have you ever cheated on someone you love?

United States
December 1, 2011 3:38pm CST
have you ever cheated on someone you love? i have a friend she is always cheating on her boyfriend she always tells me that she loves him and that the other guys she does mess with don't mean noting to her. can this be true can you love somebody and cheat? because when he tried to break up with her she acts crazy she starts crying and keep on begging him to take her back or she would try to hurt herself and i never see her act that way for no guy. so have you cheated on someone you love?
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13 responses
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I think your friend is telling to truth, she really likes her boyfriend, maybe because he is an ideal man to marry but, his boyfriend must be lacking something which maybe is the reason for your friend to cheat on other guys, then again your friend may have some issues about men. well who am I to judge her. I personally, made my girlfriend jealous at times just to check how much does she trust me. But i haven't been doing nasty things behind her back. Maybe because I don't want her to do that to me. I guess the golden rule of Confucius "do on to other's what you want others to do on to you" has anchored within my head.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
2 Dec 11
Woah! How can your friend do such a thing? And when you mentioned how she would harm herself for the poor guy to take her back is simply just overboard already! Does the guy know she's cheating? If I was him, I would just let her go a long time ago but she is really over the top! She's playing around with other guys while in a relationship and she claims she loves this guy!? Does he have something she wants that she can't let him go? Really, if I was in love, why would I go seek out other partners? The person I love would be everything to me. Love is suppose to bring happiness and fulfillment, not tantrums and crying over nothing. Your friend has a very dysfunctional relationship with the poor guy. Now if the guy had an open relationship and agrees to her playing around then I guess that's alright but from what you said, I guess the guy doesn't approve of it. A relationship and love is about unity between two people. It's only between two people, no one else. Playing around is evidence that there's a problem with their relationship. I don't understand your friend.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 11
I have to cheat someone whom I loved. estistveno he did not understand but I m always trying me this story. but now I understand that this was not just a love and attraction. But I think when a person who truly would not have cheated. so that when love is 100% I would not have thought about cheating. interesting discussion. nice day!
• Iraq
2 Dec 11
I never cheat on my lover, because i know what is the foundation and the ensure of the relationship. as your friends situation, frankly speaking, i really, really do not like, what is love? what is meaning of love? if her just wanna play with fire or something, and keep dong this endless, one day, finally her will heart herself. i am not swear sb. i just wanna say that we must with some faith for love, is that right?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Well I don't know how to describe your friend. But I think she enjoys hanging out with other guys but love her boyfriend too. Not sure whether that is love, or she just don't want to lose her boyfriend because the guy is maybe the marrying type for her. I have never cheated my boyfriend and I don't think I will. If in any case, I went out with a different guy my boyfriend will know that because before that happen I will tell him first that I have to meet this one guy.
2 Dec 11
I never cheated on any of my relationships. I don't want to be cheated neither. Your friend may have problems with relationships. It would be better that you support her and just don't follow her example. Also, it would be better for her to see a professional. That could help her a lot.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
1 Dec 11
No never have, I guess when I love some one then they are the centre of my world, I guess I am jus a one man woman giving 100% to one.
@dodo19 (47113)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Dec 11
I honestly could never cheat on someone that I love. I couldn't justify doing such a thing, especially when you truly love someone. No matter what the reason, I couldn't bring myself to do such a thing.
@GemmaR (8517)
1 Dec 11
I have never cheated on anybody so far in my life, and I know deep down in my heart that it is never something that I want to do. I honestly don't think that if you love someone you would be able to do something that was likely to hurt them so badly. If you don't want to be in a relationship with somebody, then you should at least have the decency to tell them rather than just having an affair behind their back; because it is that which is going to hurt them more than anything else when they found out about it.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
1 Dec 11
I think your friend is a manipulative bi*ch :P But well its the guy that suck here . I mean if it was me the first cut on cheating will be , we are done and you know its your fault so do whatever you like . And no i cant sacrfice my hapines for someone that cheats on me and even if i somehow 0,00001% chance to forgive her she does it again . But anyway about me - i can clearly say NO and NEVER WILL because i know my self and thats one of the things i can say never . I dont think i can get attracted even sexually by some other girl when i'm far too much addicted to my girlfriend , but even if that somehow happens then there is a problem and if i ever happen to go with the dessirable girl i will break up with the current one . But well thats just teorical i dont think it will happen , i'm way too devoted to a single girl that i'm way to blind for the rest of the world .
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I never cheat in my entire life when it comes to romantically affair. I do have 9 boyfriends before the man I marry but I never did cheat. And I do accept them one at a time. I am afraid of "bad karma", and it's not a good practice because when you cheat ones, you might do that thing again and you will be fund of it because you think you only knew it and they (partner) will never know because your careful enough to hide secret.
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I never did cheat. I have been cheated but never would I do that to others. I know how it hurts and I don't want anybody to feel how I felt. Is your friend does have any personality disorder? I guess she has, why is she acting in that manner?.
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
noway, cheating is a curse in any relationship. you're not just disrespecting your partner but also you're disrespecting yourself. when someone cheats it's already the end of it and no more discussion. no matter what reason there is to tell.