their behaviour and understand that we need each other and start to help each other sincerely
@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Nov 11
I don't think that I am selective with the type of person that I help, although I will only help somebody if it is suitable and safe for me to do so at the time. For example, I probably wouldn't risk my own life to save a stranger, but I would risk my own life to save somebody who I know and love. If I was on my way to work and going to be late, I think that whether I helped or not would strongly depend on the severity of the situation and whether the person in need was in danger or whether somebody else would possibly be able to help instead of me.
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
don't you think your answer describe that you are selective too in giving help?? well, selective here is not always in negative case, it can be in positive case such as I probably wouldn't risk my own life to save a stranger, but I would risk my own life to save somebody who I know and love
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
hi, indah, how kind you are! and actually that's what I want to do, but in certain case since I'm very sensitive girl I can't controll my self to involve what happen in past and that's very influence me.but, I would very open my heart for new people
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
29 Nov 11
I always like to help people, even those I do not get along with. It just makes me feel good, and that is all that matters, even when your help is not appreciated. If I can do someting for anyone, why not? Maybe that person really needs help, and there is no one else who can help them.
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
hi taura, that's show how very kind you are! I'm very appreciate it. It's not easy for everyone to help each other sincerely after seeing that people behaviour/attitude in the present/pass.so, you had experience helping someone who had injured you in the pass sincerely?? tell me your experience
. It's not easy for everyone to help each other sincerely after seeing that people behaviour/attitude in the present/pass.so, you had experience helping someone who had injured you in the pass sincerely?? tell me your experience
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
hi, lemon, so you would be very selective n giving help for those kind of people?
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
I will observe what sort of help he or she need first. I won't help others if the job is hers or his job. Sometime, I am eager to help if I am free and don't have any works to do. I don't help people whom still new to me. In helping, there is mutually respect. You helped people and they'll be back to give you help. I will help as much as me. Thanks
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
Why do you don’t want to help people whom still new to you?? 
How if someone lost in road or go asthray then asking where is the road go to his place back?? Would you help him for free?
How if someone lost in road or go asthray then asking where is the road go to his place back?? Would you help him for free?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Hello redvakaurvaki,
I am sometimes selective too when in comes to helping a colleague. Initially I won't notice if someone is just lazy or really needed assistance. But as the days pass and I am getting familiar with everyone. I will start to get to know what and how they work. There are really people who have so much job assigned to them that needs help, but normally those are the people who are doing their job alone and superiors doesn;t seem to notice it. But supervisors and team leaders normally would easily get an assistant when in fact they don't have much job. And when they're given a simple job they would ask someone else to do it. Normally I have to work for them because I have no choice, they're superior to me so I have to obey them. But some colleagues who has the same job as I am, and spending their time on useless stuff are sometimes those that I don't want to help. Because if I can do my job and other jobs given to me, why can't they do their job too. Some are just so lazy and wanted to play at work only.
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
Hi, enelym001, I have many friend with type of character you’ve mention. We have the same level of job, the difference is only fact that he’s the permanent senior employee and I’m just the tentative, with low salary. It’s like a shame to tell that they have big salary and big responsibility but don’t want do their fully job which is sometimes is just simple thing. They ask other to do their urgent/ not urgent job and in other side they laugh, singing out loud and that’s all make me think that they are the most annoying ever
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well if someone didn't help you when you asked him for help then it is normal that you don't want to help him when he needs help.
But helping is not always something you do for others.Helping someone makes you a better person.Even though some people overdo it and spend all of their time trying to help others or serve others and forget to make themselves happy.I think that is very wrong too.
And yes I guess I am a bit selective too.
@redvakaurvaki (4217)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
I know helping other can make us a better person too, but just what you said that my behavior is still normal, and to be honest that’ s what I can do now. After long time, may be I can forgive the one who ignore me when I need help and help them anytime they need, but for me it’s not easy
