Spoiled brats and their love for the parents..genuine?
By eljayo
@eljayo (1105)
Philippines
December 9, 2011 12:47am CST
Hi guys! I was just wondering if a spoiled brat can still be able to love their parents even if they won't give their wants? I know somebody who has always been her daddy's favorite and all her want were given by her dad. She was never disciplined by her dad since childhood and if her mother would discipline her she developed this attitude to tell it to her father so that he would scold her mother or her brothers instead. Her parents even became separated because of her being hard headed and her mom got so sad and desperate because all were blamed on her including her daughter's attitude well in fact she did her best to discipline her. She loves her daddy so much, now they have become closer because her mom is gone and her life revolved between her dad and boyfriend. She never texted her mom since she left their home and even if her dad was a womanizer and hurt her mom still she loved her dad and did not even tried to protect her mom. And when her mom visits them she would not even say hi to her and will just snob her. And I felt what if her dad will not give her all her wants and all the money she wants will she still love him and be with him? this is a very sad story and very alarming. I just hope when she will have her own family her children will not treat her the way she treated her mom.
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6 responses
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
10 Dec 11
Your story sounds worse than just a story about a spoiled brat. She is not a girl anymore (you tell us that she has a BF). I think that she has been raised to be so self centered and selfish that she has no room for others (even her dad) in her heart. She will not be able to have a normal family ever because she doesn´t seem capable of thinking about not hurting other people´s feelings. Pity! I blame it mostly on her father, but blames are worthless
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
11 Dec 11
Only life will have to teach her some lessons the hard way. Noone but herself can make her change at this time of her life.I would stay away from such person though. She can be very dangerous to others and to herself as she knows no limits.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
Hi marguicha! Yes she has a boyfriends and she spends most of her time with her. She sleep with him at his home on weekdays and he sleeps with her at her home on weekends. Her dad tolerates it all. If she does something not right, its okay with him but if his brother committed a mistake he be punish. I don't see any justice and love in here. Now that shes a grown up it will be more hard to correct things because the foundation has been built but I hope a miracle will happen to her. You are indeed very right, its too late too blame and its also worthless. The damage has been done but I hope a miracle will really happen.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I am not sure but the way you described her... I think she will ignore her dad when he's not able to support her. I also think that if her dad becomes old, sick and disable, she might just place him on hospice care.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 11
I think their love is genuine, yes. I also think that parents who spoil their children also love their children. However...I think it's fair to say that some discipline is a double portion of love. If you discipline your child, you give them a sense of boundaries. And this is good in later years...because people who respect other peoples boundaries tend to be respected themselves; and well-liked; while people who don't can be unpopular. Do parents want their children to be unpopular with others? Of course not...therefore it's wise to discipline them, to provide them with character; moral fibre. People with character tend to be very well respected and liked; and they do well in life, because they have perseverance, the ability work hard and achieve goals. While people who are too used to everything tend not to be so hard-working and determined to succeed...and this can cause them great grief in later life...even if the easy life may be lovely for a time. Parental discipline is a great investment for any child.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Hi to both of you. Giving what you children want is an act of love for them but I think tolerating their bad actions and not disciplining them is not an act of love. I really appreciate my parent's discipline for me now that I am a grown up. When I was a kid till teenager, I got stubborn sometimes and now I really understand why my parents have to scold me at times and I would want to do the same for my future children.
every parents love their children..But parents must show their love to their children in a right way.. @cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Much worse is a girl that text message someone else dad to support her, give her money, etc. and uses the word love in her texts so that she would not be denied. Now the child by that dad she controlled does not get anything from his parent. I'm discouraged to say that the girl has been successful.
@surfer222 (1713)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
In past discussion, i've read about "mama's boy" and i'm wondering weather there's similar condition when it was a girl... well in this case maybe we can call this girl a "papa's girl" 
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I had a good laugh reading your last words1 person likes this
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
i can't see any reason why she must hate her mom..Is it because her mom not spoiled her?..very childish attitude..I feel so sad for her mom..I feel hurt if my daughter treat me that way.But i also feel lucky because i cant see any sign that my little girl will treat my like that..
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Hi! I think its because her dad was a womanizer after many years of crying fro that she tried having relationship with other guys and she could not accept it. But I am a bit confuse why she never got angry to her dad and got really angry to her mom. They both cheated on each other. But I think its still not a valid reason to act like that on her mom. This is really sad. Well good for you,continue to guide your child and be a good example to her. :))
