love or friendship
@nezavisima (7408)
Bulgaria
November 29, 2011 6:42am CST
love or friendship.
which to choose.
I have a friend who wants to be with me to be intimate with me to be more accurate.
I do not know my friend.
honestly want to be friends.
But what to choose love or friendship.
6 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
29 Nov 11
I am not able to follow possibly because I am very old.!!
You are talking about two people, is it not? Or you are talking about one friend who wants to become a lover? 
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
30 Nov 11
Let it continue as friendship only because confusion in this will not help the relationship. However you are the better judge in this regard.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
I should think so.
Our friendship is very important I want to appreciate ine lose it because of one night with him.
Thank you.
nice day!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
talk about a friend who wants to be intimate with me.
I wonder what to choose whether to stay friends or boyfriends to be what is best in your opinion.
Thank you for being involved in my discussion.
nice day!
@dellessimon45 (710)
• United States
29 Nov 11
You should suggest the friendship option and then tell them that if the relationship was meant to be then it will eventually build on you. If not, then make the friendship bond stronger, so at least he/she can feel more close to you!
I wouldn't recommend just going into the intimate relationship though because a break up can split the friendship and you really don't want that to happen if you guys are really close!
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
29 Nov 11
yes. here I understand you are talking about one friend only. You want to decide whether you should have friendship only or love with him. am I right now? Think, Think, Think and decide.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
Oh yeah I know but I do not know.
I can not decide difficult.
Yet a good friendship and not love.
because a friendship can last more than one love.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
It is not a friend.
I also think that we really should not mix friendship and love.
must remain friends.
friend because friendship can end in love but never a love of friendship.
Many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
let put the line here
Friends , Friends with benefits and love cuz the thing you describe is like that
I mean just intimate with you and he is your friend does not really ring a bell to be what i call love .
Well the decision is your but if you love him you can try and find out if he does to , but if he is just a friend to you i dont know why would you do that , but yet people do unknown stuff :)
Its whatever you decide we can just give you our opinion on what you typed us :P
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
not exactly you are very right.
I think if he really loves me I will show it.
because one can not love lies dalko and also love and friendship are two different things but often intertwine.
I can only thank you for that answer and advice.
nice day!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
not entirely true that is.
Thanks for the reply.
very hurt by love but also friendship.
terribly difficult.
importantly, however, is feeling good.
nice day!
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
friendship..if i know right from the start that i only want to be a friend to that person, then i will surely choose friendship..love can still be there..but not as intimate as the other person wants..i'll just make him/her understand things so that our friendship won't be wasted..
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
a proper friend.
I think it is better to be intimate friends than to have some love.
I think you are very right.
friendship is something very nice and pleasant thing, and not worth replacing it with something else.
Thanks for the reply.
nice day!
@jennastewart2482 (357)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Do you not want to be with him because you're not attracted to him or what? If you're not attracted to him physically, then I don't see the point in trying to date him and I would just stick to friendship.
Now, if you ARE interested in him but are scared to love then I'd say jump for it and dive head first into it. Love is an amazing feeling.
One of my favorite quotes is "I'd rather be your lover than your friend...but I'd rather be your friend than you nothing"
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
To a friend I like it and love it but only as a friend.
But honestly, sometimes I think that if it continues it may fall into the trap of love.
Yet also I want to stay friends because it washes very well.
Thanks for the reply and advice.
nice day!
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 11
hi there nezavisima, since you felt that you wanted to be friends more than lover. Then you should just tell him that. Although you may worried that it will damages your friendship, a partner request is not something that you can just say okay to in order to comfort that person. It will affect you emotionally in the future. So choose wisely.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
many thanks for the advice friend.
So really we just need to keep our friendship because such an intimate relationship can hurt our friendship.
I respect our friendship and tell him that I wanted to just remain friends always.
Thanks for the reply.
nice day!
