The Cheating Gene?

United States
December 9, 2011 6:29pm CST
I found myself watching The Biography channel's show on why men cheat and a scientist said there ia a cheating gene. Men with this gene are more prone to cheat. I thought Oh Well now men will have another excuse to cheat and women another reason to label All men cheaters! I think it is more about society than biology.You are told you are suppose to get married and Never see or be with anyone else, Ever.But not How to keep the relationship going. And sadly when Some men feel bored or un appreciated , they cheat. Biology has very little to do with it.Your thoughts.
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
10 Dec 11
Now there's a gene for cheating? Really? I thought it was more of a psychological thing made through decisions and choice. Like, a man has the choice to cheat or not to cheat, if there was a gene like that then men with these genes will end up lonely with no committed relationship. It's not like sexuality or a mental disability because cheating is a choice right? Maybe it could be but that would simple be horrible for the ladies. I guess men tend to get bored in relationships and men don't like to be pressured, they simply want a simple life where they don't have to do much. I remember a friend told me that women mature way ahead of men and men don't mature until later so I guess some guys think like a child. Like how kids expect someone to take care of them and not have responsibilities placed on them. Some men are like this, some are not but I reckon the bigger proportion are like this. But really guys are just going to get into more trouble if they cheat, what's the point? It's pretty selfish and unfair to the women. Some men are so rude
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• United States
12 Dec 11
I will be with my guy for our part of forever. I Know if I were marry him, the love I have for him will die instantly. So I choose love over the ring and paper. But there are many who dream of the wedding and don't care about how long the marriage lasts. Or they are so absorbed in the wedding plans that they don't focus on how the marriage is suppose to last. Why marry if you are going to cheat? Ok I include why marry period.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
11 Dec 11
Oh so you're not interested in the concept of marriage. Guess everyone has their views. Some people prefer marriage while others don't, marriage involve lots of paper work anyway But we always hear about news on gay marriage and people are making such a big deal out of. I guess it's all about commitment. You love someone so much you'll spend a whole lifetime with them. Don't you want that? I guess marriage isn't much a requirement to show your love as there are such things as de facto relationships where people can still have a family, have the financial benefits of a typical marriage but just without the ring and papers. But really, a guy shouldn't lie to a woman, even if he knows he's going to cheat anyway then what's the point of all the fancy dresses, food and the hope you gave everyone who was at the wedding?
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• United States
10 Dec 11
I think that things like that can be blamed on genes...but only to a certain extent. In some of the psychology classes I've taken, I learned that things like substance abuse and schizophrenia, even depression, can run in the genes. Whether or not the abnormality comes out depends a lot on the person's environment. I think it's a very small portion lies in genes. In my opinion, it comes more from the person's environment and possibly how they're raised.
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• United States
10 Dec 11
People will use the gene excuse even if it is true. And Syc9435 , I agree it Must be easier to just go up to your partner and ask what is going on.
• United States
10 Dec 11
syc, I never claimed to know everything. I was just responding to the discussion with things that I have learned while I've been in college. Yes, people I'm sure will blame it on genes just because it's easier to blame it on something else rather than own up to their mistakes. Even though links with genes have been studied, there's no proof that a certain gene causes something. So far, it's a lot of speculation and some conclusions based on long-term observations and studies of people.
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@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Hi there sarahruthbeth22! Well, unfortunately I think it's true and kind of runs in our family. All my uncles and even my grandfather are womanizers.Yup, that's right. It started with my grandfather who still cheat on my grandma and he's already 75 years old. I'm just so glad that my dad didn't got that bad gene, and we're living with no worries like I might have half-brothers or sisters. My uncles kind of got two families they are supporting. And my other uncle, who is a TV Host here in our country. He got 4 children, all first child from 4 different mothers and still until now he' and still other ladies fall for him. Ya, you're right, some men tend to cheat because they're bored, if not they just can't help themselves finding and meeting new people and also they can't control to be heart breakers. Hope some biologists finds a way to remove this cheating gene in a person. Haha, anyways, Have a nice day!
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
11 Dec 11
I doubt cheating has anything to do with the genes. Look, humans are another specie of animal. Although I was married and although I am a loyal person, humans were not meant to stay with one person forever. Like in the wild, animals go and impregnate as many females as they can. Now, I am not saying that it is okay for people to do the same, especially being that we do have the ability to think and reason. But it is the nature of the beast. Also, women also do the same thing.
• United States
11 Dec 11
I think marriage is a punishment. That wewere Suppose to be with as many as we want. True many will still opt for being with just one but others won't. And as long as the couple agree. I think it is the lying that is wrong with affairs , not the wanting another. But that's me.
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• United States
12 Dec 11
Funny she sounds like the wife I would be. Devious, evil, sadistic, and that is on a good day!
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
11 Dec 11
Well, along with the lying come the sneakiness and the fact of being devious. Like my evil ex. Nothing was upfront.
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• United States
10 Dec 11
I agree. I think that most men get bored with the day to day sameness that marriage brings on. Then there are the responsibilities that they have to deal with, the pressure to provide for their family. Not saying that this means it's okay for them to cheat just saying this is why most men cheat. That's not to say that all men do though. Women have been known to cheat on men too. Maybe not as much, but they do cheat as well.
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• United States
10 Dec 11
Most men are straight so husbands are cheating With women and some of them are married!
@ShyBear88 (59226)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Dec 11
I agree with you it has nothing to do with biology it does have to do with why we see is what we do. If a little boy see that his father cheaters or has know that his father has heated on his mother or step mother then they are more likely to as well. The same as women what children see they are likely to do themselves. Doesn't mean they will over time but it can be a factor as well as the relationship with the person they are with.
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• United States
10 Dec 11
Or they can see what is happening and do the complete opposite. My mom and dad Never cheated but I Knew if I were to marry, I Would have to cheat and so would he!
@ShyBear88 (59226)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Dec 11
That's what I said. They are more likely to cheat but I also said thu might not. I think you might have missed that part.
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• United States
11 Dec 11
Of course. It could go this way, a wife learmns hubby has the gene and spies on him 24/7 only to make him walk away . Why? He isn't nor would he Ever be a cheater.
• Canada
10 Dec 11
I agree with you. This seems to be yet another example of how the nature versus nurture debate has totally overlapped. I think you're right. When someone feels like cheating, they're just going to claim it's in their friggen genes, and then go and do what they want. I think that cheaters don't have the common sense to know what they want. If they want to be with multiple partners, be in an open relationship, don't claim to be monogamous, and do NOT get married (unless it's a consentual agreed-upon open marriage). People need to mean what they say, and say what they mean .
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• United States
10 Dec 11
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
10 Dec 11
not all men have that gene, and even if they do it does not mean they WILL cheat. Most women will not call all men cheaters because of it at all. Then if you want do read about how to have a good marital relationships there are thousands of books written on the subject. People who really want to know go and find the books.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
10 Dec 11
I know that hon,
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• United States
10 Dec 11
I want to remain happy , that means Never marrying!
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
Oh! How convenient! Now there is another thing to blame it on! Same as with all the ailments that we have now in society. And I suppose that we all just have to chant 'we're only human' while we blame it on the genes.
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• United States
15 Dec 11
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
10 Dec 11
I totally agree with you , but lets keep it real , for you you might see the men as cheating , but i do see only women and if thats a gene , then its perfectly transferable to women too , so there it is another excuse for women to cheat . I just like to put just one side there , when everyone is different and that some men cheat does not mean women dont ! But i think its mostly a personal issue , i as myself i know i will NEVER (On of less things i can say never because it snot going to happen) will NEVER cheat , i will rather end my relationship and then go do something such crazy , but i think this is so not worth it . And when i'm fully giving myself to a women , until she throws me away , i dont even care about the rest of the world . I think cheating is just problem that you got to deal with , or you do it or you dont . You know what will fallow next right ?
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• United States
10 Dec 11
No what wlll follow? I have two answers. If I have a boyfriend , then I'm like you , faithful and if my feeling change , I would break up Then see someone else. But if I'm married, stuck forever, I wuld have my favorites like I know he would too!
• United States
10 Dec 11
That's my point. I would never love a husband, so I wouldn't care if he is heartbroken or not. But know the B!tch I would be to him, he wouldn't care about me by the time he finds another. But I do love my guy. So I wouldn't cheat, why would I need to? And if he found someone else then it is over.He wants another and his happiness is what is important to me so I would let him go.no revenge needed.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
10 Dec 11
IF you cheat the next is the breaking apart , that the first thing you get in to mind when you do even consider do such act . And everything you do is having impact on your life and not only yours , but if you cheat then you are ready to break a part a meriage and break the hearth of the person you "love"
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@Rick1950 (1578)
• Lima, Peru
11 Dec 11
I agree, Biology has very little to do with, although people have different physical systems. I don't know if all men have that cheating gene and if this gene is more developed in some than in others. This matter is more about loyalty, and loyalty is inside located, it is not physical.
• United States
11 Dec 11
Really? I see it as only a physical thing. He wanted her and she was there. It has Nothing to do with his feelings for his wife.The one exception is if he falls for her. Once he loves the other woman More than his wife , then the bond is truly broken.
• United States
12 Dec 11
Being loyal shouldn't be a chore. And I Do think it is possible to find a perfect partner. And when you do find him/her you don't need anyone else. I'm there. Every male eye candy makes me Want my guy more. But then again I will never marry him. I can't see getting bored with or By him.
@Rick1950 (1578)
• Lima, Peru
11 Dec 11
Well, I think it's about loyalty, but how tough is to be loyal. However I think we should try to be like that way. If you have your partner you shouldn't cheat. Perhaps it is impossible to avoid it because we have feelings and sense and that's a permanent fight with ourselves.
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• India
10 Dec 11
Ah the scientist! Didn't it occur to him to say that about women-even to mention, that it CAN NOT be in women?. If it is spoken about humankind in general, then it may be a case that SOME groups do have it in their inherent nature to be insincere. It is insincerity that makes for cheating. You seem to hint about some specific instance/s of cheating when referring to society imposed practices but I could not relate well with that. I am not sure if you are talking about male chauvinism. If that's the case, then it is known to be associated with cultural beliefs prevalent in parts of the world.
• United States
10 Dec 11
Most men are Straight so they are cheating , With women! And many wives cheat too! No I was hinting at this concept of only being with one person Only. Many may love but Want others.Many marriages are open, meaning they can sleep with others.And many people shouldn't have gotten married period!
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
10 Dec 11
I think people cheat, because they don't know how to make a commitment or when they made the commitment they really were not ready for the commitment. Both men and women cheat equally and I think people should take their vows a little more seriously. If you are focusing on your family and your spouse, cheating won't even cross your mind and wouldn't even be an option.
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• United States
11 Dec 11
I diasgree. Many married people are committed to their marriage When they marry. They Want it to last forever but for some reason they disconnect. Every couple has the sticking point. For some it is lack of time together , others it is money . In any case they are far apart and then one day the husband or wife meet a person who Sees them or listens and they have an affair. True they could have thought No I won't and go home to be more distant but they don't. It would be nice if they could reconnect with their spouse but they don't. It has nothing to do with the lack of love , but in the broken connection.
@seemared (771)
13 Dec 11
I find that so surprising...it is possible that behaviors be transferred from dad to siblings but a gene? thats is quite weird for me to hear.. it is believable but still a gene?
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@youless (112007)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Dec 11
This is interesting. I agree with you. I don't really think that the cheating gene really that matters. If a person who has his own principles, he will not do something bad. The cheating gene is just an excuse. Besides, if the cheating genes are available, then there shall be also loyal genes, right? Has the scientists also found it? I love China
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
12 Dec 11
I also have a hard time believeing that it has something to do with genetics....I think it has more to do with circumstances. I don't know though as I haven't been in many relationships.....even though I am older! LOL
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
12 Dec 11
Seems like I read something about that. There was something to do with their instinct to reproduce as much as possible while women are more selective because of the amount of eggs they produce. It puts a scientific spin on it....lol...but now I have known some women that liked to test the water too. I'm not sure I think it is genetic either though. We could blame everything on genetics if we wanted too...lol..."I can be successful because I strived and wanted to be but I cheated because of genetics"
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Dec 11
I think that is a lame excuse! I don't think there is a cheating gene! I think,like you said,society has alot to do with it! I will always beleive that cheating in unexcusable and I always will! I think scientists need to do more importnat research thne seeing a man has a cheating gene!
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