Do you live in the past??? How good it is???

@mr_pearl (5018)
India
December 1, 2011 7:10pm CST
My dear fellow myLotters... Have you ever lived in the past? How does it feel? Is it good? Let me explain how I feel about it, let me give my own experience... I'm 29. I live alone. Have limited no of friends & limitless solitude. MyLot helps me keep it cool. I have never needed to look back in the past because I live with it. My childhood! I'd play with my friends and my brother, we'd have small fights and arguments. We stand for each other too.it was fun, life was easy. I remember it all. It is still alive in my memory.. My first love! We used to stay together all the time. For years, I had a job, which I can't mention and yet I am so proud that I've been there. I made a lot of money out of it. I remember my colleagues, who're no more.. I still live with 'em. Have you experienced this? How does it feel? Is it good or gloomy? How do we find it out??? Please share... I've begun to doubt my sanity...
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
2 Dec 11
I am living in the past actually and it is not helping me move on in life. I just think about all the things in the past and wish time would go back again. I have seriously lost it i think at times.. I dunno why letting go of the past is so hard for me. Do you think living in the past is a good thing?
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hello Miss.. I don't think it is a good thing. We should not dwell in the past unnecessarily... It'd stop our growth... Might make us invalids. I know it is not correct and yet, it keeps coming back to me always... :-(
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
3 Dec 11
Thanks a lot Miss... Yes, we are going to need a lot of luck.. Lets try to be brave and courageous...
• South Korea
3 Dec 11
I feel you.. Yeah I think we should stop dwelling in the past and move on with our lives. Good luck to the both of us
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
2 Dec 11
Some people's past are good and there is no bad effect from it, but with some others, things that happen in the past had a negative effect and they are influenced by them. In fact, those things that happened are so burtful that they cannot get over them. That is what I feel.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
7 Dec 11
Hi ... Thanks a lot for sharing... I think I have been going through the good and bad times from the past... I enjoy remembering the good moments and I feel awful while remembering the bad ones... :(... And I know I need to stop that... I'll try... Thank you!!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I have never tried living in the past; I am always looking forward to what my life can offer me, actually. Most of the time, I do reminisce my past but never to the point of me not being able to move forward and just think of the past.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hello friend thanks a lot... I really do not wish to indulge in the past.. It is hateful to me. Past has been mixture of a little happiness and a lot of sad moments... And I don't get into it always, but it keeps coming back...
@dodo19 (47110)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
2 Dec 11
I find that it can be difficult to live in the past sometimes. Sure, it's nice to do when you have a happy life, filled with pleasant times and memories. But it's not always the case, especially if you have had hard times. Living in the past can certainly present its challenges.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hi Dodo... Thanks a lot for your advice.. Past hasn't been very happy... It never is, I suppose.. Indulging in the past is not really happy for me, but it keeps coming back to me on its own... :-(
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
2 Dec 11
Yes, i do live in my past as well because they brings me both good and bad memories. Whatever it is, they are all in the past. Right now, i'm living for the future. I don't bother about the present because present is shorter than our future, and past is the longest phrase of life out of all. Everyday, every moment is a past so why need to go so far back to childhood or recent memories right? Stay to your future and u would be much happier.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
3 Dec 11
Hello Miss... Your post is really encouraging.. Everyone believes to living in the present, but I need to look forward to future and live for the future. I think that'll take me out of it... Thanks a lot Miss.. Have a good day!
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@joni1215 (394)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Yes, I discovered some time back that i too was guilty of living in the past. It just happened and I thought it was just being haunted but it was me doing the haunting. It's not easy to stop doing this. I think I developed this habit as a child as a way to escape to another time. I have practiced remembering the past so I could hang in to loved ones , hear their voice, see their face. And one day I realized that is why my present is somewhat empty because I am not really here. So, I now practice being in the moment. Like I said it's not easy and it does take work as my mind still floats back. I have to just keep bringing myself back to now and reflect on all the good things. And make more of this time. Because when I was living those times they were not that great. It's just the loved ones I miss.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
3 Dec 11
Hi Joni... You seem to read my thought processes. Yes, this is how I go to the past- to escape, to see n hear people who are not with me. This is how it happens and do whatever I can, it doesn't stop... I need to take control of things now.. Thanks a lot...
@dong88 (795)
• China
2 Dec 11
Hello! The past whether good,or pain,is past. I have ever liked remember the past,indulging in the past,then I see,the past will never again,important is now,I will never indulge in the past. Happy every day!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hi Dong... I understand what you mean.. It can be dangerous to indulge in the past.. You're right... I don't like to indulge, but it comes on its own...
2 Dec 11
I know waht your feelings . Long time ago when I break up with my girlfriend , I can not accept that and I had a terrible life during that time . But now , I think I am growing up and I have this as normal . When I break up with some girls again , i will never feel sad and I know that will happen one day and we should have an open mind on it . So ,my firend ,be srong and you will find a good life there waiting for you .
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Thanks a lot Leon... I really need to be better... Actually, I've been through this once and I ought to be stronger, but somehow it does not work... I need to find something else...
@Palma138 (18)
2 Dec 11
The past is both heartwarming and mind wrecking so many good times from the past which surely override the bad but one such as myself can't look back and not see the regrets for all the things that i have done but foremost the things i should have done and all the missed opportunities in life with people or things.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hi there... Thanks a lot for sharing... There have been bad times in my past too and whnever I remember those, I feel guilty and I try to wipe them off.. It is depressing...