When people ask you.. What's wrong???
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30186)
Philippines
November 30, 2011 6:38am CST
Do you always tell them what's wrong and what is bothering you? When you show (unintentionally) that you are troubled and people can tell and ask you what's wrong and how you were doing... Do you find the courage or the chance to tell them what's really going on? Especially for people we care about, if that particular thing that is bothering us concerns them?
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5 responses
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
30 Nov 11
I have been going through a lot lately and some really good friends of mine stoped by to see how things are going. I told them that there has been a lot going on but nothing in particular just yet. My friends and family are close and I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position where they would have to take sides. I'm still trying to wrap my head around all that is happening so I can't really explain all to them. I think once I'm able to really figure things out I will be able to tell them a little more. I'm glad that though to know that they care and are concerned.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
1 Dec 11
Thank you so much Chiyosan.Your discussion topics have been helping me to be able talk about what I'm feeling. I do think that it is such a wonderful thing to be apart of mylot where we can talk openly about what we are feeling or thinking. There aren't too many people that I can do that with right now that I feel comfortable with. I know a lot of friends and family mean well but a lot of them like to gossip as well. And I'm a conservative person. I don't get into other people's lives. I don't like people talking to others about me or my family. I know that with time things can get better, and if my situation doesn't think I will have to adjust my attitude. So it's something I will be working on for my happiness as well as my daughters.
@NatashaBird (640)
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2 Dec 11
I rarely tell people what's wrong, partially because I hate to make myself appear vulnerable and partially because these things that people feel the need to do to help you feel better always make me feel worse.
For example i hate people hugging me, at times i can't even stand to have people too close to me, and yet people still feel the need to force me into a hug when they can see something's wrong. It's gotten to the point that i've actually been distressed and actively struggling to get away but they've just held on. I'd rather suffer alone in silence than be subjected to peoples' "comfort"
Birdie -
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
1 Dec 11
Hello Chiyosan. Yes, I often do, but that all depends on who the person is and what my problem is. If it would be sensible, and if it would be of mutual interest and benefit, then I would certainly say what's wrong. I would tell the truth and the facts to people who care about it, indeed.
@dodo19 (48156)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
30 Nov 11
It depends. Sometimes, I will say something. I will say what is bothering me, but I won't always say what is bothering. I will tell some people what's wrong, but there are some people that I just don't feel comfortable telling them what's wrong.
@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
It depends on who's asking. It's good to talk about our problems with close friends and family. It's a way of venting and getting good advice and suggestions as well. However, there are times when we're not ready to talk about it. Then, I'd say that as of now, I need to be alone to think about it.
