Why parents pushed their child for study even they know child's life may be lost
By fantabulus
@fantabulus (4000)
India
December 10, 2011 8:52am CST
Yesterday I have seen the real story of Mumbai child in crime petrol. Her parents hopes are more and she got 89% but father was telling her she should get 98%, mother and school teacher, tuition sir all are forcing her everytime for study. No one try to know what she want. She also want to take more score but not promise and best student of the school among 3 best students. But she had no confidence to get 98%.
One day parents were out of house she came back from tuition and take the poison. Her life is lost what happen at the end parents lost their daughter and they have only one daughter.
Why parents do this? why they not understand the child is most important than any other thing. Study is not most important than life. Innocent child lost the life I am showing pic that is not real but you can see the small child how innocent.
9 responses
@wulania (1524)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
most parent wnat the best for their kids and they think if their kids have good score at school, good academc skill, or cognitive skill they will have better future or better jobs in the future. i am a teacher and i know how parents think about their kids. but actually i dont like their way of thinking. it is so danegrous for kids life social skill
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@fantabulus (4000)
• India
10 Dec 11
Yes they are changing the tuition in every month for doing better but she not feeling well every time changing tuition. But for future they lost the present. I am also mother but never pressure on my child I feel satisfaction with their percentage and only can say if you think you can do otherwise dont worry I am happy. No worry about college.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Dec 11
hi fanta.Oh thats so awful.an innocent child pushed so much
by her parents that she preferred to die rather than live
with them on her all the time to do better.Why did they not
realize she was already on the the best students in her class.
Didn't they realize a little child has to have more than just
studying in her life. this is so sad as her own parents sort of
killed her by pushing her when she was already doing her
best.Some parents are never satisfied at all. thanks for
great discussion Fanta hatley here[
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@fantabulus (4000)
• India
10 Dec 11
Yes auntie some parents never satisfied she got 89% in priliams but fathers was telling her in final exam she should get 98% when she said I will try father told her no try give me promise and she was worry after giving promise she think if not get then so she take this step. Her own parents are responsible for her life. Why the parents think only about their status in between others they not think about child feeling.
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
Initially, the goal of parents encouraged their children more active in learning for the sake of the children themselves. There are many millions of parents encourage their children, so that their children will live better than their parents and it turns out they failed with that method and the results child got depressed and stressed. I think there is nothing wrong with the wishes of parents encourage their children to study hard and smart, but as parents should pay attention to the capacity of the pressure on children. I think with this event, your as parents become material lesson for all of us.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
11 Dec 11
Yes many parents are encourging their child and help them in study so the child can perform well but some are only forcing the child and not pay the time for them. Only busy in kitty party, business etc. child feel alone and then take wrong steps.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
Those parents aren't real parents.They are selfish.They push their child to study so that they can be proud even if their child is already badly hurt.My parents are not like that.They don't force me to study too much but still tell me to study hard.Even if they aren't forcing me to study hard,I still study hard somehow to make them proud.It must be passion that drives the child to study and not the will of those strict parents.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
11 Dec 11
Yes you are right some parents are selfish and they think only about their status and compare their child with high scoring child and jealous and force the child to get more score. Not think about child feelings you are lucky your parents are not such.
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Dec 11
The reason why some prarenta do this is because they all these hopes and dreams for there kids Nd expect them to be the best at everything when they can't. A child can't do there parents best but there own best. I could ne'er get mad at my daughter for getting a B. As long as it above a 60 then she is passing her classes whe she is below. 60 I'll find out why she isn't passing and help her out so she gets a passing grade.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
11 Dec 11
But due to more expectation they lost their child this is good. They should trust on their child she/he can do it but not pushing daily and saying you should do you should do
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Dec 11
Every parent is different and they want many things for there children they feel the better the grade the netter life they will have. As a mom I understand that. My parents never told me and my brothers our grades weren't good enough. If it's above a 60 I would be happy as a student and as a mom I would be happy to see any grade above that 60 mark. Parets don't always know they are pushing to hard and it's not like there own child is going to tell then to stop pushing them they want to please there parents.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Sad to hear about what the child did to her life.
I do hope parents would guide them up and know their kids capacity in studying. We can't push anyone so hard. Besides, it's just a mark in their report card or exams, whatever it is. They should feel happy that their daughter has good grades, they shouldn't ask for more. Instead they should let the child feel that they are proud of her.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
10 Dec 11
Yes parents should guide her but they pressurize her for study. Their hopes are more. But at the end they lost the daughter.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
That is a truly sad story- unfortunately there are many parents who expect to much from their children to, even I have a classmate before who had similar parents. She was a really smart girl and she tried her best to get perfect grades but still her mother was not contented. 
She is doing great now- thanks to her friends and boyfriend, I am not really sure about the relationship with her mother though.
She is doing great now- thanks to her friends and boyfriend, I am not really sure about the relationship with her mother though.
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
On parents side, they only wanted what is best for the child. They want her to be in school because even how rich and poor the person is, education is the only treasure that no one can get it from you, it is yours. Being is school is one way of learning on how to became independent. Parents train us to be on our own because not all the times they are by our side. They are just thinking about our future. They are sending us to school to learn on how to read and write and to learn life also. Maybe the child did not understand why parents are working hard and why is education so impt.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
Those parents aren't real parents.They are selfish.They push their child to study so that they can be proud even if their child is already badly hurt.My parents are not like that.They don't force me to study too much but still tell me to study hard.Even if they aren't forcing me to study hard,I still study hard somehow to make them proud.It must be passion that drives the child to study and not the will of those strict parents.
