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@Iemon1 (123)
Singapore
December 4, 2011 9:12pm CST
Hello fellow myLotters, Have you ever met any friends who tried to backstab you? I have and it was a very traumatizing experience. Would you still want to befriend that person and give him a chance? Or would you ignore him totally and never give him a chance to go close you? How precious how friends to you? Do you have a backup friend in case things like this happens?
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@menzis00 (273)
5 Dec 11
I did experience it once. My best friend whom I've known for 10 years started to talk trash behind my back because he was jealous that I got a girlfriend and he thought that she was more important to me than him(which is not true). I told him I found out what he was saying and we had a big fight, after that I gave him several chances but he just didn't stop it. He betrayed my trust and destroyed our life-long friendship. Now I see him everyday since he's in my school but we just rarely communicate. It's really sad how persons can change and how friendships that you thought were as strong as diamonds can just fall apart so quickly.. But he just crossed the line, I gave him too many chances, and he never even said sorry..
@menzis00 (273)
17 Dec 11
True that, I gave him way too much chances, I see now he just isn't good for me to be my friend anymore, it's way better this way than to just constantly argue and have fights with him.. There are other better people than him :D
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Oh yeah, tell me about it. I had this so - called "friend" before. He is a phony, and a scammer. Lately, I found out that he not only scam me, but another person who I get a chance to know to. What kind of person is he I just wonder? And to answer your question, I would definitely not gonna be friend with him anymore. Nor I will get close to him. If I will have a chance in the future, I will definitely try to backstab him on his back, see how he gonna handle it.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I am very selective about people that I let close to me. It is because of such experiences that I have this guard up. I am not one to let someone back in if they do something to purposely hurt me. I am pretty laid back and understand that people make mistakes but not so understanding about the ones that are hurtful. In my opinion if they are hurtful people, they are not the kind of people I want around me in the first place.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Friendships are not always easy relationships to handle. One a friendship is strong it can be everlasting. when a friend turns out to be a backstabber, it can be hard to find the trust to keep the relationship. Finding the courage to trust again when you are hurt by a friend can be one of life's most difficult challenges.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Dec 11
Oh yes and I find it so coward cause they know us and can't do that after some trouble. I realized I had 2 or 3 friends in my life that I loved like sisters but they became jealous. What they done after getting some distance was preatty disturbing. But I didn't accept it quietly, they don't mess with me now.
@br3ndy (468)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 11
I have same experience like you before. I have a friend who really nice to me when there are only the two of us together. But when he is with his other close friends, the two of them try to ignore me or even try to pissed me off together. I really hate them both that time, and i tried to avoid them that time. Now i'm not really hate hime anymore but i still can't make him my close friend anymore, just a normal friend.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
5 Dec 11
No-one needs friend like this, everyone needs to be around positive people they can trust, it is better to have just a few friends you can trust rather than many friends.
@webgirl01 (689)
• United States
5 Dec 11
I have met some friends who backstabbed me, but this was so junior high and high school. I don't know about befriending that person and giving him/her chance. It depends. If they just like purposely backstab me to ruin my life many times, then nope. But all I know is I have to forgive those who hurt me. Also i don't have great leadership in backing up a friend, i think its because i don't seem to have self-esteem to stand up for myself. Too many things going on for that situation. I don't know if i have a backup friend. I don't know who can back me up and i'm not a person who can be blunt to a person and tell them off and to defend myself. Sometimes that is what i feel. Other wise I feel, its hard for make real friends thats why I'm a loner or quite person. I can make friends and be friends, but I don't have a super close friend all the time. I try to limit myself because i feel alone and also i don't want to hurt others and i don't want to get hurt by others as well.
• Indonesia
5 Dec 11
Hi..there. I don't have a friend like that. It'd be very hurting to know that your closed friend did back stabbing you. I didn't want to have a friend who have doubled personality and strange behavior. I wouldn't say that a friend like that are not deserved to be called as friend.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
Actually, the one who back stabbed me was an office mate that i am not that close with. But she's at an HR dept. So when, she back stabbed me, i confronted her and we really had a heated exchange of words. So, we were called for an investigation about the matter and we were warned not to do it anymore. She was the one who provoked me, yet she didn't say an apology, but i did asked for one for pointing my fingers at her out of my anger. Now, i am just civil with her, although i never ever share any story with her anymore and so with some employees in our company.
@bostonphil (4459)
• United States
5 Dec 11
I have had very bad luck with friends. I have had more than one friend backstab me, not try but actually stick the knife in. It devastated me. I have managed to survive but it was a long haul back. I spend a lot of my free time alone now and am more peaceful than when I had a lot of friends. I would never trust a former friend who backstabbed me or tried to. Friends were very precious to me and I miss having close friends. But it is better to be alone than to have false friends.
@EavesJ (95)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Yes I too trusted my brother at one time, who was above all my friend. I worked the whole summer to enroll us both into karate classes. He took me to 2 classes and then told me he wasn't taking me anymore, that he didn't want do karate anymore, after i bought everything and we signed up.
@EavesJ (95)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Depends on how bad I got stabbed, whether or not I'd give another chance. First thing tho, is if this person is really my friend, then they would never ever think about doing me wrong in any way. Friends look out for one another in durring the times we need them most. I've had one or two people in life do me wrong. I'll give you one of them, it was my own brother, who was above all my friend as too. I used all of my money I had earned from my summer job to enroll us into karate classes, including the karate gees and everything. He took me to two classes and then told me he wasn't taking me anymore. I was crushed.
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
I've got one like this. A person whom you treat right and yet after you left and not around they back stabbed. i was totally hurt when someone do this to me. My anger last i think around 6 mos. and i felt so bad, then after that i decided that i will leave everything to GOD. He knows what is best for all of us and decide that revenge is not mine but HIM. I do have many friends and my friends stand by me all the time.