How do you handle "jealousy"

Philippines
December 9, 2011 4:56am CST
Good day mylotters, In our relationship they can't losing jealousy, maybe presumably it's including to both partners, because if your not jealous in your partner possible you did'nt love her/his, right? Actually Me are too much jealousy, i was angry to my partner,if i saw him that talking to women, I've shown him that i hate him, so he realized that i'm jelous, but he explain me so much to loose my mad. Have you shown to your partner if you are jealous and what did you do?
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
No, i don't think jealousy means you love a person and neither does it mean vice versa. Like when you love someone it should not be a jealous kind. I've experienced that jealousy when i see my BF talking to other girls. when i see that they are deliberately flirting with each other and when i find the girl obnoxious, i would tell my BF immediately about it. I was so mad that time, i wanted to burn the girl's hair(I'm not kidding, i might have done her a favor, since her hair looked like the dirty and tangled straws of a broom) that was for my past BF who was real flirty. my new BF is kind and very loyal to me, so I don't get mad at him for being nice to other girls. i feel jealous but i don't want to get mad at him, so i tease him instead. a little advice, heartCJ, don't be too jealous. that could ruin your relationship with your partner. my past relationship ended badly because of that, don't want something like that to happen to others.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
9 Dec 11
You just said it your self , that its something in nature , and how you tell someone to not be jelous ? when its part of them and part of their nature ?
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
hi, jealousy is natural and normal in one person,because it is a feelings,jealous is not only in a relationship but also in work,actually when it comes to jealous i cant really control my self that will cause to hurt feelings and sometimes is angry,if i am jealous to my partner for sure i am angry on him.
@leanette (3002)
• India
21 Dec 11
This maybe strange but I like it when my partner is jealous, it proves he loves me a lot! But he doesn't like it when am jealous, just asks me to trust him more otherwise the relationship won't work! lol
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
i am a jealous person too. and i lay down that attitude with my husband even before we got married. he already know that i am jealous, and much as possible, he's helping me to get over with it, by assuring me that he love me most. and i am glad that i felt it. although, there are times when i still feel jealousy, but those rare times, he would be there for me, comforting and assuring me that i am being loved. this attitude is annoying sometimes, and so i tried to eliminate it, i am helping myself not to get jealous, and unlike before, i am less jealous now. i think it is a sign of maturity, and i am glad that i am mature enough to handle the feelings.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Jealousy is not bad, my friend but it must be in good place. Not all the time we feel jealousy because it is not good...It will force our partner to go away or do something we are jealous about... I am a jealous person but I make sure my jealous is proper not just a jealous of selfishness...
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
A relationship that based on trust and honost won't think a jealous as a matter.But all depend on the individual itself. If I were you, I would told to Him about what you have feel and ask Him not to shown everything that might make you jealous. Also explained to Him not to get mad when you get mad.
@derek_a (10874)
10 Dec 11
Jealousy can be a very destructive emotion. When I was younger I can remember feeling jealous, but it is not happy place to be. One day, I got to thinking that whatever happens, happens and there is nothing I can do about it, so it's a waste of energy fretting over how other people are going to feel. Feeling change on their own, nobody really has the power to force their feelings to stop. As a Zen practitioner and therapist, I have helped many people handle jealousy through meditation techniques. When we meditate regualarly, feelings get quieter and we learn to live life with greater acceptance. _Derek
@GemmaR (8517)
10 Dec 11
I think jealousy is good in one respect because it at least means that you love your partner and feel strongly enough about them to not want to lose them from your life. However, jealousy can be rather damaging to a relationship if it gets too strong, and this means that you really do have to do something about it if you feel that it might be getting a little bit too far. You should remember that your partner has chosen to be with you, so you shouldn't really be jealous about anybody else that they might choose to talk to.
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
I learned that jealousy is not good for our health. It doesn't mean that that I don't have sense of feeling jealousy towards others, and jealousy increasingly encouraged me to do something for myself. I think that I can do better than him and others. I take the jealousy of the positive side only.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I will walk away if she already talks too much to her friends and already seem to ignore me.I will talk to other friends I know and will show to her that she is not the only person I know until she knows that needs me.
@devi53 (347)
• India
10 Dec 11
Hello Heart, I think all will have the feeling of jealously if we saw our partner is talking too much to a woman.All men say to loose our jealously but if we talk too much to a man will they like that.I will have also such feelings of jealousy if my husband mingle too much to a woman
@kaichoukebz (1190)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Jealousy is a part of a person's life. You cannot diminish it but you must learn how to control it instinctively. There are certain circumstances in life in which we tend to become jealous of something. It is just normal for a human being. Without jealousy, there is no room for improvement. Jealousy helps us to become strong and sturdy. Yes, I had shown to my partner that I am jealous sometimes when she is surrounded by boys. Though I think it is normal, still I accepted it because I know that she loves me so much more than them.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 11
I sometimes do. especially when I notice that my girlfriend is quite close to someone, relying on that guy on matters. I would tell her nicely that I notice that she is quite close to that guy and check out her reaction. I'll act upon her reaction.
• United States
9 Dec 11
jealousy is a "waisted" emotion, a fake or counterfiet emotion turn your feelings into what they should be, if you truly love someone and they truly love you then you trust each other if you do not trust each other then there is something missing which you will replace with a counterfiet feeling "jealousy" If you love something you must set it free and if it loves you it will come back! Ever heard that before well its true free your self of jealousy and trust this persons love and you may find true happiness in your trust and theirs
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
9 Dec 11
Well i too am one too much Jealous person :P But well i thin thats natural and someone thinking there are people that are not are just lying themselfs . Its only that if you can hide or at least not show it most of the time . If my girlfriend don't like as it is something natural for me , i will show it a lot less . But if she likes it i will just be myself and say what i want to . Its not a big deal to hide it , its just you are trying to lye to people and yourself that you or your partner is not jealous . Well since i had only one relationship , she took it normally and it was not very charmed by it , but she liked making fun of it a lot . So i think it was not that bad , even maybe good . And that show that you care .
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
9 Dec 11
how to deal with jealousy. Well I can say I'm jealous heme and heme not. jealousy is a very terrible jealousy is a disease. I often try not jealous because it's a disease they seized and no salvation. I feel jealous when you just soldered to think of something else. nice day!